I know more about ons then I want too.
[This message edited by william at 10:46 AM, August 10th (Sunday)]
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
I don't know if "helpful" is a word that I really want to use, but for lack of a better one, I think that it was helpful to me that it was a completely anonymous person that he found on the web. She was essentially the first person with the correct genitalia that said yes to him. Had this been a co-worker, someone that he had an actual relationship, even if only a working relationship (and I mean that in every loaded sense of the words), I think that it would have been its own special kind of hell. I know that for about a year, I was constantly braced for some strange woman to accost him or me in places that we volunteered, because he all but gave out his address (along with his photo) on what he did in his spare time and when. I don't think that I could see him go off to work each day, knowing that there might be a possibility of him contacting the OW, even indirectly. Him immediately getting another job or fixing it work-wise, through boss, HR, or whatever, that he never had to have contact would have been a bare minimum demand from me.
I'm glad that you're seeking support here.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
How could you
... With a complete stranger?
... With a friend of ours?
Its like the what's worse - a ea or pa question.
They all are betrayal and all hurt. But it is a different pain.
He said he was single on the site. He bought her dinner, took her to a hotel, quite a drive away, and dropped her off in the morning.
He admitted he was married after the deed was done.
I think my situation is atypical in that I had no anger towards the OW as she had no clue he was married.
This was totally premeditated though.
The whole "business trip" cliche - hard to take. They found themselves in a situation and didn't think of what they SHOULD be doing. Agony all the same, yet somehow easier to work with than a premeditated intentional hook-up? Who knows.