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User Topic: Letter to OM
HurtingandLost
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Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First and foremost, THANK YOU. Thank you for sniffing after my wife for the last couple months and consummating each other's "love". You allowed her to show her true, selfish colors (for the umpteenth time) and ask for a D. In the fog, she was able to rewrite our marriage history and blame shift, which allowed me to pull my head out of my ass and run for the divorce forms faster than Carl Lewis on steroids.

You see, that bag of issues is now YOUR bag of issues. She's so emotionally stunted and lacking introspection that she will never own them, so they will become yours by default. All of them. Her Borderline Personality Disorder. Her lies. Her cheating. Her hoarding. Speaking of which, THANK YOU. I can finally see, for the first time since we've been married, the fact that I will finally have a garage to be used for something besides throwing shit and hoarding until its filled front to back, top to bottom.

Thank you for removing the cancer from my home. The nasty filth that she insists on living in. I've grown weary of wasting every waking moment of my life cleaning up her shit so our kids don't wallow in it. Thank you for removing her poor parenting from the equation at least every other week, allowing me to finally provide the stability that they need.

Thank you for making me realize how toxic my life has been with her, and how much better its about to become without her in it. Thank you for showing me that I am a great guy after all, deserving of so much more than this bullshit.

I would only add that there is a NO REFUND NO EXCHANGE policy in this transaction, and only wish you the best. Her warranty expired when the tail lights dimmed in the distance this morning. In other words, YOU'RE FUCKED!

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 6:39 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1022 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
soveryweary
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Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bravo HurtingandLost. I'm giving you a standing ovation!!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get writing this, but I hope you don't send it.

You're giving him a warning. He may wake up and break off with your STBXW. It's much better IMO for him to connect ever ore deeply before he sees what he's gotten himself into. I'm for giving no help at all to any ap.

JMO, of course.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10166 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
WinterBranch
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Member # 42671
Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AMEN!


Me: Woman. In. Pain.
Him: Skittle-Sucking Toad and Con-Man.

Posts: 140 | Registered: Mar 2014
HurtingandLost
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Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@ Sisoon -

I most certainly have no intention of giving the loser a head's up. Let their love blossom. Then let the pain begin!

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 7:13 PM, July 27th (Sunday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1022 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
deena04
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Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, July 27th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Clapping my hands for you. You basically said to hell with them, and that they can't bother you. You rock!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1000 | Registered: Dec 2013
918Mama
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Member # 37756
Default  Posted: 2:46 AM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where's Hufi-Pufi's slow clapping guy when you need him?? This is awesome!! Enjoy, OM!


Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

Posts: 578 | Registered: Dec 2012
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I most certainly have no intention of giving the loser a head's up.

Great minds think alike....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10166 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
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