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User Topic: I Have Herpes
threeofus
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I forced myself to go to my doctor to get STD tests. It has been almost a month since D day. I have never had a herpes test. Never really thought about it. Got the test because doctor mentioned it. I have gotten other tests before. I am still numb. I have not cried at all. I am sure I am in shock. Life can change instantly. I knew this before, now it is my reality.


D-Day: 08-10-05
Married: 18 Years
Together : 19 Years
Kids: 23 Year Old Daughter
me: BS, 44

him: WS, 42
Separated November 08
File for D January 09
D May 2010
Dated SO 3 Years
D Day 07 05 14

Boiled down to being with someone I cou


Posts: 285 | Registered: Dec 2005 | From: maryland
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG - I'm so sorry. It's unbelievable that his selfishness could do this.

Again - I'm sorry


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Skan
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. It's truly amazing to me, that someone who theoretically loves you and wants only the best for you, could blithely put your health at such risk. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5102 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( threeofus )))

I'm so, so sorry.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6692 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
whiteflower99
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

im sorry


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1777 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
threeofus
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@painfulpast......Thank you. I wish cheaters knew the pain they caused in a real way.


D-Day: 08-10-05
Married: 18 Years
Together : 19 Years
Kids: 23 Year Old Daughter
me: BS, 44

him: WS, 42
Separated November 08
File for D January 09
D May 2010
Dated SO 3 Years
D Day 07 05 14

Boiled down to being with someone I cou


Posts: 285 | Registered: Dec 2005 | From: maryland
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me, too. on top of that, I've had many outbreaks due to stress. 4 outbreaks in the almost 9 months, since he got it from the hooker. And! I am allergic to acyclovir. So I just have had to suffer through it.

My husband does understand the pain. He doesn't take the acyclovir, either, even though he has no issue taking it. He has also had three outbreaks. I only wish he'd considered before.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
threeofus
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone!!!! I did not and have not had any symptoms. From what I read, some people do not have symptoms at all. I also read that some people do not know they have it and that it is very common. I encourage anyone reading this to get tested if you have not.


D-Day: 08-10-05
Married: 18 Years
Together : 19 Years
Kids: 23 Year Old Daughter
me: BS, 44

him: WS, 42
Separated November 08
File for D January 09
D May 2010
Dated SO 3 Years
D Day 07 05 14

Boiled down to being with someone I cou


Posts: 285 | Registered: Dec 2005 | From: maryland
steppingup
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HUGS)))) so VERY VERY SORRY For you. The WS crew never think much of these things, they only think of this > ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME.

God bless you and take very good care of yourself, hopefully you can control the virus most of the time.


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, for our God is a consuming fire. Hebrews 12:29


Posts: 661 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: CALI
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry, it's a horrible diagnosis to get. I have it too but I've only ever had one outbreak and nothing since then. I hope it stays under control for you.

I know this is really hard to do but it might be worth considering that you didn't get it from your WH. If you've never been tested for it until now it's entirely possible that you've had it for years and not known. Mine has been inactive for eleven years, if I hadn't had that first initial outbreak I wouldn't have a clue.

[This message edited by BrokenButTrying at 6:16 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1267 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry about your diagnosis. That said, I tested positive for herpes after my husband's ONS - but he hadn't touched me between the time of the ONS and the test. I have apparently had it (we both have) for years with zero symptoms. It isn't necessarily going to be a life-changer. I do get cold sores (different strain of herpes) and Lysine supplements help a great deal with that. It's my understanding that it can also help with genital herpes.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6937 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
SunshineSoul
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just found out today that I have it too. I'm in shock.

I had the full panel of STD tests not long after I found out about the cheating. I tested negative for both strains, and everything else. However, stupid, stupid, STUPID me continued to sleep with my husband unprotected, who had not yet been tested. He kept putting it off, saying he knew he was clean. I put an end to the sex last week and insisted he get tested. My instinct was screaming at me. Turns out he has herpes. So I got retested. I'm now positive.

I'm such a fool.


Me = BS, 36
Him = WH, 42
2 beautiful kids: 6yo & 11 month old.
Married since 2001, together since 1998.
Dday = Feb 20, 2014.

It's just not that simple.


Posts: 110 | Registered: May 2014 | From: West Coast
determinata
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Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((((((threeofus)))))))))))))))
(((((((((((((sunshinesoul)))))))))))))))


M 2007. DDay 2008
~10+ CL Prostitutes in 8 months
Divorcing SAWH "ActionsOverWords"
Me: Early 30s BW (also an adult OC) w Baby DS

6 years of TT, hidden STD & false R
Separated 5 mos+; he will not commit
Someday I will be okay


Posts: 288 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York City
UneasyFeelings
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Default  Posted: 2:15 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This not the end of the world. Which type do you have, 1 or 2?

1 is the common one. My doctor warned me ahead of time for my testing, 1 in 4 people have herpes type 1. The cold sore variety. My doctor says it's so common and not a big deal.

My WW tests negative for it. But I tested positive for antibodies. He says there's no way of knowing when I was exposed, just that I was.

I've never taken a std test before, so who knows when. Never had a outbreak or any suspicious symptoms.


Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2014
Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 3:47 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big hugs.

I have suffered from type 1 since 1993. When I was a kid, I had relatives constantly wanting to kiss on the lips. It is the ONLY way I COULD have gotten it in my system, I think.

In 1993, I got the sickest I EVER got in my life. I had 4 different infections going on in my body and it weakened it so much, the cold sore virus (herpes 1) reared its ugly head and hasn't left me alone since.

My point is is that people retain symptom free for a long time until something calls it up and an outbreak happens.

Maybe this true for Herpes 2. All I know is that when I was married and now when I have dated, the very SECOND a cold sore rears up, I shut down sexually. I will NOT share it with anyone...because it CAN bring about Herpes 2


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 689 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
SunshineSoul
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Type 2 for me.


Me = BS, 36
Him = WH, 42
2 beautiful kids: 6yo & 11 month old.
Married since 2001, together since 1998.
Dday = Feb 20, 2014.

It's just not that simple.


Posts: 110 | Registered: May 2014 | From: West Coast
sunny58
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Hugs to all)))

The WS crew never think much of these things, they only think of this > ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME.

^^^^^
Right you are. Pure selfishness !!!


Divorce Final - 9/25/2014

"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. It comes from friends and loved ones."


Posts: 93 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
threeofus
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again everyone for sharing and the encouragement.

@ Uneasy - I have both HSV1 and HSV2. My doctor said most people have HSV1.

I have had a few cold sores in my life, but not many. The last one may have been within the last two years. I did not think much of it. My doctor said I had the antibodies. I got a phone call while at work, so I could not ask a ton of questions...no privacy at work at all. I don't know when or where I got this. I was intimate with only my ex-husband for over 20 years. He of course was unfaithful. Since then, I have only been intimate with 2 people and both was unprotected (I asked about other STD's and those partners were fine). I told the most recent person...figuring I would work my way backwards. I did get the medication and took my first pill last night. Again, I am still in shock. I see myself differently now....not perfect.

Anyone else have any outbreaks or suggestions for dealing with this emotionally? I am going to an IC. She is very good. That will be helpful to me.


D-Day: 08-10-05
Married: 18 Years
Together : 19 Years
Kids: 23 Year Old Daughter
me: BS, 44

him: WS, 42
Separated November 08
File for D January 09
D May 2010
Dated SO 3 Years
D Day 07 05 14

Boiled down to being with someone I cou


Posts: 285 | Registered: Dec 2005 | From: maryland
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry..all of you that have been not only emotionally and mentally hurt but now physicallly. The recklessness of such selfish actions.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5242 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I only have type 2.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

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