Oh no, no, no. I'm not suggesting she give away her identity here. If she wants to remain anonymous that's totally up to her.
*sigh* Many times when both spouses are on SI, people will PM the other partner in the relationship, be it male female, to say "Yo, I'm sending them some info, insight, blah blah, whatever." It's a courtesy. It's making the other partner aware. It's protecting both relationships. Some folks have issues with their spouses getting PMs from opposite sex members. That's it. Don't over think it.
Ok. Back on track.
Guess what the real question is, how much do you anticipate attention, how much do you plan out your appearance/performance to get admiration? Is what you do something you genuinely enjoy because of the sport/hobby itself? Or is it balled into the fact you get attention and praise?
I used to do things specifically to get attention. Help with a project? Suuuure. I'll be out there, making calls, setting up, and inevitably get the "OMG Aubrie, you were amazing. You're a life saver. You did so god. We couldn't do it without you. You're the best." Kibbles. Done. Neeeext....
There are specific things I did prior to Dday that I don't do anymore. I don't want the bright lights and attention. As I've become more comfortable with who I am as a person, I've realized that as extroverted as I am, I still prefer to stay behind the scenes.
I don't dress for others. I dress to be comfortable and look nice for QS. I don't care what people think of me. I don't wonder if they're curious by my neat/shabby appearance. What's important is that I'm comfortable and whatever I'm doing. Whether it's church or date night or glow golf or whatever. I don't dress to the 9s, secretly hoping for or anticipating attention.
Anything I do is because I or my family enjoys it. Not because we get attention for it. Not because other people suggest it and praise our efforts.
The goal is a peaceful, happy, fulfilling life. A life well lived for *me*. Not a life measured and standardized by others feelings or views on me. Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?