My first post here. Help me analyze this. My CHECK took DD 12 to the doctor today. Initially it was a booster shots this appt was booked months ago. I previously emailed him and notified him by his calendar. Well my daughter was having other issues that I was worried about. So he has the girls week after being out of town for a month and very little contact with both DD's. So last night he starts asking the schedule for the week and he asks what time the appt was. I explained it should already be on his calendar. He starts mentioning meetings today blah blah blah. So this morning rolls around and he texts me early to see if there is a later appt. I had to call anyway to speak with the nurse about the symptoms and what I was worried about. I explained I was irritated that I already notified him by several methods and I didn't know his schedule so maybe its best if he took care of this. I ended up being nice and rearranging the appt at the time I spoke to the nurse. So I call my daughter and explained how I wanted them to check out additional things. The appt is over and I called DD12 and ask her. Her friend was over and she gave me a simple answer. I was worried about her not being truthful because her friend was there and she might want to downplay it. So I called her Dad who immediately went into anger mode hung up and started sending me angry texts calling me passive aggressive and playing games. There were multiple texts. Now he has an anger issue. I am upset I am upset because I rearranged the appt for him...after he fired me from that job long ago... I did tell him he was being a jerk. I also asked why didn't he call me and he responded yeah well you should have called me. The reason I called my DD is I am trying to get her to be responsible for her own body.
So I was being PA or is he throwing a Mantrum? Thoughts please. How should I have handled it different?
Ps dear DH I hate your lying alcoholic ass. What I really want to say is fuck off and die you miserable prick.