[This message edited by soveryweary at 3:30 PM, August 2nd (Saturday)]
Hang in there. When girls get older they become our friends again.
I have 3 girls. 27, 25 and......yikes 17 (shiver)
Hang in there, Sovery....
DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs
I edit often for clarity.
I have 3 boys, so no experience with dealing with girls and I'm sure that there is a difference. My oldest son and I locked horns a few times last summer because I acted like a *parent*, he didn't like that so much, and he knew that he could just spend his time at friend-dad's house.....and I let him.
Recently, I felt as if my kid was being a bit too *dismissive* of me when I was talking to him about an issue. I felt the need to remind him that, while I was his mom, I was also a *person*. So I told him that he needed to cut me some slack and stop being an ass about <this> issue. I told him that my past wasn't what I thought it was, my present was full of a bunch of chaos/drama (which I despise), and my future was completely up in the air and most likely going to be determined by a person who didn't even know me (a judge).
Your daughter sounds as if she needs an empathy lesson. This situation has given you a *perfect* opening to discuss YOUR values in regards to how relationships should operate and why messing around with a 'taken' person is wrong.....
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Having said that, setting the record straight with an adult or near adult child is reasonable. I had to do it with DS. His father told him that he and the OW were 'just friends' and that I didn't want him to have friends. I calmly explained the thousands of dollars that his father had spent on viagra It wasn't a conversation I ever wanted to have with my son, but it needed to be said. I don't get involved in his relationship with his father, though.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.