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JerseyCowgirl posted 6/2/2017 16:30 PM

Coming up on 5 years divorced and I had a sudden urge to listen to our wedding song..."I Do" by Paul Brandt. Of course it brought tears but now just nostalgic ones. What was your wedding song and are you able to listen to it yet?

Jls0320 posted 6/2/2017 16:46 PM

After the ceremony our song was At Last by Etta James, I actually heard it on a commercial not long ago, it made me stop for a few minutes and brought back some memories. Our first dance song was Mazzy Star's Fade into You, I hear it often and it doesn't really bother me

I.will.survive posted 6/2/2017 16:50 PM

Ours was a Kenny Chesney song called She Does. It's about the woman driving him crazy, but he loves her. Huh. I had that prediction totally backwards when I picked it.

I actually had that on shuffle in my car recently. I was able to listen to it once, but when it came on again, I skipped it.

My married life seems like a different life to me now. I'm thankful not to be married to him. Thankful that I'm not still bitter about the betrayal, although the hurt never left.

I don't have the urge to keep listening to wedding songs, that's for sure!

BrokenheartedUK posted 6/2/2017 17:27 PM

Ha!! Ours was "You're all I need to get by" which featured in a coke advertisement for a while.

Turns out I wasn't all he needed to get by

WornDown posted 6/3/2017 17:48 PM

Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton.

Always loved that song.

Now I hit "skip" when it comes up on Pandora/Spotify.

Phoenix1 posted 6/3/2017 18:27 PM

Luckily ours almost never comes on the radio anymore and I deleted it from my iTunes library. I have no desire to listen to it at all so I don't. Like xhole, it is just another song I used to know and like.

Sad in AZ posted 6/4/2017 02:03 AM

Ours was "You Are The Sunshine of My Life" by Stevie Wonder. I have zero feelings when I hear it, as it was not my first choice. I wanted "God Only Knows What I'd Be Without You" by the Beach Boys, but the band could not play it

ADryHeat posted 6/4/2017 05:41 AM

Mine was Elton John's "Your Song". We actually chose it the day before the wedding after scrapping our other choice. For a long time I couldn't listen to it, but it no longer bothers me.

TrustGone posted 6/4/2017 16:12 PM

Ours was Shana Twain's "From this Moment On". I don't listen to the CD anymore. I tried once and it had me in tears just thinking about how happy I was that day for him only a few years later to start his LTA with an old fuck buddy of his. I guess she must have not minded being his side piece for so long, even after he was married to me.

twicefooled posted 6/4/2017 16:25 PM

"more than words" by Extreme.

The song is relatively ironic, don't you think?

It's been over 3yrs since we split and I still can't listen to that song. Songs affect me very deeply but one day I will be able to listen to it without sobbing.

lilies21 posted 6/5/2017 08:11 AM

Ours was "Me and You" by Kenny Chesney. On one of our anniversaries, I even printed and framed the lyrics and added our wedding date at the bottom. It hung in our bedroom and was still on the wall when I moved out. Nope, still can't listen to it but thankfully it doesn't play on the radio too often. In info gathering (doesn't hurt anymore so I don't call it pain shopping), I found out AF has it on the playlist for hers and Asshat's wedding. I guess if he can dance to that song at their wedding, he truly is an emotionless psychopath. Maybe some of his family members will at least give him WTF looks.

StrongHeart posted 6/5/2017 09:04 AM

"Pledging my Love" be Aaron Neville.

What made it worse is that I used to play it (and other Aaron Neville songs) for DS when he was in my womb, and after he was born it would calm him down. DS was 6 months at DDay.

It took me a while, but I can listen to it now without getting upset. I don't love it like I used to though and don't think I ever will.

CornflakeGirl posted 6/5/2017 10:53 AM

Mine was "I Could Not Ask for More" by Edwin McCain.

I thought it was a beautiful song and I played it for my ExWH when we were dating. He seemed lukewarm to it. He suggested a couple of other songs that I didn't quite get because they weren't really about love/marriage. Should have been a big red flag.

As for my feelings, I'm very meh about this song. It's a pretty song, but, I feel like he just agreed to this song but it never had meaning to him. I'm not sure anything at all really has meaning to him.

IfYouCanDream posted 6/5/2017 13:24 PM

Well, lucky (?) for me, XH picked the song "She's Everything" by Brad Paisley and I don't like country music...so, I never listened to it when times were good and certainly don't plan to start now. But I also don't feel like I'm purposefully avoiding it.

justbreathe74 posted 6/5/2017 17:00 PM

Kelly Rowland train on a track. Not my pick... never liked the song and the lyrics although quite pretty... didn't speak to me.

I guess not loving the 1st dance song and him not caring so much if I did or didn't... says something doesn't it.