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User Topic: Help! OW child enrolled in my class
Ginny
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How is it going, mybrknhrt? I have been thinking of you as school starts. I hope you are doing well!


BW49
FWH50
DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
DS28
Trying to R

Posts: 108 | Registered: Apr 2014
MyBrknHrt
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Default  Posted: 1:17 AM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

G-
Thankfully things have been going very well. We've been in session for a week now and so far the OW is following the boundaries set in place before school began. She apparently is "so embarrassed" and "not proud of what she did".

My student is exactly that another student. The first day was so busy that I really didn't have time to think about the ow at all. However, I did notice that I didn't even want to look at this student on the first day.

As the students came in on the third day many students greeted me with a hug. However, this one stood slightly behind the others, looking timid and unsure of her welcome. (I'm not sure what made me do it, I didn't even realize what I was doing till I'd done it) Next thing I knew I opened my arms to her and gave her a hug too.

Turns out my boss was right and I just needed reminding. Children are innocent. And I just don't have it in me to be mean to a child.


Me-BW
H-WH
Married 22 years
3 kids 19,17,13
Dday 6-11

Posts: 13 | Registered: Jul 2014
veronique12
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, that's an amazing story MyBrknHrt. I am really touched. Maybe having this child in your class will turn out to be a blessing and help you find peace. You sound like you've overcome a major obstacle with flying colors. I'm proud of you.


BW: me (38)
WH: 43
OW: false "friend"
D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for nearly 20 years
2 beautiful young kids

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Ginny
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Next thing I knew I opened my arms to her and gave her a hug too.

Wow! Good for you! That just shows what a wonderful teacher you must be.

I am a music teacher and taught OW's daughter for years. I pray she never finds out what her mother did. I really thought the world of that girl.


BW49
FWH50
DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
DS28
Trying to R

Posts: 108 | Registered: Apr 2014
SpecialK
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

God bless you, you don't know what the mother has told the little girl about you, and your spontaneous welcoming hug was just what she needed. Your heart is in the right place. Good luck

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Asil0623
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What kind of mother would put her innocent child in this position?? She has no idea how you'll treat her child. I'm not saying YOU, personally, would pick on her child but she really doesn't know you, does she?


Me-BS
Him- WH
Reconciling? It takes two.

Posts: 60 | Registered: Feb 2014
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the update....did not know when school started for you....
love the hug story...!!


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 676 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
Forged1
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was very decent of you. While it obviously isn't the child's fault, that doesn't make it any easier for you.

If anybody needs reminding that the world is full of fantasic people, they should come and read this thread.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
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At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


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MyBrknHrt
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, August 26th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for your kind words and encouragement. I definitely had help from above on this one.

As for what kind of mother is she? I don't think there are enough adjectives that can truly convey the type of woman she is.

While I did confront her during the A telling her, " if you won't leave my husband alone as one woman to another; as one mother to another, leave my children's father alone. Don't be the reason they have a broken home." , she doesn't know me. (Ack! Errors I know. Too tired to figure it out.)

I guess now she knows me as the woman WH couldn't, wouldn't and didn't leave. And not just for the kids!!


Me-BW
H-WH
Married 22 years
3 kids 19,17,13
Dday 6-11

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