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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sister, DD looked in her early 20's, the family portrait looked like the kids were in their late teens then, two DDs and a DS.

Guinness, I agree. The stress that poor woman had, it was all-consuming and it killed her in the end. I don't know any more details, so there's no telling what she went through or for how long, but for BW to have a complete meltdown in public like that, what she went through was completely devastating.

After the DD left, the clerk and two other employees and I were all shaken and silent. Then the clerk said it was "such a shame" and he hoped "the bastard rots in hell".


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9769 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a tragic story but, while death may not be a frequent outcome, I do wonder how many WS realize just how close they take their BS to the ‘edge’.

On frequent, it's frequent enough that, say 40%+ of the literature for the last 500+ years involve death because of love trysts. Before democracies, wars were started for this kind of thing.

We don't call it frequent, until it happens to us or someone close to us.

You can all "see" what DD feels. Only a few of us have been in a similar position. It's unlimited, life-changing grief, the kind you continue to think about for the rest of your life.

At some point, if you're lucky, it no longer controls you.

But it always defines you.

The only silver lining is that she was already an adult when it happened. God help them heal.

[This message edited by GotPlayed at 3:23 PM, July 30th, 2014 (Wednesday)]


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 755 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guiness, you are 100% right when you said this:

"From my perch, I am calling that murder! The cheating asshole should be charged and you and the photo place guy are witnesses as to WHY she was distraught. 26 years married probably puts her in the over 50 category which is RIPE for heartattacks. Her family history probably shows it too. He and cumdumpter slut MURDERED her."

I tell you, I have a heart condition and I truly believe the OW was trying to murder me with the nasty texts she was sending me. Each one stabbed my heart like a knife and made my blood pressure soar - literally. I asked my H, "Did you tell (your AP) that I have a heart condition?" And he said yes - that she always HOPED I would die!

This case that was shared here was murder and I have to wonder how often it happens. It makes me boiling mad...


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Jono)))), I felt much like you did for a long time. It was pure hell. Stress can kill you. I never knew how true that was until it hit me. I was in hospital ER three times with abnormal heart palpitations and was placed on anti-a meds for three years. It was terrifying. My WH stood RIGHT THERE and SAW the evidence, but he kept on with his pitiful A for another year.

I could feel myself shutting down too and I was so frightened when I looked into the eyes of my three beloved children and prayed I would make it through for their sakes. And I am so glad I did!

I am years out now and probably as healed as I am going to get. But sadly my H will never realize the depth of the pain he caused. It still reverberates through our children's lives.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9769 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Needfriendshere)))) I just posted before I read your post, and I am sorry that bitch knowingly and with malice did that to you! She'll get hers one day! Karma bus will be coming her way and I hope it runs her over and over and over!


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9769 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was strengthened early by suffering which I've put on the T/J post. But with all that strength, for about 6 months after D-Day:
- I was waking up in night sweats every single night. Drenched. During winter (sure it's N Cal, but still). And of course I lost lots and lots of weight.
- The STD test detected an abnormally low T-cell level, in HIV territory. We had to repeat it 3 months later and I was panicking the entire time over it (I'm fine now, turned out to be stress caused).
- My heart has always been fine, but chest pains were also common. Grief type. I'm sure one of those could have definitely stopped a weak heart. I did wonder if it was abnormal a couple of the times, as they came without warning, usually as I was about to turn in for the night.

I wouldn't call it murder as it wasn't their intention (except in the case of the AP that knew - (((needfriendshere))), but it would definitely fall into manslaughter territory IMO.

[This message edited by GotPlayed at 3:49 PM, July 30th, 2014 (Wednesday)]


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 755 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((GotPlayed))))


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9769 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Crushed1)))

What an awful thing to happen. I feel so bad for those kids.


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Crushed1))) This is such a terrible story. My heart really goes out to that family.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That happened to my uncle. He was 42. He found out about my Aunt's A and had a heart attack a short time afterward.


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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope they check her blood for things like digitalis or whatever it is those people on Dateline give to spouses they want to get rid of.

That was my first thought. Too convenient.

((((((BK- betrayed kiddoes)))))


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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