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User Topic: having trouble holding on to faith- sorry really long
kenny55
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I met with the leader of my Bible group about 3 weeks ago. This was right after 1st Court appearance and when I got there WW was there with the other person. They were holding hands and WW made a point to say hi to me just to get under my skin. One thing I have never disclosed is that the WW is living with "George" (male to female) who may or may not be a transgender. I know he had a penis when he moved in with her. My daughter had custodial rights to her phone and the texts were sexual referring to her talking of sucking his penis. My Attorney says there is no way I will not have to pay spousal support. I am really struggling with this. I know that there a 20,000 others here who were wronged and are still having to do this. My faith does not believe in the gay culture. We do not hate them but we have set up tents during "Pride week" parades to pray for them. I believe in God. I have had things happen in my life that I cannot explain. I am having a hard time sleeping at night thinking that I will have to financially support this person and my WW even though she already has a house that I refinanced our house and have been paying for . My WW parents have stopped speaking to her as well as our two adult daughters. I never answered the Bible group leader but I am really not doing well. I have no intention of harming myself but I may be leaving the Church if this happens. I have been praying non stop and have been asking everyone I know to pray for me at this time. I serve at Church every Sunday. I serve the homeless breakfast once a month every month. I tithe and I also give substantial financial support to another charity. I know it rains on the just as well as the unjust. I saved WW life a couple of years back. I have no doubt that had I not acted, she would be dead now. I know I did the right thing but I struggle with thoughts of had I not done so, I would not be where I am right now. I have a really good gov't job and I have a nice home in a suburb outside a major metro, but because of my WW, I have not had pure joy in years. I do not miss her. I miss having someone who has my back. The leaders at my Church have told me to concentrate on raising my daughter for the past 7 years and that is what I did. They said to trust God would bring a new person in my life afterwards. I have no doubt that I can find another person. I have had several people try to set me up with a relative over the years but I have told them I was still married. I just am not sure I can trust that the next person will be from God and that I can ever have a loving relationship again. What is so confusing is that I have actually seen this happen in real life and still I have trouble trusting. A guy I used to work for lost his wife in her 40's and left him with three boys under the age of 10. He is a strong Christian and is just a great guy. There was a woman at work who divorced her husband of over 20 years due to a gambling habit. She is one of the best persons I have ever met. She and this guy got together and have been happily married for years. Turns out that both his deceased wife and the new wife shared the same names. Not only that but they both are redheads.
Yesterday, my manager told me how happy he was that I am part of his team. He is a strong believer in Christ. He is my 3rd manager in the 6 years I have been at this job. Almost 90 other applied for this job. I was slated to be one of the 5 set for 2nd interviews but they cancelled them and offer me the job. I know that this was from God. Because I am an outsider, I have been attacked for no reason. Manager told me he was not sure he could have endured this himself. He said he admired how I kept being humble and was never bitter over the attacks. Think of going to work each day and saying good morning and being met with silence. I did it every day and still said good morning to everyone. I was placed on a performance improvement plan by my 1st manager. He says he did not like how I handled my employees. I asked if he would be willing to sit in on my conversations and give me feedback. He said he could hear me from his office next door? All this time I thought "superman" was not real. He would blame me for mistakes that were made without even asking if I was responsible. I arrived at work a half hour early one day to take care of personal things. I did not even have time to put down my briefcase before he was asking about a "mistake" I had made. He came into my office and brought two others. They stood over me as I brought up my PC and logged in only to discover there was not any "mistake". It was only him playing a sick "joke". I took this abuse because I was desperate. I needed insurance for my youngest daughter. At the time she was cutting herself and she was thinking of taking her life. He knew this. I have no doubts that my daughter was saved thru prayer. After this she had surgery in 2010 and 2011 at the Mayo Clinic for a condition that usually affects people in their 80's. She is doing okay now.
I am sorry that this is so long and I am thankful if you have taken the time to read it. I know there are people who would trade places with me right now, especialley families who lost loved ones in the airplane incident but I am just wondering when I will be able to be happy again. I came from nothing. Both parents were hard factory workers. Dad never went past 8th grade. My girls tell me all the time how good a father I am. I do not want this to be a pity party but I am just having a hard time keeping faith right now. I know if I stop going to Church, I may never start up again. Always had plans of do missionary work as some of the other couples in my Bible group after retirement in 8 years. If I turn from my faith, I have no idea what I will do with the remainder of my life. Before she passed 17 years ago, my mom always said that I was the happiest of her 4 children and I was. Never in a million years could I see my self where I am now.

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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK. Not sure if this will get moved because it's a religious thread, but I'll reply anyway.

On dday, at the moment when I first discovered STBXH's phone history, I doubled over in emotional pain. I cried out to God telling him how much it hurt. I got a reply saying that was how he felt every time someone betrayed him. I instinctively cried back asking how on earth God could bear it? How did he not just wipe us off the planet? And then I got it...it's because he loves us and truly suffers along with us.

That moment has stayed with me throughout.

STBXH's choices have devastated me, my marriage, my children, our hopes and dreams for the future, made getting a new parish much more difficult (who wants a divorced single mum with young children as their vicar?), I've also had false allegations made against me. It has felt, at times, like I might lose everything.

Church, well, they tried, but unless you've been through it, it's hard to really understand. But there are people locally who have been through this and they have been an amazing support. Maybe you could find some people like that?

Most importantly, how is your relationship with God doing? I found that sometimes it was almost too hard to pray because what I wanted was not happening. Looking back?What I was asking for was not healthy. i now realise that I'm co-dependent and have a lot of work to do on myself to get emotionally healthy. I was willing to have STBXH back with only minimal effort on his part. If he had comeback, I'm pretty sure we'd be rugsweeping and it would only happen again. But it's taken time for me to really face that and thank God for keeping me from that.

Some days I just prayed for God to keep me going. Some days doing Bible study was too hard. So I started just reading random passages and asking God to come into it. Some days it seemed like I was so distant from God...but I now think that's because I was working so hard to hold onto stuff that was unhealthy, that I didn't want to hear anything that didn't match with what I wanted. Whatever the reason, I felt abandoned those times. Church was hard work. I went for my children those days.

But I'm coming out from that now.

Should you walk away from your faith? Well firstly, walking away from church is not the same thing as walking away from God. Also, God gives us free will. God doesn't want people following him like programmed robots, but as children in his family. It's up to you what you choose to do. But I know that for me, it was the knowledge of that dday and how much God loves us that kept me going.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pity parties are ok here, my friend (and don't call it that. It's what's in your heart). It's a safe place for you. I hope this is not too religious, but bear with me.

Have you gone through a DivorceCare class?

Talk to your pastor about Satanic attacks on your family.

The reality is that, although the person having a different sexuality may be worse due to your religious upbringing, that's simply a canard. It would be just as serious of a breach if it had been a man. When you think of it, Satan will attack you the way it hurts the most. The flexible sexuality issue is just a way for him to distract you. The focus is on her behavior and her infidelity. Keep it there.

WW's OM is an atheist. And she's the more religious of us both. That hurt me, as I always considered her much closer to God than myself. She makes no attempt at resolving her moral dilemma, and her very upstanding Christian sister has sworn her off while calling me "her brother now".

Stay strong in your faith. Consider changing churches rather than giving up your religion altogether at this stage in your process. You will need God for what's going on and you know it. You seem to have made a disciplined life for yourself. Make sure you also have a disciplined mind. And that means a mind that cares for you and your family, and that doesn't worry about things that are not in our own control. Note the family she is no longer a part of, which means you need to emotionally detach so she doesn't bring both of you down.

There is plenty of material on infidelity in the bible. Does your pastor cover it in the sermon? Our pastor did 3 or 4 sermons in a row on infidelity, consequences and forgiveness of God and man, shortly after we S. They were a Godsend. Take Proverbs 5 and Ephesians 4 to your pastor and ask to talk to him about it.

Also, you may not be ready, but read "The Gift of Forgiveness" by Charles Stanley when you get a chance.

Don't pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.

Strength, brother. A big hug for you.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure if this will help but I'll throw it out there. I feel for you and hope you resolve your crisis of faith.

I am an atheist but I feel hope and strive for joy the same as the people of faith that I know. If you do find your faith has left you (and I'm not suggesting that it should or that I would want that) there is a good life on the other side. We are all human and the lives we live are valuable and worthy, regardless of our spiritual outlook.

I wish you the best.


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like mhca, I hurt when I read your pain, but like mhca also, I am atheist and my life is as rich or richer for my good fortune that way.

Again, I'm so sorry for your pain, but try not to let fear of losing God be an added burden.

Wishing you peace.


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a former Christian who now considers myself agnostic. In other words, I can't say to know what is or isn't out there. I have no way of knowing. None of us do. Christians choose to believe that there is a God out there and that they know his word through the scripture. That is called faith. But faith involves many things, not just Christianity. You may lose your faith in what you currently believe but don't let that from you. It will simply be replaced with a different kind of faith.

I remember as a Christian feeling like those who were not Christians must have a very shallow and meaningless life. I also believed that they had less of a conscience and less of a moral compass than those of us who were Christians. When my views began evolving I came to learn that was so very untrue. People of all belief systems have deep, meaningful multilayered lives. Some of the people with the best consciences that I've encountered are those who don't automatically believe that forgiveness is waiting for them regardless of their actions for that a hell is waiting for them if they do wrong. They view their acts as having heavy and real consequences that can be lasting and they act according to that. They deeply love and respect life and view it as precious. They strive to be a positive force in their lives and the lives of those they touch. In other words, they are good, whole and decent people. They respect the beliefs of others without condemnation.

Just as, if you are a Christian, you know that God gave us free will and wants us to do right without him forcing us to, we also have to recognize that others have free will as well. Christians believe God loves us regardless of what we do and allows us to exercise our free will. While he certainly wants us to follow his plan, he continues to love us regardless of our choices and let us make them. Perhaps you can take this view with your wife. While her choices are not what you would choose for her, she has free will to do what she pleases.

Perhaps it will also help to remind yourself of the parts of scripture that talk about not judging others. The bible tells us to remove the log from our own eye before we try to remove the speck from our brothers. When your wife's choices and the lifestyle of people with nontraditional genders bothers you, perhaps instead of focusing on those things, you can think about things within yourself that need work and pray for help with those and make steps to improve those. I know it's very hard, but when you can learn to let go of the things you have no control over and stop letting them occupy your mind, your life will become much less of an internal battlefield.

I sense your despair and your anguish. I just say this because I remember how terrified I was that I would "lose my faith" when I felted it being shaken back in my late teens. I fought it for a long time and when I couldn't fight it anymore, I faked it. When I got tired of being non-authentic and living like a hypocrite, I started embracing the truth that I believed instead of fearing it.

These are difficult times you are going through but I can assure you that it will get better. Time alone will help if you can learn to let go of things and take steps to heal. Hugs to you.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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kenny55
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you to all who replied and thanks to the mods for allowing me to post. I am trying to stay positive thru this. One thing I did not mention ,was that I changed work locations recently. My new manager gave me the choice of going with him when he moved and I took the move. He tells me that he is blessed to have me on his team. He says he has not seen anyone work as hard as I do. That helps. It also has taken me away from some of the attackers. I still have fellow employees who will not answer or return my calls but I have found a way to be successful anyway.

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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Kenny, just congratulating you on keeping on. Have you talked to a pastor/thought about switching places of worship? Maybe a shakeup of your environment is what you need to stay positive? Supportive people can be found anywhere, but if too many people know about your sitch where you are now it may be that you want to find a new place of worship where you can share only as much as you're comfortable with?

I continued going to my church, but STBXWW switched churches. I have found a lot of support, thankfully. But I understand why stbx had to do that. I'd encourage you to find another place if you can't find enough support for your faith in your current situation. Not all social groups respond with enough support to certain situations, and you deserve to feel supported by your brothers.

Keep on keeping on


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Kenny,

First, I want to say that I agree that the gender situation with your WW's AP is just a distraction. It would feel just as shitty if she were cheating with a non-transgender person/man. Try not to get focused on that.

Second, I struggled for years to make myself fit into a certain religious "box". I don't fit there. My relationship with God is *my* relationship with God, and no one can tell me what it should or should not consist of. I've found a fantastic pastor that has helped me navigate this over the years. Just because your current church may not be providing a good fit for your life circumstance, try not to let it freak you out. If you want church support, there will be one out there somewhere that meets your needs.

If church, in general, isn't providing what you need right now, that's ok too. I think God would rather have good faithful people who don't set foot in a church vs inauthentic liars showing up every Sunday. Kwim? Be true to yourself and do no harm to others as you live your life. Seems like you can't go wrong there.

I'm going to share a couple sentences from my daily devotional reading this morning, and hope it helps:

Friend, you desire to hear God, and that's wonderful. However, there are times when his silence will do more to grow your faith than anything else will do.

<<<end excerpt>>>

I think sometimes our higher power, however that is defined for each person, wants us to do some thinking and figuring out of things all on our own, instead of us trying to squeeze ourselves into what others want us to be or how we should feel, what we should believe.

I have prayed and prayed and prayed over my marriage and my WH. I've been disappointed time and again by unanswered prayers. I've let go of trying to control the outcome of this situation through prayer or otherwise. I check in with God when I feel the need, which is often, but it's no longer pleading and begging like it was for so many months.

I've been a Christian, an atheist, and an agnostic. I don't attempt to define my belief set anymore. I know what I believe.

Blaze your own way, Kenny. A long as you are always honestly seeking truth and goodness, I think God is ok with questions, leaving churches, faith that waivers....and if your faith vanishes completely, then what God thinks or feels doesn't matter, right?

As to what you will do with yourself when you retire if you don't go on mission trips....does that need to be decided right now? You may have a fabulous new hobby by then, or a new relationship that leads you somewhere, or missions of a different sort (ie FEMA), or maybe you will be volunteering at your new church home...or whatever!

Are you in IC to help you work through this? I know when I did turn from my faith it was absolutely PARALYZING, as I had no framework through which to view the world or MYSELF.

This got a lot longer than I expected. Feel free to PM me if you'd like.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Kenny,

Christian BH here. We have to remember one thing, God say, "what I have brought together may no man tear apart". You did receive the woman God intended for you to have forever, as did I.

However then there is SIN. Its like saying Adam and Eve should never have been in the garden since they ate from the tree of understanding.

Logically then everything isn't from God unless it is perfect?, nothing is perfect except Him. You know this.

Your WW is a sinner, as we all are and as the bible says, God will not be mocked, you will reap what you sow, the wages of sin is death, God will Judge the Adulterer...

the list goes on and on. You and I will never know if you WW will be happy in her new realtionship or not, you are looking this with a spy glass but under a microscope there are many flaws.

God loves you, has a plan for you and make good things from this.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose ROMANS 8:28

http://rickwarren.org/devotional/english/god-is-an-expert-at-bringing-good-out-of-bad

God does not agree with your WW or the AP at all, this is completely aganist His will and there will be settling of this in time.

You have to trust Him, and know he has a good plan for you when you trust and obey and keep you eyes focused on Him. Man, there are far too many examples of people who have had really bad situations come out on top and you will one of them, but don't be like Job, forget the sack clothes and ashes, GET UP, RISE UP, don't let the enemy of your soul defeat you. That would only appease the WW and make you feel less of a man that you are. We have victory in Christ.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future Jeremiah 29:11

Message me anytime. Regards, STEP.

[This message edited by steppingup at 4:17 PM, July 30th (Wednesday)]


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Thanks again for all who replied. I have read them all and some more thna once. I am beack at Christian Counseling in an hour. The person I had seven years ago is no longer there. I hit the bottom yesterday morning after meeting with my Attorney. Basically been told that even after giving her over six figures our of 401 K and half my retirement account I still may have to pay her spousal support. Attorney says I should probably retire. I need the insurance for my daughter for the next six years. She still takes several meds a day. Also I would have nothing to do and I have a really good job that I know came from God.

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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kenny, The Lord will provide...let the WW take your tunic too...don't retire to retaliate, provide for your daughter, you will be honored, she will be shamed.


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

“Whatever follows after DD is much more crucial than the infidelity action itself” Quote by SI Member Melian40

"I'm a good man, not an option" - Steppingup


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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kenny55, yes, unfortunately long term marriage and all that. Infidelity is not a factor in most states anymore. Ridiculous, but it is what it is. I'm in the same boat. In addition in my case she agreed to pay half medical expenses for our SN son which she's not doing, claiming she doesn't have the money. She's not working so there's no double coverage for him.

You'll find a lot of disappointment. Be calm and collected and thank the Lord for another day.

Remember Job. He was mistreated so much he wanted to die, and even that was denied to him. Don't be afraid to question God, without losing your faith - those are two different things. Job did do that - he prays to God, compares his fortune with his plight, protests his innocence, lists his principles and demands an answer. And always without wavering in his faith. There's no reason why you shouldn't be allowed to have an honest conversation with the Lord regarding this.

I love the Old Testament because you can see all the Prophets say things to God that we have lost the ability to say in Christianity. Our Jewish cousins really had a handle on talking to God directly and honestly, which we've lost over the years. Job angrily questions Him for rewarding the wicked and punishing the just. Moses talks to God "as a friend talks to a friend" - you think that didn't include the occasional snarky "you're full of sh*t"? Jonah disobeys, runs away and when forced to obey he expects punishment against the wicked, except the wicked repent, and because he doesn't see the expected punishment he pouts and says "it would be better if I were dead", for something as silly as God deciding not to punish Nineveh. Solomon was offered anything he wanted, and he asked for a discerning heart so he could rule fairly.

So we do not know His reasons, but I think we are allowed to question and ask for an answer. He will answer not in our time, but His, and will reward our wisdom, obedience and patience - and I never saw him punish someone for questioning him. For tempting and goading Him or ordering him around, yes. But not for questioning. He didn't give us a brain to not use it, or the ability to feel frustration and pain to hide them. Bare your soul to God. Righteous anger over your circumstance and sharing it with God doesn't mean you are losing your faith, it means you are close enough that you would complain to him like you would to your own "abba". As long as you understand that your wills (yours and God's) must align, and you can't change God's will, God allows you to complain in order to seek wisdom. Staying faithful doesn't mean agreeing, it means believing and not yielding to the temptation that will come in our weakest moments. Remember that.

So ask Him what He wants from you. Maybe you're being prepared for something great.

Hope you do well with your counselor.

[This message edited by GotPlayed at 12:31 AM, July 31st, 2014 (Thursday)]


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Things went well last night. I have signed up to go every Wednesday for a few weeks. One thing he pointed out was that I was praying and askign God why I was going thru this when I had done so much for HIM. My counselor reminded me that I should be focusing on what HE has done for me instead. I have several stories of where things just came out of no where when I was at my lowest. I just need to keep reminding myself of this.

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