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JerseyCowgirl (original poster member #41441) posted at 10:30 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Coming up on 5 years divorced and I had a sudden urge to listen to our wedding song..."I Do" by Paul Brandt. Of course it brought tears but now just nostalgic ones. What was your wedding song and are you able to listen to it yet?
Me: Divorced 2012
I know that when I truly love & honor myself I am at my best & most complete; and I will never settle for anything less from myself or from anyone else ever again!
Jls0320 ( member #41192) posted at 10:46 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
After the ceremony our song was At Last by Etta James, I actually heard it on a commercial not long ago, it made me stop for a few minutes and brought back some memories. Our first dance song was Mazzy Star's Fade into You, I hear it often and it doesn't really bother me
Me: BS 2 young kiddos
Him: EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one
I.will.survive ( member #34677) posted at 10:50 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Ours was a Kenny Chesney song called She Does. It's about the woman driving him crazy, but he loves her. Huh. I had that prediction totally backwards when I picked it.
I actually had that on shuffle in my car recently. I was able to listen to it once, but when it came on again, I skipped it.
My married life seems like a different life to me now. I'm thankful not to be married to him. Thankful that I'm not still bitter about the betrayal, although the hurt never left.
I don't have the urge to keep listening to wedding songs, that's for sure! 
BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 11:27 PM on Friday, June 2nd, 2017
Ha!! Ours was "You're all I need to get by" which featured in a coke advertisement for a while.
Turns out I wasn't all he needed to get by 
Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 11:48 PM on Saturday, June 3rd, 2017
Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton.
Always loved that song.
Now I hit "skip" when it comes up on Pandora/Spotify.
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 12:27 AM on Sunday, June 4th, 2017
Luckily ours almost never comes on the radio anymore and I deleted it from my iTunes library. I have no desire to listen to it at all so I don't. Like xhole, it is just another song I used to know and like. 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 8:03 AM on Sunday, June 4th, 2017
Ours was "You Are The Sunshine of My Life" by Stevie Wonder. I have zero feelings when I hear it, as it was not my first choice. I wanted "God Only Knows What I'd Be Without You" by the Beach Boys, but the band could not play it
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
ADryHeat ( member #46484) posted at 11:41 AM on Sunday, June 4th, 2017
Mine was Elton John's "Your Song". We actually chose it the day before the wedding after scrapping our other choice. For a long time I couldn't listen to it, but it no longer bothers me.
Me: BSMarried 11 years, 2 young kidsDDay 11/3/14, Discovered he was still a fuckwit: 7/10/15 DIVORCED 11/12/2015"Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried, but actually you've been planted."
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 10:12 PM on Sunday, June 4th, 2017
Ours was Shana Twain's "From this Moment On". I don't listen to the CD anymore. I tried once and it had me in tears just thinking about how happy I was that day for him only a few years later to start his LTA with an old fuck buddy of his. I guess she must have not minded being his side piece for so long, even after he was married to me.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 10:25 PM on Sunday, June 4th, 2017
"more than words" by Extreme.
The song is relatively ironic, don't you think?
It's been over 3yrs since we split and I still can't listen to that song. Songs affect me very deeply but one day I will be able to listen to it without sobbing.
May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.
*********When you know better, you can do better*************
lilies21 ( member #35833) posted at 2:11 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2017
Ours was "Me and You" by Kenny Chesney. On one of our anniversaries, I even printed and framed the lyrics and added our wedding date at the bottom. It hung in our bedroom and was still on the wall when I moved out. Nope, still can't listen to it but thankfully it doesn't play on the radio too often. In info gathering (doesn't hurt anymore so I don't call it pain shopping), I found out AF has it on the playlist for hers and Asshat's wedding. I guess if he can dance to that song at their wedding, he truly is an emotionless psychopath. Maybe some of his family members will at least give him WTF looks.
Me: BS, 30s.
One son.
Many D-Days for excessive porn, Craigslist ads, and EAs/PAs.
Happily divorced since September 2015.
StrongHeart ( member #45092) posted at 3:04 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2017
"Pledging my Love" be Aaron Neville.
What made it worse is that I used to play it (and other Aaron Neville songs) for DS when he was in my womb, and after he was born it would calm him down. DS was 6 months at DDay.
It took me a while, but I can listen to it now without getting upset. I don't love it like I used to though and don't think I ever will.
BS: 32; XWH: 34; DS: 3
DDay: 3/8/2014; D: 8/31/2015
"There is little growing in comfort and little comfort in growing"-unknown
"Don't take your emotional temperature in the ass of a psychopath."-unknown
CornflakeGirl ( member #47629) posted at 4:53 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2017
Mine was "I Could Not Ask for More" by Edwin McCain.
I thought it was a beautiful song and I played it for my ExWH when we were dating. He seemed lukewarm to it. He suggested a couple of other songs that I didn't quite get because they weren't really about love/marriage. Should have been a big red flag.
As for my feelings, I'm very meh about this song. It's a pretty song, but, I feel like he just agreed to this song but it never had meaning to him. I'm not sure anything at all really has meaning to him.
Me: Former BW, Divorced.
2 young and beautiful children
Oh, I've finally decided my future lies beyond the yellow brick road
IfYouCanDream ( member #49689) posted at 7:24 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2017
Well, lucky (?) for me, XH picked the song "She's Everything" by Brad Paisley and I don't like country music...so, I never listened to it when times were good and certainly don't plan to start now. But I also don't feel like I'm purposefully avoiding it.
"May the rage of women through the centuries center you as you go into this."
DDay1 Oct 2011
DDay2 Jul 2015
Divorced Dec 2016
justbreathe74 ( member #53605) posted at 11:00 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2017
Kelly Rowland train on a track. Not my pick... never liked the song and the lyrics although quite pretty... didn't speak to me.
I guess not loving the 1st dance song and him not caring so much if I did or didn't... says something doesn't it.
Me BS
DD 20, DS 25
1st dday online EA October 2000
2nd dday PA Jan 5 2001 resulted in separation. R sept 2001married sept 2003
3rd dday June 8 2016 EA possible PA
separated jan 2017
Divorce filed February 2018
Divorced as of May 2018
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