Looking back it seems like a lot of mega projection, especially when at the time her wardrobe changed, and she was into fitness. I'm all but certain looking back that she did have an A then. Will never know, and more importantly don't give two snaps and a fuck if she did.
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
We separated after the second DD with OW #2, and three days ago while cleaning out an old bureau drawer, I found a woman's business card from 5+ years ago with a the name and address of a hotel in another city, handwritten on the back. He had it hidden in his desk drawer.
Back to my saying: Liars Lie. He would never confess his A with OW#2 until I put the photo proof in front of his face. He wants me to think he's a good guy and insists he is not a serial cheater. It was "just those two", and only "because I was frustrating him."
WH swears this was the only time; that the only thing close to it was a friend's girlfriend kissing him (another drunken chubby blonde, exactly what I'm not).
I don't believe him. Too many things don't add up. He always had the means. We kept money separate. He always had the opportunity. I didn't mind nights out with the guys, and I used to work weekends and would travel alone at least twice a year to see my parents out of state.
Means, opportunity... I just didn't believe he had motive. Until D Day.
Now that I know that he's capable of being unfaithful I have no reason to believe he was ever faithful.
I'm still here because I believe people can change if they want to change. If he doesn't want to change I know I'm free to leave.
My WH claimed to only have one affair. What he is doing now he does not consider an affair. He very involved with another woman at this point in time. I say affair. He says not because she is his future.
The answer may lie in what he considers an affair. To me this line is clear, any emotional, or physical relationship I am not a part of.
I would bet he cheated before and got away with it.