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User Topic: 3 years divorced/ 4 separated
MelisssaZZZ
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And my life has stabilised, I have fully reinvented myself in various ways. For most of the time - happy :)!

then BOOM - xwh is taking me to court (to happen in october). to 'rejuggle' finances. become really invasive (using DD as a doorway). accuses me of being god knows what, working hard on creating yet anohter epic drama lama.

Then i check ow fb page. and she is single.. I have to say i have absolutely no feelings about their break up - indifference is bliss.. i did have to laugh as she has gotten fat and looks even uglier...

However, this comes with a sting - he obviously has more time to torment me.. and surely this lawsuit is just the beggining of going fater the person who 'ruined' his life..

sight.. and i have just started dating someone.. its early days and unlikely to survive the sh*tstorm x is creating yet again.


[This message edited by MelisssaZZZ at 6:04 AM, August 12th (Tuesday)]


Me BS - 37
WH 39
1 child - 5yrs
married 5 yrs, together 7
DD1 midmarch 09
DD2 early june 09
some more DD's of course - cannot bother to list
LTA (2 yrs) fully?? finished mid Aug 09
Status: Divorced Oct 2011

Posts: 1235 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: London, UK
LoveHerStill
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Member # 31504
Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shields up!

Remember the basics. Email only for correspondence, or better yet, it all goes through your lawyer concerning the suit.

Do Not Engage, just don't bite when he starts trying to press your buttons.

He most likely has nothing to merit a change in his financial support unless he can prove hardship on his part.

Be up front with SO, but do not involve him in this.


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


Posts: 493 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Seattle, WA
HurtingandLost
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Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would refer all communication through your Lawyer.

My ex wife and I split in 03 and every time she was on the rocks with OM she would stir the drama Llama B.S. with threatened court dates etc. DON'T RESPOND DON'T FEED THE LLAMA! My response is and has always been "There's no need to correspond directly with me, here's my lawyers contact info".


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 1032 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
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