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User Topic: Long-distance WH response to D-day
TrampledRose
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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any advice for long distance relationships? Or how to respond without alienating him till he gets back? I reals I want to reconcile. I love him. I know he loves me. He just loves himself and his bad habits more, I guess.

[This message edited by TrampledRose at 7:45 PM, August 13th, 2014 (Wednesday)]


Me: BS, 28
Him: WS, 35, multiple OEAs, one PA
D-Day June 2014

Married 5 yrs, 3 small children and an angel baby. Hoping to reconcile but have been separated since D-Day because he is military and deployed.


Posts: 17 | Registered: Jul 2014
cantgetup
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Default  Posted: 3:38 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have a lot more issues to deal with besides the distance apart. He's not remorseful one bit, he's making excuses for his very poor continued behavior and affairs, he's chastising you for doing what you need to do to feel safe (checking up on him) and your being engaged in some weird sex fantasy shit that you don't want to. To continue to do this so he won't do it with others is a very dangerous proposition. I would use the next 2 months of him being gone to get yourself healthy so you can deal with the shit he is going to come home with in a healthy way.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Jul 2012
jjct
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

how to respond without alienating him = walking on eggshells.

You deserve better in life, don't you think?

cantgetup's advice is spot on.

Use the distance & space to your advantage, like cantgetup said. Get yourself healthy.
hugs.


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