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User Topic: former boss at my company contacted me
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's based out of my old state, but is in town on a business trip this week and says she would like to talk about a possible internal job opportunity. That's pretty damn cool, even if nothing comes out of it.

EDIT: clarified that there MAY be a job opportunity, not definite

[This message edited by ProbableIceCream at 11:08 PM, August 12th (Tuesday)]


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well that would be great if something worked out! The timing couldn't be better.


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Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
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Default  Posted: 4:43 AM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jeez, talk about serendipity!... Good luck, and wish I were so fortunate!


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One DD 19
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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very cool!


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They obviously see what the recruiters have been seeing in you - value and talent and great worth!!

Just make sure that it doesn't become a path of least resistance - you know what you are worth in salary and benefits to other companies, so make sure your company is able to match that!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sound like it could be a great opportunity. Sending mojo.

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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks! I hope something good comes out of it. :)

Amazonia, if I understand the policies correctly I would at the very least, and most likely, stay at my current salary/benefits, which if I'm reading the market correctly is quite competitive with other companies here. The health benefits in particular are fantastic. E.g., unlimited mental health services. (Not unlimited as in free, but.. as far as I can tell there's no limit on psychiatrist visits or therapy.)

[This message edited by ProbableIceCream at 12:12 PM, August 13th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fingers crossed!


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ironically, this is kind of stressful for me (thinking about settling in to a new role potentially). I think I've gotten used to my current situation. :)

I suppose all change is like that.


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a breakthrough today. I was getting really stressed out by the fact that I was going back into anxious mode over this, and I wasn't being peaceful and enjoying the day to day stuff like I was the past couple of days.

Then I realized I was creating a positive feedback loop, and it's silly to stress out about being anxious, and I decided to think of it as just a physical symptom, and I chilled out pretty fast at that point.

I want to hold on to enjoying being in the moment and not go back to constantly thinking about the past and the future and being in survival mode. The paradox is that I have to stop caring whether that happens for it to happen. :)

Heh, anyway. This is not to say that I won't do my best with this potential opportunity! To the contrary, I think being calmer will help me with it.


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meeting went really well. Seems likely that I'll end up working for her. (again, not guaranteed, but it seems like she really wants to hire me and what i've heard of the position sounds really great so far -- she does have to juggle some stuff related to the requisition)

Another interesting thing--she used to really intimidate me. It wasn't anything I could point to, I just got a really bad vibe from her. I don't get the vibe any more and I don't feel scared, same as with my dad and with another boss I had that issue with. I think EMDR is responsible for all those improvements. That was my main reservation going into this--I didn't want a boss who would stress me out horribly. But no, I felt completely calm and natural.

She said that I did a really good job previously and that she's glad I eventually got a promotion (earlier this year).


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