I am purchasing a second home prior to filing so my kids have some stability in this shit storm. Her folks are providing a personal loan so I can make a cash offer, as a deal between them and I; in their words "we don't make deals with her, she's never followed through...." (um, they could have warned me prior to M!)
STBX and I are countering on a house tomorrow that needs some work but the bones are good. I couldn't do a good analysis the first time through as the kids were rambunctious so I met the realtor a second time and did a 45 minute walk through jotting notes (I grew up working with my Dad doing light construction and used to inspect buildings through my work, along with calculating market and replacement values and deferred maintenance, so while not all knowing I'm not a clown). I noted roughly $35k in work that needed to be done (for perfect new condition house) and factored that into the offer price. Biggest three issues are roof, siding, and electrical, which in my area can be accomplished for under $20k, and are factored into the equity loan I will use to pay in Laws back and make repairs. Should come out with a 70% LTV when its said and done.
STBX starts a conversation about how OM is a licensed contractor and has offered to go through the house before I counter on Monday, just to make sure she's not going to get screwed over. I just looked at her (as I've done quite a bit lately) like she had OM's appendage growing out of her forehead, and said nothing. She honestly didn't get it, and attempted to ask for over an hour why I was angry and wasn't speaking to her.
Cake eating lying cheating head up her ass stbxw (not soon enough) is the most selfish, clueless, dishonest person I have met since my ex wife. The fact that I bred with either one leads me to question my own mental state. SHE THINKS I'M BUYING HER A HOUSE, DESPITE THE FACT I HAVE REITERATED TIME AND AGAIN THAT I AM BUYING MY KIDS A HOUSE! She forgets I WILL remain on title as I will receive 50% of any and all equity if / when its sold.
If it weren't for the fact that I can come to SI and vent / rant / ramble I am sure I would have exploded weeks ago, adding to the dysfunctional bull shit my kids are enduring.