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haleyscomet (original poster member #38250) posted at 9:03 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
i left my cheating (livei-in) boyfriend over a year ago
i remember when i came here and found a lot of understanding and support
and a lot of misery and pain that i could relate to
i just wanted to come back after all this time and say IT GETS BETTER
the best thing I did was leave him --- sooo glad I did not let him me anymore
i know the pain
the feeling of betrayal
the anger
the bitter tears
the horrible, horrible crying --- with the deep heaving and unbelievable torment of why, why, why?
you're allowed to go through it but be strong
BE STRONG
you know this isn't good for you
you will get through it
you will be happy again
the best thing i did since i left him was cutting off all contact --- and even then he kept texting me for 6 more months.... but since i never answered thankfully he gave up
i'm happy now
and can barely believe i grieved so badly over him
they are not worth it
just wanted to share hope
and that advice (cut off contact!)
hugs and love to all ye brokenhearted
you deserve to be happy!
me: bgf - 46
him: wwbf - 40
lived together 2-1/2 years
dday1 dec 16 2012 found texts
dday2 dec 29 2012 intercepted texts
dday3 feb 20 2013 found texts during false R
status: its over
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 2:47 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
Hi haleyscomet,
I am so happy you are in a better place.
It is very healthy to take a stand for yourself.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey & giving hope to the rest of us.
Wishing you the best of luck in the future.
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
LoveIsDead ( new member #44424) posted at 2:59 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
Wow! Today is my first day on this site, and it feels so good to hear things like this. The more I see things like this the better I feel.
Thank you for posting this, it really does help 
"Evil can only win when good men do nothing"
NobleHeart ( new member #44414) posted at 3:08 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
Hi there!
Thanks for your post, I needed to know there is hope! I just left my fiancé, we were supposed to get married tomorrow...
We deserve so much better than these cheating/lying men!
Best of wishes for you, and thanks again for sharing your experience and hope.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 4:10 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
I'm so glad that you're doing much better and Thank You for coming back to share that with everyone here!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
NeverAgain2013 ( member #38121) posted at 4:14 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
Of course it gets better - you are correct. 
Life is too short to waste on lying, selfish assholes.
I'm in your club and happy to be a member.
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
10yearsafter ( member #43139) posted at 5:16 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
BaseballMom31 ( member #43637) posted at 2:36 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
This post gives me hope!! Thank you!
The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are stronger at the broken places. -Ernest Hemingway
theroadahead ( member #43334) posted at 2:03 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
So glad to hear that you are happy. Thanks for sharing.
Me: BW(46)
Him: WH (46)
D-Day #1 March 2002- 1 year EA then 4 month PA with co worker
D-Day #2 March 2012 - EA with different co-worker
It's funny how sometimes the people you'd take a bullet for,are the ones behind the trigger.
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