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My Dday was a while ago and I can't remember when this statement was made, but Monster said this to me at some point.

He "supposedly" was at a conference/meeting and, according to him, some guy was acting all *hot shit* and cocked off with my titled statement.

My response to hearing this was: "A crying baby doesn't give a shit about how much money someone makes. That crying baby just wants comfort and to know that s/he's loved."

Monster has a seriously bad habit of *telling* me what he's done by recounting stories of mystery *others*......I seriously think that HE may have been the one who made that statement at that conference/meeting......

What a douchebag.

Yep, he's a total prick. I know he presented you with a mask, though, so it's not your fault you were with him. I mean, can you imagine if he had presented himself to you exactly as he is??? You would have laughed (or slapped) him off of the face of Earth!

What a douchebag

What he said.

My xWH did this, told stories about the bad behavior of others that I now realize are things he did. Thus now I have the knowledge of how he pushed a woman into a closet & fucked her when he was posted to Yemen.

It's weird though, how these memories pop up into your mind. It's disheartening realizing how long we both put up with such nonsense & gave these horrible excuse for men the benefit of the doubt.

My husband made a couple of jerk comments to me in the past year. I called him out on each one and he seemed to snap out of it when I did that and realize he was being an ass.

Now I suspect it was just part of his slew of justifications of why he was unhappy.

i.e. one statement. I am almost finished with graduate school and was in bad depression for about 1.5 years after the baby was born, very burnt out. I told him I would love to be able to stay home with our girls, just for a year. He responded "If you do, all this *indicates around the house* better be clean all the time. I'm not helping anymore. That'll be YOUR job." I told him that yes I would be taking over the bulk of the house responsibilities, I did that anyway, but that I wouldn't be his freaking maid or personal servant. If he made a mess, he could clean it up. If he dirtied a coffee cup, he could take 10 seconds to wash it. He told me no, none of that would be his job, his job would be to bring in the money.

I went off on him. To top it off, he wasn't helping around the house much as it was!! He would sleep as long as he possibly could, take naps in the middle of the day, and would always wait til "tomorrow" to clean up any messes he'd made or the kdis had made while I was working (now I know he was texting the women most of the time, so no wonder he didn't clean it up).

Oooh! makes me mad!

My husband made a couple of jerk comments to me in the past year. I called him out on each one and he seemed to snap out of it when I did that and realize he was being an ass.

Now I suspect it was just part of his slew of justifications of why he was unhappy.

i.e. one statement. I am almost finished with graduate school and was in bad depression for about 1.5 years after the baby was born, very burnt out. I told him I would love to be able to stay home with our girls, just for a year. He responded "If you do, all this *indicates around the house* better be clean all the time. I'm not helping anymore. That'll be YOUR job." I told him that yes I would be taking over the bulk of the house responsibilities, I did that anyway, but that I wouldn't be his freaking maid or personal servant. If he made a mess, he could clean it up. If he dirtied a coffee cup, he could take 10 seconds to wash it. He told me no, none of that would be his job, his job would be to bring in the money.

I went off on him. To top it off, he wasn't helping around the house much as it was!! He would sleep as long as he possibly could, take naps in the middle of the day, and would always wait til "tomorrow" to clean up any messes he'd made or the kdis had made while I was working (now I know he was texting the women most of the time, so no wonder he didn't clean it up).

Oooh! makes me mad!

What a douchebag

I'll second that!

Maybe HE will be worth enough when he can carry a baby for 10 months in his belly and squeeze it out of his private parts. Then, maybe then, he will get the respect you already EARNED.

One of my ex-neighbors had twins on top of a two year old. She got so frustrated with him having this mentality that she divorced him just so he'd have to clean his own house and take care of the kids half the time.

Monster has a seriously bad habit of *telling* me what he's done by recounting stories of mystery *others*.....

Omgosh my ws always tells stories about the guys at work..I know its him. Talks about how they look at porn all day and hook up sites, how disgusting they are

Gonna...if he made that statement just wow

Ok, slightly freaking out...

The Arse has said over the course of a number of years, about 'people he knows' who:

- are addicted to porn (well, I found out that was him)

- wear their wife's underwear when she's out....Umm

Maybe that explains why he kept trying to fatten me up? He wouldn't be able to fit into my bra and panties now, not since I lost all that weight on the infidelity diet.

My xWH did this, told stories about the bad behavior of others that I now realize are things he did.

I *vaguely* remember another story that Monster told me that was about one of his coworkers who got *in trouble* for coming on to one of the women who was working in the account that was being serviced (no pun intended) at the time. *shudder*.

Thus now I have the knowledge of how he pushed a woman into a closet & fucked her when he was posted to Yemen.

That's just lovely, huh?

I called him out on each one and he seemed to snap out of it when I did that

Yea, I always called Monster out on stuff, too, and I stupidly thought that he was *listening* to me. Yea right. As if. Turns out that all he was doing all that time was shining me on.

Maybe HE will be worth enough when he can carry a baby for 10 months in his belly and squeeze it out of his private parts. Then, maybe then, he will get the respect you already EARNED.

Well, since I had 3 scheduled C-sections and never went through a natural labor/delivery......I am not to be afforded the *respect* that comes from actually going through labor. More (yes, he HAS actually made cracks about me having it easy since I've *never felt a labor pain*.....because major abdominal surgery is such a walk in the f'n park -- not to mention the risk of death from embolisms!)

O80 -- *mystery people* freak me the fuck out anymore. Monster's stories about *others* fall into 2 camps -- he was either talking about himself, or he was giving me a *warning* about himself....A month before Dday, I told him that I wanted to look for some type of flexible-timeish job. HE didn't WANT me to work. So he told me about some guy that he knew whose wife *insisted* on getting a job and now she hated it and wanted to quit but <whoevertheguywas> wouldn't *let* her quit. Ha.Ha.Ha.

@softcentre --

'people he knows'

All I can say is -- Beware of these *mystery* people.

eta about the *job* thing. I HAD a job. WE owned a company. He did sales, I did administration -- but since I wasn't income-producing, my *work* didn't count. He was totally born 50 years too late.....

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 10:59 PM, July 28th (Monday)]

I will restate that...

When he has carried a watermelon in his belly for ten months, laid awake flat on his back on a board in a cold OR, dry heaving from the anesthesia, while the doctor cuts open his belly, moves his organs out of the way, pulls and tugs while he is being lifted off the table from the suction. Finally they shove his organs back in, sew up his belly. In a few hours he will have to get out of bed, walk down the hall, bent from the pain and on return, get a baby to latch onto his already sore nipples. Then he gets respect after that ridiculous statement.

Yep, you really opted out of any childbirth pain, Gonnabe. Jeez, what a jerk.

walk down the hall, bent from the pain

Monster had his gallbladder taken out about 6 months after our Dday. 4 - 1/2" incisions in his abdomen.

Ouch, ouch, ouch. The guy was way-laid for days.

I smirked, thinking "ok, now the guy has a small bit of understanding of how *I* felt after being cut open." Yea....uhhhh, not really.

What a douchebag.

Good to hear a *dad* say that....because that was MY first thought also.

I've heard a variation of this one. I work from home and WH has larger income. I told him in this day and age, our household chores should be shared equally. He told me he would do 50% of the housework when I brought in 50% of the income. I hired a housecleaner.

Is he reaching for Gold in the douchebaginess award?

Gonna, I didn't realise STBX was born in the 1800s. You seem like a prize so he must have gotten at least 4 goats in your Dowry.

I've had major abdominal surgery and I've had two drug free vaginal births. I'll prefect this by saying I am a big advocate of vaginal birth.

My experience with the agony of abdominal surgery is one of the factors that prompted me to try to avoid it.

If all conditions are perfect then a vaginal birth is by far the best option. If conditions aren't perfect it isn't pain you have to worry about but your life and the life of your child. I know a 26 year old who has to self catheterise for life several times a day because she was pushed into a 'vaginal' birth when the conditions were far from perfect. The psychological damage is as bad as the physiological damage.

C-Sections aren't about fucking willpower - they are about physics and MEDICAL issues. Pelvis size, pelvis expansion, baby head size and shape, baby position etc etc etc. The reason for cesarians isn't ease (!!) it is to reduce the heavy mortality rate of childbirth.

What a skeevy motherfucker. I bet he isn't saying this idiot shit to his whores.

I told him in this day and age, our household chores should be shared equally. He told me he would do 50% of the housework when I brought in 50% of the income. I hired a housecleaner

When we relocated to this state and were disagreeing on which town to live in, he told me that HE made the money, so HE'd decide where we lived.

Man was I ever a knucklehead to not have realized what a chauvinistic bully he was......

When we relocated to this state and were disagreeing on which town to live in, he told me that HE made the money, so HE'd decide where we lived.

I'm sorry but could you repeat that. It was hard to make out coming from all the way back in the 50's.

I'm guessing his favorite show is Mad Men?

Oh no he didn't...wow! That would have burned me to no end. There is no price tag on taking care of your family. Tell the asshat that.