No it doesn't sound like your mc counselor was the problem. Your wh is.
Let me tell you where else I heard that cruel rant about a self fulfilling prophecy. From my UNREMORSEFUL ws. Mine said if I believed he was still hiding stuff then that would make it true. It was hurtful but also extremely stupid. It didn't even make sense.
Yeah it sounds like a line from the asshole handbook.
Please know it's not true. You know that right? That is not what made him cheat. He's still blameshifting and gaslighting you.
That's why your mc didn't want you to go anymore. He's not well enough for mc to help. He needs to go back to IC on a regular basis, like weekly, or nothing is going to get better.
He's not going to wake up one day and figure it out. You need to either kick him out or file for divorce to get him to stop and reconsider his priorities. He sounds so nasty and so far from anything positive or healthy.
You've got to force a big change or get away from this guy. He's only going to hurt you more.
We can help. Please keep posting.Me-BW
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.