It's been a while since I've posted on here. Was trying to work things out for a year and a half of counseling and trying to rebuild trust. Although I can't say that anything infidelity wise happened, he went away for work and was drinking when he's not supposed to and lied to me about it. Drinking has always led him to do inappropriate things. Last time years ago he went away for work and drank a lot and he was flirting with the desk clerk of the hotel or at least start the conversation to which it seems she didn't take to it. Although I don't know anymore because I can't trust him.
It's been quite the battle since I told him two months ago I want a divorce. I made it clear in therapy that if he lied to me again about anything it was over. And so when he went away and was drinking and he lied to me about it, that did it for me.
Now I'm left to figure things out. Have to find a job to hopefully not lose my home. I don't want my girls to have to move, I want to deal with one traumatic thing for them at a time. He's being supportive about paying for things and such at the moment but he's getting antsy where he's staying and wants to get his own place.
I'm depressed a lot and I just sooooo want to be happy! Just have to work through all the details of the divorce, ie custody, support, etc. Me: 37 Him: 39
D-Day 11/22/12 (Thanksgiving will never be the same)
Found out because technology is my friend not his.
Married: 14 yrs. separated: June 2014
A lasted 2ish years.