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Men: Arousal issues in NB?

digitaldrifter posted 5/28/2017 11:30 AM

Now, this post isn't going where you think it's going to go! So, I met a lovely lady from a different country online. A few weeks ago for my 36th birthday I made a trip to go see her. We took things slowly (still on the bus, tagged out before I got to 3rd base), which is fine by me. However, I'm not sure if it's because it's been almost 2.5 years since I've been laid or what, but it seems that ANY sort of physical touch from her caused me to get an erection. Seriously, it felt like I was 15 again. We were walking through the mall holding hands, and I had to hold my shopping bag in front of my junk to hide it. I hope I'm not the only one with this issue!

Phantasmagoria posted 5/28/2017 12:55 PM

It's been over 2 years for me too. I can relate, and I'm in my early 50's...so get used to being able to carry your shopping bag hands free for a while yet!

Chrysalis123 posted 5/28/2017 16:37 PM

Well, it's a better problem than the opposite, I think. And good for you to be alive and attracted to someone, and having fun. Thank goodness for shopping bags and briefcases.

nothandlingit posted 5/28/2017 18:13 PM

I had this issue with someone who *really* should not have been a NB and who *really* wanted to be. She noticed, I'm not sure if it encouraged her to ignore my words and listen to my boners.

Anyway when I was still innocent and trying to do the right thing, I was very ashamed about that. Constantly getting up. By the end she only needed to approach me with a happy voice.

digitaldrifter posted 5/28/2017 20:48 PM

Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one! I guess I should feel fortunate that even though I'm closer to 40 than 30, I'm still getting boners like Beavis and Butt-Head.

ADryHeat posted 5/28/2017 22:44 PM

Clearly I'm not a man, but I'll confess that when it's been awhile for me and especially if I'm ovulating or near it, I can get incredibly aroused by the smallest things. I think it's sort of normal when your hormones are all on fire and you haven't had that release in a while.

Also: from a female pov...if I'm into a guy and he can't seem to keep from being turned on in my presence, it's a huge ego boost.

Notfromhere posted 5/29/2017 05:52 AM

I'll second the female perspective - i just turned 40 and am a bit shocked at how my drive has sky rocketed in the couple of months I've been sexually active again. I can't get enough, he can't get enough and it's all around just amazing.
I think I had that side of things on lock down for so long that now the door isn't just unlocked, it's blown wide open.

I would worry about this apart from the obvious need to carry a newspaper around with you. I think most women at this stage in life would find it a huge compliment and turn on.

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