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User Topic: How long after separating did you file for divorce?
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBXWW was in a big hurry too (we are common law though, so no waiting period). I decided to capitalize and force some things into the separation agreement by threatening to drag things out.

"Everything works if you let it." - Travis W. Redfish

DDay - June 7, 2014
Me - 43
WW - 41
DD - 6 and 3
Pulling the Plug

Posts: 397 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Ontario
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are separated in the same house right now. He wanted to separate to think things through, 2wks later I found out he had been breaking NC w OW and I filed 2 days later. He should be served this wk sometime I hope. Definitely don't rush since he's pushing for it, make sure you get what you are owed

Me: 33 BS 2 boys (2yr & 5yr)
Him: 33 WH, sex addict, then 12 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Together 15yrs, married 7yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
NC broken 7/28/14- pathetic piece of crap PA began.
Separated, R during divor

Posts: 507 | Registered: Nov 2013
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't wait for separation. I mean not legal separation that is. I filed right after I discovered she had broken her agreement to cease all contact with OM. Then I stupidly withdrew the divorce filing after an Oscar performance of regret. After months (6?) of repeated discoveries and repeated promises to stop, I just had a lot of time in my head to play it out. I decided out of both shit sandwiches I'd rather eat the one that meant I didn't have to live with her and have my kids see me become a shell of a man.

DDays- too many

Status - In D.

Posts: 90 | Registered: Mar 2014
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kicked his ass out in late March. Told him we were done. Pushed for a dissolution instead of divorce as it was faster. Was delayed because we had to agree on settlement before I could file and he was living out of state with latest OW and him-hawing on getting me info. Filed completed dissolution paperwork in August. Hearing and final court approval was in October. Not all states offer a dissolution option, but I am thankful mine does.

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 10:15 PM, August 5th (Tuesday)]

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

Posts: 1264 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow. your husband is a major selfish entitled asshole. Really really reminds me of my own.
trying to convince you it's not your bedroom???? when you were 3 months pregnant????? then demanding divorce because his main concern is him dating again???? Sorry, I know you're sad that he wants a divorce so quickly, but this guy is so selfish, he can't think about anyone beside himself. Maybe it's not such a bad thing to be divorced from him ASAP.

But my story is :
11yrs married
I was 6 mos pregnantFebruary 23 , 2014 he said "I love you so much until I die. You're my dream come true. I'm so lucky you want to have my baby. I don't want to have a child with anyone but you"

3 DAYS LATER he left me, saying "I don't feel spiritually complete. But we can't legally divorce until the baby is born"

5 weeks later April 6 2014 I found out that he was already shacking up with orangutan princess.

May 21 2014 a week after the baby was born, I was SERVED.

so from separation to being served is less than 3 months, but that's because he had to wait until the baby is born. If he didn't it probably would have been the next day!

Posts: 307 | Registered: May 2014 | From: Hawaii
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I forgot to say sorry for the loss of your pregnancy. I was 6 months pregnant when he left and 7 months pregnant when I found out about affair. My baby did not do well. My doctors were afraid they might have to take out the baby early. My deep condolences.

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