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User Topic: Suddenly, There's Rules???
jackfish
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MY dday was last July, Sep in Aug. Waiting for papers to be signed, etc. I have been and will continue to try to carry on in a postitve way and be strong and all of those things. But, I need to vent, just once, LOL. Sorry SI'ers, but you guys understand, so here goes:

I have handled tons of pain, confusion, and have worked hard to move on, etc etc since last year. Kept my integrity, straight and narrow and focused (call me boring ya ya). So lately one day, I decided I need a mini break. So innocently went outta town to hang with some old friends and just chill. Did nothing wrong, except traveled a few hours from home. Came home and life carries on. BUT, I then hear thru the grapevine that STBX was actually questioning my getaway and the people I saw. So you mean suddenly, there's RULES!!?? Holy man! So, she can lie to everyone around her, cheat (adultery to no end), be selfish, become "soulmates", parent thru text messages, get ass fucked in hotels while telling her family she's doing work related things, go on vacations with the loser, be irresponsible, get engaged to him and do WHATEVER THE FUCK SHE WANTS WHENEVER SHE WANTS. (Much much more but it would cover at least 100 pages). There were no rules then or there!! Yet I step outta the house for a whole 3 days, and she questions it behind my back!? Stunning, just stunning. Sick sick human being.

Thank you for the opportunity to vent SI. I needed that. But now it's in the past, and it actually makes me laugh!


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good vent and I'm glad you can laugh about it! Her "rules" deserve such an epic eye roll that my eyeballs got stuck mid-roll! Good for you for doing something for YOU!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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jackfish
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks dmari

This once again verifies that this is a sick person I was married to. Obviously her dream was to run off on me and live this Grande life with her facebook "soulmate". She's got what she wants, right? Or wait, She wants more? She wants to meddle in OTHERS' lives!? Not enuf up-the-Bleep sex anymore? Things gettin a lil boring at the homewrecker hotel? Is the new diamond ring not shiny enough? Actually, I could care less about her opinions. My main beef is Just Leave Me Alone Already!!

OK, thats two vents, lol.


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norabird
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They have no idea how ridiculous they look. Good for you for focusing on your healing, taking that trip, and being in a position to laugh about this absurdity!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jackfish, don't you know the rules don't apply to her? That's the way it's working for me too, and how it always did. The Princess LOVES to make rules (e.g. Don't date for two years so you can mourn the marriage, and don't introduce anyone to the kids until you've dated them a year).

Of course, she was dating before we broke up, and introduced a boyfriend to the kids a couple months after that. When I mentioned this to her, "Oh, did I say that? Tee hee hee!"

Dude, fuck her and the piece of shit she rode in on (or that rode in on her?). You now have MY permission to do whatever'n fuck you want - and my opinion should matter AT LEAST as much as hers.

[This message edited by Pass at 3:22 PM, July 31st, 2014 (Thursday)]


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1896 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
jackfish
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL, thanks Pass!

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ISurrender
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass, simply brilliant commentary. 😃


BS (me): 46
WW: 39
Together for 8 yrs
Married for 6 yrs (since 2008)
DD: 2 yrs
DDay: 7-Sep-2013; 6-7 month PA/EA as of Dday
I filed: Jun 2013, she's still in the house with me.
Kept seeing POS for 2 months after telling me. No remorse

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can just imagine her poor widdle ego going, "Wait.. What?? I'm not the center of his universe? But, bu, but, life resolves around me.. "

The poor thing deflated quite a bit there..

Could happen to a nicer receiver..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2231 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
jackfish
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi BG. You are right. Life revolves around her. I rarely rarely see nor communicate with her, but it is sad what she has become. Her "issues" run deep and she's only fooling herself. I took vows but after the bombs went off, this is not the person I courted nor married. At present, I could really care less about her, but found it shocking that my miniscule little bit of fun was actually questioned. Not that it matters. But wow, pure narcissism.
PS, please STBX of Jackfish, please sign the papers and set me free!

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