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User Topic: Anniversary
Melody3
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, August 19th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today would have been anniversary #14. Wow. Hard to believe. It affects me some, but he never celebrated anniversaries.

Out of the blue on this day last year he text me "Happy Anniversary "

It was odd. We were going thru the divorce process at that point.

Now I just feel a little numb to this date.

How do you feel about your anniversaries? I guess it will hold a special memory for me from the past. But not of the present....


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

Posts: 788 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Midwest
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, August 19th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Make this date special for other reasons from this point forward. My wedding anniversary was the same date that the X and I started dating 6 years prior, so it had all sorts of nuanced meaning. I went to Las Vegas with SI friends on my first anniversary post D, and it was wonderful. I have that memory now.

If you have the means, make it the date you take your kids on that fabulous vacation. If you don't have that kind of funding, do something else special, even if it's just 'dinner out at IHOP' night or 'dessert for dinner' night. If your kids are old enough to question the date, make it 'the night I started planning you' night rather than focusing on the wedding aspect.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20160 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Melody3
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, August 19th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love these ideas. Thank you!


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

Posts: 788 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Midwest
Melody3
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, August 19th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If your kids are old enough to question the date, make it 'the night I started planning you' night rather than focusing on the wedding aspect

This would be such a good thing to tell my daughter who is 8. Because she talks about our wedding, asks about my dress, what it was like, etc...esp. after attending a recent family wedding this summer. For me it brings up a LOT of memories of course. But focusing it on the beginning of the family & kids is a great way to approach the conversation.

[This message edited by Melody3 at 5:02 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)]


BS (me): 38
WH: 38
Separated: 9/2/2010
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 13 yrs, Together 20
Two kids, 8 (daughter) & 4(son)
Divorced 12/2013
OW moves 10 min's away from kids and I with my Ex. 6/2014.

Posts: 788 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Midwest
RiseAbove22
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sucks really.
Today would have been my 15th.
Havent heard from her in 6 months.
Good luck with everything be strong

Posts: 108 | Registered: May 2014
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How do you feel about your anniversaries?

Just another day on the calendar to me, even though douche nozzle XPOS sent me a text that said, "Happy former anniversary." He won me a glass of wine with that text on a bet I had with a colleague about whether he would recognize the date in some way. It means nothing to me whatsoever, even after having celebrated over 20 of them in our marriage...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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