Also, in her case, she has an H who loves her and is trying to R. I wish she would give him the respect he deserves and forget about my H. If she were truly "alone", I would get it. But she isn't. If I were her H, my heart would be breaking, watching her pine for my H like she's doing...
These OW seem to think if they offer our H's a F*@ in any form, they'll just jump at it!!!??? Okay....whatever.....
On a side note, I hope so badly that your DS is getting help for his abusive behavior towards his GF. It's not okay and it's time for him to break the cycle.
6 years of TT, hidden STD & false R
Separated 5 mos+; he will not commit
Someday I will be okay
What your OW and mine have in common is that they were both married and still pursued their AP, who ended it with them and went back to their wives.
I have concluded that people like that must be pretty empty inside - hollow - to have such utter disregard for other people's feelings.
If a WS chooses - with no one putting a gun to their head - to go back to their spouse - that should speak volumes. Especially if they maintain NC. That is essentially saying, "Not only is it over, but there is nothing - nothing more I have to say to you." But they still harass and pursue and try to tear families apart. They imagine it was true love, and that they now have lost their soul mate. But at best, what they had was an escape - a secret life, a fantasy world they could escape to. And I admit that fantasies can be pretty exciting. But I wonder if they'd really be happy with our spouses if they had them 24/7. If, instead of getting them ONLY when they are hot and horny, they see them when they come home from work grumpy after a long day, or they have to deal with them when they are sick. Or how they think they could juggle a family or a full-time job day-in-and-day- out and still give them and receive from them all the attention and passion they experienced during the A.
OW admits there was nothing more than sex and talk of sex during their LTA. Is that enough to build a life or a real relationship on? I don't think so. But maybe I'm the clueless one? Just wondering here...
Determinata, thanks for thinking about my son. I worry about him every day.
My H's OW banished her H to another state (she's rich and could do that) but did not divorce him. I think she was waiting for my H to leave me first. Which makes me crazy when I think of it. What in the heck kind of marriage do they have? If your S banished you to another state to carry on an A, wouldn't YOU file for D?
These relationships which are based on lies and deceit are also full of so much darkness and unsettling details - I hate with all my being that our marriage has been plunged into this 7th layer of hell.
Faith, forgiveness, and acceptance, as well as the firm belief in the seriousness of vows and promises made before God and witnesses, is what my M is based on and is why I am here.
Hope you are having a good one!