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User Topic: He put the wrong birthdate on her headstone
stroppy_wanadoo
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Angry  Posted: 9:54 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've posted before about my best friend who died of breast cancer last August at age 40. And what a total alcoholic, lying, disgusting jackoff her husband is.

It has taken him almost a year to buy a headstone. He took off work twice during the spring to go do it, but ended up golfing and drinking with buddies instead. After being prompted by her sisters to do it (they offered to do it instead, but he didn't want to give them access to the money set aside for it - likely because it isn't all there... but I digress), he finally ordered one.

I don't talk to this asshat anymore, but my sister-in-law does. He sent her a picture of the headstone. Not only is his name on it, too (why would he want to be buried by her? He moved his girlfriend in THE WEEK AFTER SHE DIED. Plus - there is NO PLOT AVAILABLE anywhere around her...), but her birthday is wrong. Sure, he got the date and year correct. But he told them February instead of March. And when it was pointed out to him by my sister-in-law, he said "What am I supposed to do? It's already done and being set this week."

I hate him. I really have nothing but contempt and disgust for him. I am sure somehow this will get fixed, but that's not the point. Why does he continue to disrespect her so much in death? Didn't he do enough of that when she was alive?


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EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow - that is awful.

I am sure somehow this will get fixed, but that's not the point.

I hope so but I am not so sure it will be. Doesn't sound like it was a big priority for him.

As you know - there is no changing what he is, does or will do.

All you can do is just keep honoring your BF's memory your own way.


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's horrible.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's just sick. I'm so sorry.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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Myname
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just sitting here shaking my head. I don't even know where to start.

I hope it does get fixed but like Evenkeel said, it wasn't a priority before so I'm not sure it will be a priority now.


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How awful. I'm so sorry. (((stroppy & BF))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Complete AssHat!!

I'm so sorry Stroppy


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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brokeninfl
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow. that is....just beyond horrific.

I'm so so sorry stroopy.


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is awful. I'm sorry.

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asurvivor
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read some of these posts and it really challenges my faith in humanity. This is one big ass prick.


I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.



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courageous
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow what a piece of shit he is. I hope he gets all that is coming to him.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for the support. I needed someone to get mad at him with me today.

As far as how I know it will get fixed, well, I am certain her sisters won't stand for it. While they let him drag his feet on getting a stone, they won't let it rest that way. Even if it means buying one themselves. And I really don't think in the end he'd fight them to get a corrected one in (as long as his name is on it, and he doesn't have to pay for it).

Come to think of it, his name doesn't look too awful on a headstone. (I am so sorry, God. That was a horrible thing to say! But I'm not taking it back just yet.)


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a useless pile of shit.

I hope your dear friend is haunting him and making his life torture.

You know making his wanker limp, and his girlfriend grow big old nasty man hairs out her nose, on her chin, and back.

I am sorry that your friend isn't getting the respect she deserves.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because in the end it really is all about him.

I'm sorry for your friend and her sisters.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, July 29th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have thought of this all day. It makes ME want to kick his a$$. with you


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just saw this. How awful! Maybe, if he lets her sisters get a new one and demands his name be on it too, they can put a date of death for him in the not-too-distant future.....? Maybe that would wake him up to the disrespect.

I know.... I know.... But I couldn't resist.


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kiki1
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((stroppy)))

Maybe the sisters will replace it and keep his name OFF it!!! What an ass.

I'm sure hoping so,,,,,,,,,


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