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User Topic: t/j somewhat on delivery room
deena04
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How many have or have not let the WS in the room during delivery? I don't think I will let him. He lost that right in my opinion. Granted, we are a ways off, but I will be more comfortable without him in there. Has anyone else restricted WS after finding out and having a baby?


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
L-I-B-E-R-A-T-I-N-G ME

Posts: 1237 | Registered: Dec 2013
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have a member who just recently went through this.

If I can find it I will bump it, I think she decided on not having him there.

*the thread is in JFO, no update on the baby or if her WS was in the delivery room.

I think in light of the circumstances you have every right not to have him there.

It's such an emotional time.

I think in Greece or another European country, it is a custom to throw shoes at the father during labor.

I wanted to do that with my first labor and delivery

[This message edited by imagoodwitch at 9:28 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5484 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I was in nursing school we did a unit on other cultures and childbirth rituals. There was apparently a Native American tribe with a ritual I thought was awesome: The father was suspended over the mother with leather cords tied around his scrotum, with the ends in the mother's hands. She could pull on them with each contraction and allow him to share the pain.

That would have appealed to me greatly.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2890 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
deena04
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm...throwing shoes, suspending by the scrotum...love it! It made me laugh imagining those things in my case.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
L-I-B-E-R-A-T-I-N-G ME

Posts: 1237 | Registered: Dec 2013
tryingmybest2011
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, August 7th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I opted not to have WS in the delivery room last spring, when we had DD2. I asked my mother to be there instead, and WS looked after DD1, along with my father.

I felt much more comfortable without him there - I feel very self-conscious around him now, and didn't really want to have to filter anything or feel embarrassed.

He came in afterwards, at the same time as DD1 and my dad, so it wasn't that awkward. I don't even think he realized I didn't want him there. I imagine he views it as a mutual decision. It helped my case that he was "sick" from stress following DD1s birth.

Sorry you are faced with this type of decision.


BS: me - 37
WH: him - 37
DD: 8
DD: 11 mos

Married over 9 years, together for 18.

DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).

In limbo.


Posts: 323 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Ontario Canada
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 2:53 AM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do what makes you most comfortable Deena. It's not like he can't see the baby after its born but labor requires total concentration as you know...no distractions or stress.
Man I really like that scrotum idea...makes me want to have another baby just to yank those leather cords

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:54 AM, August 8th (Friday)]


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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