I know you feel trapped but, this is no way to live and, it's an awful example to your grandson to learn about relationships. It will most likely mean some uncomfortable changes will have to take place but, you don't have to put up with this. Go see a lawyers ASAP and tell him what is going on. This is out and out emotional abuse.
Not to mention the obvious issues but, you are allowing him to play Russian roulette with your health. You could potentially end up with a STD. Some are not curable.
You are being used and you are the only one who can put a stop to it.
he has agreed to only see her 1 weekend a month but he emails n calls her several times a day
Are you fucking kidding me?
Do you see what you just wrote? your husband has outlined for you the affair that he is going to continue to have and you've agreed to some parameters within which it can occur.
You need to get out of this situation.
No more sex.
And NO, you do not have to stay in this relationship because of your grandson. Your WH is going to have to support you in some fashion.
You need an attorney. Yesterday. If you don't have the resources, call a local domestic violence shelter and ask them for help and suggestions.
Do not take this abuse or disrespect for another minute. You feel used because you are being used.
Only you can stop it.
You can do it.
We are here to support you.
Take control, Kelly.
P.s. It's not "strange",i t's straight from the unremorseful cheater's handbook. They all do it.
[This message edited by nekorb at 9:44 PM, August 1st (Friday)]
Talk to a lawyer. Find out what your options are. You are entitled to financial support, and will not be left destitute. Nekorb says it well.
Please take action to save yourself.
his continuing A is going to eat away at you until there is nothing left of you. If you die of stress (or a broken heart), where will your grandson be then?
Please read that repeatedly until it sinks in.
Kelly, your husband is *counting on* your fear to keep you exactly where you are.
You deserve more than this and so does your grandson. Only you can make it happen.
We get that it is scary, we've all been there in some form. When you take that first step that says to him, "fuck you!", you will start to feel a little bit of strength.
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.
Do you have a counselor available to you? At Church? Local shelter? Do you have family or friends to help?
This is not ok, KellyAnn. Don't let him convince you it is or allow it to go on.
Have not read all your other threads but one thing you should do is make sure he only has one week end of sex per month.
None from you .
You need to get out of there