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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Looked in the mirror this morning and saw the reflection of a fucking hamster on a wheel running his ass off through this in house separation bullshit, looking for a way off the damn wheel.

Looked at the reflection of the pathetic soul in bath behind me and saw a broken creature too afraid to look into her own shadow, who'd rather jump from distraction to dstraction and OM to OM rather than facing the shame and fixing the damage within.

Wasn't sure which reflection was more disturbing.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
FrmrBH80124
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

broken creature too afraid to look into her own shadow, who'd rather jump from distraction to dstraction and OM to OM rather than facing the shame and fixing the damage within.


^^^^^^^^^ FAR MORE DISTURBING.

Hamster may be running in circles but it isn't hurting anyone or destroying something of value like say a marriage.

Hang in there H&L. This too shall pass.


ME - BH 45
Her - XWS 30
D - April 2010 - never looked back and good riddance.
Happily remarried!

Though much is taken, much abides; and though we are not now that strength which in old days
moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are


Posts: 181 | Registered: Apr 2014
Forged1
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I'd go with the second one as being the more disturbing.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


Posts: 307 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
WastedTime12
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((H&L))),

In house separation is a hell all on it's own. I agree with the others, her reflection is far more disturbing. Things will get better once the in house separation is over. It all just sucks right now, go easy on yourself.


Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!

In his quest for freedom, he set me free!


Posts: 140 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Dallas, TX
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personally, I think you're doing great to be a hamster during IHS.

Oh, Harvey, Harvey
Harvey the Wonder Hamster
He doesn't bite and he doesn't squeal
He just runs around on his hamster wheel
Harvey, Harvey
Harvey The Wonder Hamster
HEY HARVEY!!!

--Weird Al Yankovic



Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1860 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bathroom sharing is a couple thing.

It stops during in - house. Just so you know....

(((Hamster)))


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At least the hamster is making an effort to get somewhere. As soon as that wheel moves, he'll be off and running.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 9:34 AM, August 2nd (Saturday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In house definitely deserves it's own special level in hell.

And I agree with the others...you shouldn't be sharing bathroom time anymore. Hell no.

It's in house separation. SEPARATE.

Hang in there. It gets better. Sometimes it takes a long fucking time though.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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