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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i left my cheating (livei-in) boyfriend over a year ago
i remember when i came here and found a lot of understanding and support
and a lot of misery and pain that i could relate to

i just wanted to come back after all this time and say IT GETS BETTER

the best thing I did was leave him --- sooo glad I did not let him me anymore

i know the pain
the feeling of betrayal
the anger
the bitter tears
the horrible, horrible crying --- with the deep heaving and unbelievable torment of why, why, why?

you're allowed to go through it but be strong
you know this isn't good for you
you will get through it
you will be happy again

the best thing i did since i left him was cutting off all contact --- and even then he kept texting me for 6 more months.... but since i never answered thankfully he gave up

i'm happy now
and can barely believe i grieved so badly over him
they are not worth it

just wanted to share hope

and that advice (cut off contact!)

hugs and love to all ye brokenhearted

you deserve to be happy!

me: bgf - 46
him: wwbf - 40
lived together 2-1/2 years
dday1 dec 16 2012 found texts
dday2 dec 29 2012 intercepted texts
dday3 feb 20 2013 found texts during false R
status: its over

Posts: 68 | Registered: Jan 2013
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi haleyscomet,

I am so happy you are in a better place.
It is very healthy to take a stand for yourself.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey & giving hope to the rest of us.

Wishing you the best of luck in the future.

together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1396 | Registered: Dec 2012
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! Today is my first day on this site, and it feels so good to hear things like this. The more I see things like this the better I feel.

Thank you for posting this, it really does help

"Evil can only win when good men do nothing"

Posts: 36 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: NM
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi there!

Thanks for your post, I needed to know there is hope! I just left my fiancÚ, we were supposed to get married tomorrow...

We deserve so much better than these cheating/lying men!

Best of wishes for you, and thanks again for sharing your experience and hope.

Left his ass!

Posts: 13 | Registered: Aug 2014
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad that you're doing much better and Thank You for coming back to share that with everyone here!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course it gets better - you are correct.

Life is too short to waste on lying, selfish assholes.

I'm in your club and happy to be a member.

Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1807 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is so awesome!

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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post gives me hope!! Thank you!

The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are stronger at the broken places. -Ernest Hemingway

Posts: 255 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Missouri
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear that you are happy. Thanks for sharing.

Me: BW(45)
Him: WH (45)
4 kids
Married 22 years

D-Day #1 March 2002- 4 month EA and PA with co -worker
D-Day #2 March 2012 - inappropriate relationship with co-worker

In R

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