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User Topic: Anti depressants are not miracle drugs!
heartbroken2012
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been taking Zoloft. I have noticed a slight improvement in my mood, but its having a sexual side effect (no orgasms), so Im going to switch medications.

WH said he noticed a difference in my moods, but believes I should get a different AD anyways, because I am still emotional and still get sad about the A and think about it.

I told him that AD medicine is not a miracle drug...its not going to magical erase my memory that he cheated.

So today, I messaged him that I triggered about his A and I am feeling very down and sad and hurt.

His response what that my medicine is not working and I need something else that will suppress my feelings or make me not think of it.

Its amazing to me that we are going on 2 years and WH still has not realized what horrible shit he caused. Its really very sad.

In the meantime, I got lunch and had to walk by WHORE RAT sitting at a table with 3 friends...she was just happy as a horse, chatting away and being happy. I wanted to punch her in her face, but I just glared at her. I walked by again to leave and one of her friends was staring at me like I was the whore that cheated....horrible dirty looks.

PLEASE PLEASE when is the karma bus going to hit her.


BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 549 | Registered: Jan 2013
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So your husband thinks anti-depressants are going to cause amnesia? That's not too bright. Sorry - but what drug is going to cause you to forget entire chunks of your life? Or are the drugs just supposed to make you not care that he cheated?

As far as the OW and her sleazy friends, the next time one of them gives you a dirty look, just say "Don't get pissed at me because the only friends you can find are whores". At the very least, they'll stop staring.

EDIT: The next time he says the drugs aren't working, say 'Yes they are. I haven't killed you, so they must be doing their job." Maybe then he'll get it.

[This message edited by painfulpast at 12:33 PM, July 28th (Monday)]


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1893 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Lark
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oi vei.

ADs don't take away pain. If someone in your family had died, would he expect you to just keep taking ADs until you no longer were hurt by it?

I had bad PPD after my first daughter was born (and likely again after 2nd was born) and my psychiatrist's perspective on ADs was this: when your'e deeply depressed, you may logically know what will help you, like getting out of bed, taking a walk everyday, etc, but you can't bring yourself to do those basic things. The ADs will help you, hopefully, achieve a baseline so that you can start taking action to process and act against and for situations. So give you a baseline so that you can get up every morning, go to work. Get to the point where you can start taking walks. Start processing and acting on the things causing feelings of sadness, overwheled, anxieties. It doesn't make those things go away, it just empowers you to better cope with them. And the longterm goal, for those who are able, is that they're able to cope and take control and make life changes to the extent that their body starts producing hormones in the right balance so that it regulates its baseline and the ADs are no longer needed.

Nowhere in that entire description did she say that Ads make the problem or normal feelings about the problem go away.


"Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul." - William Ernest Henley

Posts: 509 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: California
brokeninfl
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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His response what that my medicine is not working and I need something else that will suppress my feelings or make me not think of it.

wow, that's a fabulous piece of blame shifting there. It's not HIS fault you are feeling bad - it's your fault (your meds fault) for not erasing it.

He has to logically know that there is no magic "mind eraser" drug. Geez.

I have to agree with Lark. For me ADs are the "keep my head above water" solution. They allow you to keep breathing while you learn to swim to shore.

I'm sorry that 2 years out your WH isn't giving you the support you need.


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


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Lark
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For me ADs are the "keep my head above water" solution. They allow you to keep breathing while you learn to swim to shore.

such a better description : )


"Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul." - William Ernest Henley

Posts: 509 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: California
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