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Randy1133 posted 11/14/2017 10:18 AM

Dating since January. What should I get her? Need ideas.

lieshurt posted 11/14/2017 10:25 AM

It would be easier to make suggestions if people knew something about her. Likes? Dislikes? Hobbies? Anything she's been wanting to try?

And, how much do you want to spend?

EvenKeel posted 11/14/2017 10:36 AM

Is there anything you noticed she needs but would never buy for herself? Sometimes stuff like that shows you are paying attention to her and is greatly appreciated, even if it is something little or silly.

IE she hates to go out and warm up her car - so you surprise her with remote starter. She just loves a certain band or comedian, so you see where they are close by and get tickets and book a room for a weekend getaway. Anything like that??

Two years now I got my kiddos tickets to various venues, and it was the hit gift.

Also, tell you have a few ideas for her and see if she has a wish list. I gave my BF a big ole list of suggestions because they are items no one would EVER think to get me, but I want them. Like my ex left this sucky toolbox when he moved out. The drawers are all bent and it is a real PITA. I want a new one because it would be priceless to get that old reminder of my ex out of there. Every time I can't get that stupid drawer open, it causes a mini trigger to what an azz he is. So I am sure no one in the world would come up with toolbox as a gift idea for me....but it is what I want.

Edited - You are also coming up on your one-year anniversary, so is there anything memorable from your first date? Like my GF had a funny mishap on her first date with the popcorn at the movies, so she got him a Christmas ornament that was a popcorn box.

[This message edited by EvenKeel at 10:41 AM, November 14th (Tuesday)]

Randy1133 posted 11/14/2017 10:41 AM

Its hard to say, she works a lot, and I don't really want to get too personal. Just wondering what other's SO got them during Xmas that you thought was a really good gift for some ideas.

EvenKeel posted 11/14/2017 10:45 AM

Can I ask why you don't want it to be too personal after almost a year? IE are you guys casual dating, etc. Just trying to get a feel so we can help better with suggestions.

Last year, I got SO an assortment of things from funny stuff to thoughtful. One thing was a memento from our first date and then I included a letter about that date. It was his FAVORITE gift and he still pulls that letter out and reads it.

One thing he did that I liked, was besides my gifts, he filled a stocking with some of my favorite things (like Tootsie rolls, etc).

Randy1133 posted 11/14/2017 10:56 AM

No, I mean I don't want to get too personal over the internet, like reveal too much for sake of anonymity. I'm weird like that.

lieshurt posted 11/14/2017 10:58 AM

Okay, well without some input from you it's really difficult to make suggestions. Since you seem to just want a "one size fits all" gift, then just get her a generic Visa gift card and let her buy her own gift.

Catwoman posted 11/14/2017 11:01 AM

My SO of 7-plus years and I like "experiences" over "stuff."

Often, I will get tickets to an event that I know he will enjoy but probably wouldn't bite the bullet and do it. We have theater tickets for this Friday (birthday).

Last year, he had put a deposit down on a puppy from a breeder, so he got a new puppy care package: toys, treats, etc.

Said new puppy chewed up his slippers and socks, so that's part of what he is getting this Christmas. LOL.

My suggestion: make it personal and thoughtful--something that shows that you got her something unique because of who she is.

Cat

Ghofsip posted 11/14/2017 11:03 AM

a nice pair of dressy shoes. with a note that she is to wear them with sexy lingerie, a killer dress on such and such a date, when you will be picking her up X time, and she better be ready on time or she'll be subjected to a decent spanking later in the evening!

then take her to a really nice place, like a brazilian steakhouse, or rooftop skyscraper rotating restaurant, if there's one around, and follow that up with a show of some kind - like a cirque show, or a nutcracker performance, or something of that ilk.

then take her home and spank her even if she's ready on time.

[This message edited by Ghofsip at 11:04 AM, November 14th (Tuesday)]

nothisfriend posted 11/14/2017 11:14 AM

I'm struggling with this also. BF loved last year's gift and uses it all the time (bluetooth speaker) so I'm afraid I won't be able to live up to it this year. I always agonize over finding the "perfect" gift for someone.

Is she someone who likes pampering but doesn't do it for herself? My DS got me a pedicure gift certificate and it has become one of my favorite luxury activities that I never get for myself.

EvenKeel posted 11/14/2017 11:55 AM

No, I mean I don't want to get too personal over the internet, like reveal too much for sake of anonymity
Sorry - I misunderstood

You said she works a lot, anything that would make her life easier for work? Like if she totes her laptop around, a new bag?

Or is there anything that gets neglected because of her house? Meaning like a membership to a snow removal place? landscaping company? cleaning service (if that wouldn't offend her)? a complete car detailing?

Ghofsip posted 11/14/2017 12:37 PM

I'm struggling with this also. BF loved last year's gift and uses it all the time (bluetooth speaker) so I'm afraid I won't be able to live up to it this year. I always agonize over finding the "perfect" gift for someone

engraved folding pocket knife. a nice one. or a nice watch. bling for men.

or if you really want to drop some cash and he's of the right sensibility for it - a heritage rough rider revolver. they aren't that expensive (relatively speaking), .22lr/.22mag interchangeable cylinders, they look super cool at the range (everyone there sporting a basic hand brick, i mean glock, comes over to look when you have something more elegant), and they are FUUUUUNNNNNN! i'd swoon over a gift like that.

nothisfriend posted 11/14/2017 13:17 PM

Ghofsip,

I have to because both of those items are SO FAR from my BF's personality. He is an elementary PE teacher so bling is not his thing. And he's one of the most peaceful people I've ever met.

OTOH, I am a woman living alone contemplating a CC permit so maybe I should add your suggestion to my wish list?

Ghofsip posted 11/14/2017 13:51 PM

I have to because both of those items are SO FAR from my BF's personality. He is an elementary PE teacher so bling is not his thing. And he's one of the most peaceful people I've ever met.

OTOH, I am a woman living alone contemplating a CC permit so maybe I should add your suggestion to my wish list?

i have my CC permit. i'm also trained in safety, self defense handling (it ain't like at the range if you have to draw quick, gotta be able to do it without shooting yourself), and have actually done local classes my county sheriff puts on for free. the classes teach both legalities, use of force legal standards, caveats of the laws, and then they do a range session teaching drawing, shooting, moving, holstering, etc.

i highly recommend the classes to anyone considering getting a CC permit. in my state, they aren't legally required, but i think they should be. and since the sheriff's class is free, there's no reason for anyone to not do it.

but get something besides a .22. i carry 9mm. if you're not used to guns, a .38 special revolver would be better. they are safer for newbies to operate, and more reliable. no tap and rack for a misfire, just pull the trigger and turn the cylinder to the next round.

Hawke posted 11/14/2017 13:59 PM

engraved folding pocket knife.

One of the best gifts I have ever received was an engraved camp knife that I kept at work and took on holidays. It was half straight-edged and half serrated. Great for cutting up an apple, removing a tag or whatever needs doing in the moment in a place that doesn't have all the conveniences of home.

Randy1133 posted 11/14/2017 15:13 PM

Thanks. I have 3 big dates back to back to back lol. So got some planning to do.

dancingmom66 posted 11/14/2017 17:43 PM

You can never go wrong with a gift card for a massage or other self-care type gift.

Chrysalis123 posted 11/14/2017 17:48 PM

I was thinking pedicures. Gift membership to a garden or art museum or a theater with live performances?

MakingMyFuture posted 11/14/2017 20:30 PM

Romantic activities are always a win. Or romantic gifts period

Personally I’ve found the best gifts though are really personal. Things that show you care. Things that show you listen. Things that require effort even if it doesn’t require money

For future reference, most women talk a bit. They express their likes and dislikes pretty openly. You know after Christmas there will be a birthday, and another Christmas etc. start listening to what she comments on and when you here something think “ahaa” and save that idea for The next gift giving event. If you listen, her gift list will write itself. Then you get to give her something you know she admires and also get the awesome boyfriend story “ remember when we were in that town and your eyes lit and you said “someday I want” ..well I went back and got it for you because I wanted to see your face light up like that every day”

nothisfriend posted 11/15/2017 08:47 AM

My BF hit the jackpot last year at Christmas just by listening.

Back story, last year a sub was commissioned and my brother is the c.o. BF found the winery that supplied the wine for the commissioning and bought a special reserve bottle for me. He had to go through some hoops because the wine was only available to members of the winery. It was our first Christmas together, he managed to honor and acknowledge the importance of family to me with his gift.

I'm probably getting a velvet Elvis this year!

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