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Wife starting new job today...

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OrdinaryDude posted 10/23/2017 08:23 AM

Today my wife is entering the workforce for the first time since our kids were in grade school (our youngest is now 22), so our lives are about to change, really change.

Our schedules will be all over the place, thank God there are no kids in the mix at this point.

And yes, I'm a little apprehensive about this, but its what we need both financially and from a time stand point...I'd rather her have a regular job and want to come back home to be with me than have too much free time on her hands. That didn't work out well before.

So any spare mojo would be appreciated.

sisoon posted 10/23/2017 09:05 AM

Mojo sent for the work to strengthen your M, and for a happy, successful work life (for both of you).

TimelessLoss posted 10/23/2017 09:10 AM

OD,

Spare mojo headed your way. I get your apprehension. Did you use that word purposefully?
Instead of anxiety?

Talk through it with her. The feeling is valid. What would offer you reassurance?

OrdinaryDude posted 10/23/2017 09:34 AM

I donít need to tell her, she can sense it...and I donít want to taint the experience for her either, sheís very excited.

LyraM posted 10/23/2017 10:03 AM

I wish you calmness and strength, her I wish good luck and a positive workplace with fulfilling work. It will be ok.

dostl10 posted 10/23/2017 10:12 AM

Best of luck. Sending all the good vibes I've got.

Want2BHappyAgain posted 10/23/2017 10:20 AM

Sending LOTS of mojo and prayers y'alls way !!!

Oldwounds posted 10/23/2017 10:24 AM

Mojo does NOT grow on trees.

But if you need any from me, you got it O.D.

Boundaries do need to be tested now and again, hers and yours. May it all go as smoothly as life allows.

And when it goes well, more money for that next non-kid vacation...

waitedwaytoolong posted 10/23/2017 10:43 AM

Best of luck with this. Must be exciting!

psychmom posted 10/23/2017 11:38 AM

I've got some not-too-bruised-up mojo I am sending your way, OD! A small celebration planned for the end of the week or some other way to acknowledge this big step in your new relationship? All the best to you!

Idiotmcstupid posted 10/23/2017 11:43 AM

Oddly enough, my wife started a new job today as well. I am feeling all of your feels today.
Her A's were all co-workers so I do have some anxiety over that.

rickwman posted 10/23/2017 14:52 PM

Hi, I totally understand your situation. My wife was at home with our kids for over 30 years. We've been married for 35 years. It's what she wanted and it worked out great with everyone. Forgot to mention we have 8 kids. Once our kids grew up and were out of the house, she enjoyed her freedom and now works part-time, less than 15 hours a week. She also has the flexibility to do things with her friends or anything else. She deserves it! My motto has always been 'happy wife, happy home'. It's still my motto.


I'll pray that you and your wife continue to do the right thing; to preserve your marriage and relationship. That money doesn't block the blessings that are on the both of you.

OrdinaryDude posted 10/23/2017 20:13 PM

Thanks all!

First day was orientation...company policies and procedures, etc...you know how that goes, lol.

Now itís just the logistics of our schedules that will need to be worked out as we go, so Iíll be doing some cooking and laundry too now.

Skan posted 10/23/2017 20:22 PM

Iíll be doing some cooking and laundry too

I *love* a man who knows how to use power tools!

You guys got this. Much mojo, schedule making, and division of house-labor between the two of you!

OrdinaryDude posted 10/23/2017 22:49 PM

I actually enjoy cooking from time to time.

The weather is finally starting to cool off, though it never really gets ďcoldĒ here, even still itís about time for a pot of my home made chili.

Want2BHappyAgain posted 10/24/2017 22:30 PM

A few more days like this...and I will get out my gumbo pot...AIYEEEE!!!

OrdinaryDude posted 10/25/2017 00:05 AM

Gumbo is something I have not yet learned, though I want to.

Iím a transplant here so itís not something I grew up making.

[This message edited by OrdinaryDude at 12:06 AM, October 25th (Wednesday)]

Want2BHappyAgain posted 10/25/2017 02:47 AM

We can swap recipes . My FWH doesn't seem to like the "hormel" chili I make !!!

OrdinaryDude posted 10/25/2017 03:19 AM

W2BHA...I can do that!

Wifeís first actual day of work went well, I guess she made a good impression as both of the owners have made it a point to stop by and see her both days thus far.

She will be flipping shifts as the week goes on so she can learn each shifts procedures...so she gets a taste of what Iíve always had to do. I think she will gain a little perspective and appreciation for all the time Iíve spent at work over the years to provide for her and the kids.

OrdinaryDude posted 10/29/2017 16:40 PM

Mama's at work and I'm makin' CHILI!!!

O,D.'s Chili

2 Tablespoons Olive Oil
2 - 3 cloves of Garlic, crushed
1 large Spanish Onion, chopped
2 - 2 1/2 lbs of very lean ground meat (90%+, turkey, or our preference, venison)
1 can or bottle of beer
2 Tablespoons Chili Powder
About 2 cups of chopped peppers, medium to mild salad peppers. Chili peppers, Hungarian Hot Wax, Banana Peppers, Red Cherry Peppers...whatever is seasonal or on hand. I often use poblano and serrano if its all I can get.
If you want it really hot, add a chopped Jalapeno, seeds removed. No Bell peppers if you don't have to.
4 to 8 Medium to large dried Cayenne Peppers, cut with kitchen sheers
1 Family Size can of Campbell's Tomato Soup
1 Can Rotell
1 Small (4 oz) can of sliced mushrooms, stems and pieces
1 Can (10.5 oz) can Frijoles beans, drained
2 cans (10.5 oz) Diced Stewed Tomatoes

Chop all peppers, except Cayenne Peppers, put into a bowl.
In a large roasting pan heat 2 tablespoons of olive oil, add the chopped onion and crushed garlic, saute just to tender.
Add the ground meat, keep turning while it browns. When the meat is close to being done, add the whole bottle of beer.
Stir and let simmer, 10 - 15 Minutes so the beer flavor cooks into the meat.
Add chili powder, all chopped peppers, cut cayenne peppers with kitchen sheers into pot, stir well, simmer 5 - 10 more minutes.
Add tomato soup, stewed tomatoes, Rotell, mushrooms, and beans.
Stir well, let simmer a minimum of 2 hours, stirring frequently.
If you use a slow cooker, you do not have to stir as often.
The longer it cooks the more the flavors meld together.

We consider this "medium" heat....Some may not.


Its not completely home-made from scratch, but it works.

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