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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When we've moved past the pain of betrayal, the loss of our spouse, and realize there's nothing left to R. We reach indifference. We can no longer help those self destructive individuals who refuse help, who continue to spiral out of control. But they can't drag you down anymore. Blissful indifference.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But it is difficult to get there.

Not saying that this isn't the goal, but damn, I wish we didn't have to fight to get here.


BH-47
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 2078 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not saying that this isn't the goal, but damn, I wish we didn't have to fight to get here.

It is tough. And I won't lie and say that I don't love her, I do. But my initial post sums it up nicely. Distancing myself from the pain and "compartmentalizing" is the only way I can describe it. IC is where the compartmentalized BS gets out, and the rest of the time is mine. My kids. Me.

Everyone's journey to that point is different. But for me, looking around at the chaotic dysfunction she breathes into everyday life, and the trauma laced years together. Taking those rose colored glasses off, and seeing things for the way they are. That's how I got here.

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 8:10 AM, July 27th (Sunday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
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