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User Topic: A year later
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dday was 8/13/2013. It was a Sunday night. We had just gotten home from a family vacation with all 4 kids. I had a business trip starting the next day. I flew to corporate HQ in a daze. Trying to present my 5 year strategy plan coherently was one of the hardest things I've ever done. My head was spinning, I hadn't slept at all. I had no confidence in myself.

Today, one week before the first anniversary of Dday, I'm staying in the same hotel visiting the same office.

And I didn't think about any of this until this morning. I wasn't in knots leading up to the trip, I didn't choose another hotel thinking about the very difficult conversations WH and I had while I was here.

For those early in the journey: It does get better.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 337 | Registered: Sep 2013
Skan
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4804 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, August 6th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does get better, with time and healing. Thank you so much for sharing the positive story!

Posts: 7098 | Registered: Dec 2010
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great to hear!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1966 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5654 | Registered: Aug 2007
neverdidithink
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Member # 40568
Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH was super attentive before I left and it had me a little concerned. In hindsight, I realize that while the "significance" of this trip was not on my mind, he was well aware of it.

I'll call that progress on both sides.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 337 | Registered: Sep 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2587 | Registered: Aug 2012
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