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User Topic: Sunday blues
Hopeful74
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well it is Sunday and about a week since I started NC. I'm doing pretty good with it. My H has my lil ones this weekend and I have stayed pretty busy with friends and family. But today has been difficult for me. Can't shut my mind off from him and what he has done and what he is doing. I know that NC is supposed to help me but it really hurts that it doesn't faze him because he has someone. He doesn't give a shit that I am not in his life anymore because he just moved on to the next one. Before whoreface #2 (which he denies because, hey I am stupid and gonna totally believe that BS), he was all about spending time with me and and proving to me that he wants to be the man I deserve. It is so easy for him to just move on and leave me behind again, after months of empty promises. He tells me he is waiting for me, but I know it is all a smokescreen. Not sure why I am having such a hard time letting go, when I really know what he is now. I feel like the loser, as he goes about his merry way. And I am left here to pick up the pieces of my heart and my life. I know it shouldn't matter to me, as he is not building anything solid with anyone, but it is not easy being the one left behind AGAIN!!

[This message edited by Hopeful74 at 5:41 PM, August 10th (Sunday)]


Me: BW 39 Him:WH 37 (M)12 years; (T)18 years -2 DD: 16; 3; 1 DS: 9
Separated, headed for Divorce-he's not strong enough for me
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

Posts: 302 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Hampton, VA
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs)))

I have the Sunday blues too, for completely different reasons.

His selfishness is not a reflection of your self worth. I hope your little ones are home soon and your home is full of the noise and distractions of a Monday.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5816 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Hopeful74
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks caregiver!! They got home about 30 minutes ago so now he is free to do whatever and whoever he wants! I feel a little bit better now that they are here. I think maybe the anticipation of them getting home and having to see him and his indifference toward me. He is so much better at the game than I am, which I really should be proud, I guess!


Me: BW 39 Him:WH 37 (M)12 years; (T)18 years -2 DD: 16; 3; 1 DS: 9
Separated, headed for Divorce-he's not strong enough for me
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

Posts: 302 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Hampton, VA
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hmmmm, not having something in common with an indifferent wayward? Yep, goes in the positive column!

Glad to hear you are feeling better.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5816 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Hopeful74
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again caregiver! Fighting the urge to go by the new ones place and blow his secret out of the water!! But I will not! Not my business anymore!! Can't wait til her husband finds out though. Because, if my gut feeling is right, this one is on her 3rs husband


Me: BW 39 Him:WH 37 (M)12 years; (T)18 years -2 DD: 16; 3; 1 DS: 9
Separated, headed for Divorce-he's not strong enough for me
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

Posts: 302 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Hampton, VA
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