He told me one thing but his texts said another. I'm so sick of being lied two 10+ times a day. Barf. Who needs this?
No one needs this and no one should EVER have to live through this.
I didn't tell my XWW that I filed for divorce.
After D-day, I offered her a chance of forgiveness and working to put our family back together.
Within days I found her car in the shitbag adultery partner's driveway.
I was not really surprised. I stopped and confronted them - not as a husband, but as a father to tell them that they were putting two little boys through Hell for their selfish bullshit.
They didn't give a flying-fuck. Not even her - their mother.
For the next several months my POS XWW would threaten me with divorce every week when I told her she was a toxic and dysfunctional and needed help. I never told her not to file or responded to her threats in any way.
I never told her that I was going to retain an attorney.
I never told her I filed for divorce.
At this point, I considered the divorce my personal business in which she had no ability to change.
I was divorcing her - Period. She wasn't going to be able to change that FACT.
I knew that ANY attempt at reconciliation would have been futile. I simply can't accept that shit in my life.
I let her find out on her own. She found out at work and started balling. She called me and wanted to talk. I told her no.
I held fast to my values and morals in the WORST of times. My sons needed to have that example.
Tell him, don't tell him. Doesn't matter.
What matters is that you be true to yourself, your values, and what is right.
You will be so incredibly glad you did.