Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Phoenix2rise (45723)

New Beginnings Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: small rant, intrusive phone calling
caregiver9000
♀ Member
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Because of abusive and intrusive phone calling when we first S, our parenting agreement strictly limits the non custodial calling.

Four years out and things are pretty normalized. Stretch has of course taken all rules and guidelines and ignored when and what he feels like. Surprised anyone?

Yesterday, the boys and I took a day trip to an amusement park. It was a 20 hour day, four hours in the car. Tons of walking. Humid, hot, roller coasters, water park, etc. We were TIRED, sore, a little sunburnt, blisters on the feet, sweaty. Even after the very long day, everyone needed a shower when we finally got home.

So....Stretch starts calling just before noon. We were all still sleeping! I said "starts calling." He called my land line four times and my cell phone once between noon and one thirty. He let the phone ring until the answering machine picked up, or it went to voice mail each time but never left a message.

I think this is incredibly rude. No one answers, FOR A FUCKING REASON. You absolutely MUST make contact, write it down. Send it by carrier pigeon. I will give it to the boys when they wake up. Or you know, 21st century and all, leave a message! Think we might not be home? Send a text to my mobile. Contact achieved, first time.

Calling over and over is just demanding to be met on YOUR terms, and I'm sorry, we don't play that game anymore.

***update***

What did he want? Was there an emergency? Was he concerned that we didn't get home ok? Was he dying to hear about the boys' fun yesterday? You would think so based on the persistent attempts to reach us....

Turns out it was about some cats. His exact words?

I looked at the cats today.

They immediately attacked me.

I like them.

So many things to say here....

anyone want to play?

.... sigh. I said:

I will have the boys call tonight.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5906 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
cmego
♀ Member
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex will do this too. Call/text until SOMEONE returns his call. Then he will say, "Well, I was worried!" Doofas...we were just outside playing tennis (or whatever...), don't get your panties is a wad.

Translation: "I shall NOT be ignored!! No one puts doofas in a corner!"


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4215 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
woundedby2
♀ Member
Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Translation: "I shall NOT be ignored!!

Yup. That's it in a nutshell. We are to be at their beck and call at all times. Normal channels of communication such as voicemails are not adequate for their immensely important needs.

Flippin' idiot...

Glad you and the kiddos had a great day.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7844 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Nature_Girl
♀ Member
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1 - Why not email or text?

2 - Cats? WTH?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10012 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Kajem
♀ Member
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh CG, my friend, I know you were a tad irritated. I'm sorry, I can't stop laughing, he HAD to share with you that the cats attacked him, and he LIKES them!!

I'm hoping he gets attacked a bit more often and that those kittens like to play with skew's balls or some other vital sensitive part.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5528 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
NaiveAgain
♀ Member
Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh caregiver. NPD much?

We are to be at their beck and call at all times.
Because we only live to serve their needs.....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15399 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
caregiver9000
♀ Member
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, it is all about not being ignored.

He finally gave up and sent the text, which I responded to with "I'll have the boys call."

Responses I imagined sending instead?


Good kitties!

Oh yes! What a great idea! something small and furry you can ruin with your idiotic treatment of vulnerable things.

Sure, get a pet. You are so financially responsible and all caught up on CS...

Oh boy, a pet! I have had pets that lived longer than my 14 year marriage. You? Yeah, long term responsibility... don't see much evidence of that.

At least cats have claws and teeth.

If he gets a pet, maybe my kids will get positive loving interaction with something every other weekend...

A pet? Don't you need a place to live first?

whatever...


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5906 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
caregiver9000
♀ Member
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Confession time.

Stretch has built the boys up for getting these two kittens tomorrow. Naturally, name suggestions followed.

My contribution? How about Narcissus and Echo?


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5906 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Topic Posts: 8

Return to Forum: New Beginnings Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.