[This message edited by Spiralingupward at 1:13 PM, July 28th (Monday)]
Peace to you.
I very much get caught up in my emotions and anxiety and allow myself to cry. But sometimes I do have to stop myself if I feel Iím just circling back to past pain when Iíd rather just enjoy all the good in my life right now. And with a new baby on the way and your WS doing all the right things, sounds like thereís a lot to be thankful for, also. I feel like Iím the last one to give advice since Iím still very early on in this but Iím reading a great book on how to overcome trauma in life and a few of the nuggets that really help me are to remember that the affair and all the trauma related to it is just a íslice of your lifeí Yes, itís a big slice and itís awful but itís not your whole life and shouldnít keep you from enjoying the good when you want to. I also tell myself different things when Iím feeling down and want to take a break from the pain. I usually write things down because I know Iíll have to deal with it later or talk to WS about it another time but if Iím trying to enjoy the moment, enjoy the now, I just say to myself ĎForwardí and think of a recent happy moment to savor and try to let go of the thoughts that donít make me strong at that moment. I know Iíll have to deal with the feelings later but itís one way that like you, Iím trying to find a balance.