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User Topic: Betrayed Husbands looking to R
steppingup
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

See if this helps any. I found it fasinating.

https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1gdzACBifqxKbi80-iQw9m6aEFjLsl4rxWdmXqEBwn8c/present?pli=1&ueb=true#slide=id.g35893e3a6_00

http://alphagameplan.blogspot.com/2011/03/socio-sexual-hierarchy.html

http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/p/the-red-pill-primer-for-boys.html


[This message edited by steppingup at 12:42 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

“Whatever follows after DD is much more crucial than the infidelity action itself” Quote by SI Member Melian40

"I'm a good man, not an option" - Steppingup


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seethelight
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Steppingup:

I think you are gonna' get yourself in trouble with the wrong type of woman, if you follow this advice.

I know women who would respond to this type of manipulation and their tact is to counter attack with ever more manipulation.

Or, as they say, let the guy think he is winning.

You don't want a women who would fall for this game, or who would be interested in a man who plays this game because only someone who is better at this game will stick around and be happy.

Good relationships are not about manipulating each other.


“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit

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steppingup
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally agree, what I didnt say is I think my WW responded to all this BS with her APs, namely I married a "keeper"

If a BH wants to R, think about how his WW responds, if she responds to this, then she is like the women who likes games and manipulation.

I know my WW likes to be seduced, and it sickens me to death!

[This message edited by steppingup at 1:20 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

“Whatever follows after DD is much more crucial than the infidelity action itself” Quote by SI Member Melian40

"I'm a good man, not an option" - Steppingup


Posts: 498 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: CALI
SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the most horrendous piece of sexist crap I've read in a long time.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


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seethelight
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If a BH wants to R, think about how his WW responds, if she responds to this, then she is like the women who likes games and manipulation.

Oh, okay. Thank you for the clarification and glad to hear you realize that.

I know my WW likes to be seduced, and it sickens me to death!

I am sorry to hear that. Some people like this, who need constant focus on themselves, and "winning the game" can be helped with individual counseling, sometimes.


“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit

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steppingup
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In speaking with my IC and her IC, seems my WW is nothing more than a hurt child looking to play games, its all about the games and delusions...its so sick and twisted, when I came across this pseudo male programming, I immediately recognized things she talked about that she (WW) was responding to.

it is the "EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY". Nothing more.

its really gross, and unnatual for me, I could never behaive like this but I DO THINK MANY AP (MALES) act like this and get reponses from WS (FEMALES) that want to live in the land of RAINBOWS AND UNICORNS.


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

“Whatever follows after DD is much more crucial than the infidelity action itself” Quote by SI Member Melian40

"I'm a good man, not an option" - Steppingup


Posts: 498 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: CALI
seethelight
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I DO THINK MANY AP (MALES) act like this and get reponses from WS (FEMALES) that want to live in the land of RAINBOWS AND UNICORNS.

Yes, I think People who look for affairs, in general, may have a higher affinity for this type of manipulative game playing.

I Think they confuse it with indicating their self worth.

I hope counseling helps your wife. It can sometimes.


“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit

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seethelight
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I DO THINK MANY AP (MALES) act like this and get reponses from WS (FEMALES) that want to live in the land of RAINBOWS AND UNICORNS.

Yes, I think People who look for affairs, in general, may have a higher affinity for this type of manipulative game playing.

I Think they confuse it with indicating their self worth.

I hope counseling helps your wife. It can sometimes.


“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit

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Razor
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no respect for any man or woman that sees their relationship as some kind of power struggle game.

Seems manipulative to me. And a manipulator never has respect for those they manipulate.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.

Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man.
Friedrich Nietzsche


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steppingup
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Razor, you hit the nail on the head, "RESPECT", if a potential Wayward had more respect for their spouse and themselves, they would never drag us into this nightmare.


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

“Whatever follows after DD is much more crucial than the infidelity action itself” Quote by SI Member Melian40

"I'm a good man, not an option" - Steppingup


Posts: 498 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: CALI
tearingaway
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the "women want a bad boy" propaganda.

Quite honestly, I have known lots of women who just adore men who treat them poorly. I think it works the other way around, too. It's all very sad.


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