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Lynrobroy (original poster member #56900) posted at 3:46 AM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
So as I posted a few days ago, I had dinner with a friend from work on Friday that turned into us talking for hours.
I initially thought I was not ready and should run, but really didn't want to. Lot's of you posted helpful comments and I decided not to run right away but to proceed with caution.
So I haven't seen him this week and suggested very platonic, sober, get to know each other better as friends type activities. He said that sounded good, but he had to check on a few things and would call me back.
He called back to say, Friday night was better and he had taken the liberty of just booking us a hotel room, (right next to our office 
)
Even better, when I balk he went into full pity party, trying to suggest I was just totally damaged to assume a man would book a hotel room because he expected us to have sex.
Um okay.
But thanks for the reminder that I need to recognize the flags and never ignore them.
Me: BW
Him:WH
Dday 10/17/16
Happily Divorced
Lynrobroy (original poster member #56900) posted at 3:47 AM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Oh and I am still sincerely grateful for the replies I got to my original post.
I had something to learn from every one of them and I could not have learned it anywhere else.
Me: BW
Him:WH
Dday 10/17/16
Happily Divorced
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 4:03 AM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Unfortunately they are out there. Caution is a must after infidelity. We are often so broken ourselves that we hook up with the same type person again. BTDT. It takes a real sleazebag to book a hotel room after only one date and getting upset because you said no. I am so glad you proceeded with caution. Sounds like you dodged a bullet with that one. I always made it a policy to never date someone I worked with. It makes for some uncomfortable encounters if it doesn't work out.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
kpstartingover ( member #47854) posted at 4:23 AM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Gross!! In time you'll get better at listening to the inner voice and separating out your baggage from clear red flags. And if a person is predatory, it can sometimes take awhile to find out if they're good at it.
Onward.
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 4:38 AM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Why book a hotel room for the two of you if sex was not going to be involved? What a creep.
You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.
Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.
I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.
smokenfire ( member #5217) posted at 4:47 AM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Or in a relationship so you can't hang out at his house....
Don't food shop when hungry, or date when you're lonely
How others treat you IS a reflection of your SELF worth, but not your actual WORTH.
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 12:53 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
OMG - whatta azz!!!!
...but on a positive....I am ALWAYS glad when folks show what type of person they are immediately. Saves you lots of time and grief.
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WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 1:21 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 2:04 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
I was just totally damaged to assume a man would book a hotel room because he expected us to have sex.
Gosh Lyn....... sounds like he thought you'd fallen off the infidelity tree, bumping your head on every branch along the way.
What an absolute TWERP.
Well spotted!
...... and on we go
(so many frogs)
MOB xx
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
CornflakeGirl ( member #47629) posted at 4:29 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
I think it was okay to give him a chance. When he went too far, you had awesome boundaries in place so you shut him down.
Like MOB said, you spotted a frog. Onward and upward!
Me: Former BW, Divorced.
2 young and beautiful children
Oh, I've finally decided my future lies beyond the yellow brick road
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