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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the combo of stress/grief about the death of my bro in law has caught up w me. He want in a dramatic way-lack of proper care in an ambulance in Moscow led to a coma. This was in June. Sister stuck in Russia w him for two weeks, me on call for her at all hours. Finally med evac ed home, testing determined no recovery possible and the unplugging of life support. I was w my sister when he passed on June 27.

I've visited her several times since. I've kept it together, but last weekend I taught two days of a bodywork training, 9-6 sat and sun. It was out of town so I stayed w my sister and commuted to school. It was too much. I haven't recovered my energy since.

I did my thyroid labs, they were a bit under but my doc said to take herbs to nourish my adrenals before upping the thyroid hormone I already take. She thought my fatigue was stress related and I agree.

All. Week I was dragging, waking up tired. tho I kept working. Today I don't have to do anything and I am not inclined to get far from my bed. Reading, napping. Viewing the outlander episode again.

I hope I recover soon. It's been a long time since I felt this awful ' chronic fatigue-y' type feeling. It's only been a week of feeling unusually tired. so I hope to come back soon.

The memorial is next week and I am going to print the program, get the photos blown up, and I want to figure out what to say. I'm a bit afraid that I won't be able to stop crying once the memorial starts. There will be 60-100 people there.


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((IL))

i was just thinking about you. You've been everyone else's caretaker. Stop, rest, be your own caretaker. If possible let someone else do for you a little.

you'll be just fine at the memorial. Even if you can't stop crying, you'll be in the right place for that.

it's always nice when you post. go take a nap


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agree with hexed completely - rest and take care of you IL. ((InnerLight))

Thinking of you and your sister and sending you strength and support and lots of positive energy. <3


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks for the sweet thoughts. I am taking them to heart...and going back to bed!


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5904 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
yewtree
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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey inner light, sounds like you are getting some much needed rest. I hope you and your sister will be able to breathe once the memorial is done. Take care of yourself!


Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you have to cry, then cry. It's normal, natural and cathartic.

As with everything else, you will weather this. You are grounded and present. I'm sending you lots of strength.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20456 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:07 AM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have every reason to feel wiped out IL. I hope you had a good jammy day.

You obviously needed it.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17709 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
norabird
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((IL)))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spent most of yesterday reading and napping. I wake up STILL tired which is frustrating. My get up and go has got up and went.

My sister said she felt like this last week too. My boyfriend is also feeling it. He was going to visit me today, but he taught a painting class last night and is too tired today. Which is fine by me as I wasn't sure I had the energy to make my place and myself presentable.

Another day with my couch and a book.


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5904 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear you're resting and hopefully you'll be feeling better, more energetic this week. Don't worry about crying at the memorial. Everything will be OK! (((IL)))


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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