[This message edited by BlueBlueEyes at 12:35 PM, August 22nd (Friday)]
OW - multiple, just found out about ALL of them, Husband coming out of years of fog due to multiple childhood and military events.
Hopeful but cautious
While I agree the OBS had ever right to tell your husband about your affair, she does not have carte blanche to harass either you or your husband indefinitely. If she is "messing with your life," start documenting her harassment and go to the police.
Thank you. She's no longer contacting my BH and the other digs aren't anything I can't handle. She's hurt and I understand. She's actually handled it way more gracefully than I would in her shoes.
I assume your BH, who is surely every bit as hurt as she is, isn't acting out and messing with your ex-AP's life.