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fareast posted 3/13/2018 16:56 PM

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Nicely done! Rockstar Dad indeed.

Freeme posted 3/13/2018 17:58 PM

I have to say...I still give it 6 months. Three months prior the OM was married to a nurse that was 10 years younger than your WW. Now he's with your WW (all her stuff), 3 dogs, 2 cat, has visitation with your kids, angry XH across the street watching. Your WW on the other hand has got to realize that one wrong move with OM and she could be out on her ASS with nothing.

Still hoping they can keep it together until your divorced next month.

You are doing great as always. It will get easier when you are able to go NC again.

goalong posted 3/13/2018 18:49 PM

nurse that was 10 years younger than your WW.


Enjoy her struggle to keep up appearances with all those pills and make up

latebloomer45 posted 3/13/2018 20:25 PM

Who she is with is less important to me now. Sure I really want them to break up but I can't control that, her relationships are going to be her problems. If they effect the kids I go back to court with lightspeed. I need to take care of me and my kids and let her live her life without me caring about her day to day. I will end up with my boys about 65%-%70 of the time with this agreement and I can raise them in a normal loving home and instill the right values and morals.
God I didn't want to be here, but life is going to be OK.

You've got this, man. I know I will never meet you but I'm proud of you all the same.

RubixCubed posted 3/13/2018 22:59 PM

Sell/pawn the rings and take the money and give it to the charity of your choice.

FIFY
Sell/pawn the rings and take the money and by an incredible, expensive, aged bottle of whiskey and use it to celebrate the finalization of the divorce.

The1stWife posted 3/14/2018 04:36 AM

That is awesome you get to spend so much time with your kids. 70% is really the best - more than you probably hoped for.

Best of luck. Your kids will reap all the benefits.

RockstarDad posted 3/14/2018 14:13 PM

April 16 at 9am and it will be final.

Feel great and horrible both at the same time.

Divorce will be 134 days after DDay. State waiting period was 120 days so 14 days of fluff and filing.

Been thinking I'd do it all over in a heartbeat knowing how it ends to have my kids.

jinkazama posted 3/14/2018 14:26 PM

Okay can i ask a question about the nurse
??

Is she hot😉???

And how is she doing now?

I am just asking this why he left a wife in her 20s for an older woman who was married and had kids

Sick people

RockstarDad posted 3/14/2018 16:18 PM

OBS is ok looking but the stbxWW wins in the looks dept. She is average looking 509 175, bigger but not fat. STBXW is 504 130 and works the makeup and hair well. I am sure the stbxWW is the hottest piece the AP has had. And no the nurse aint my type, not that my type has worked out well for me (That's being fixed) but there's no attraction. Sweet girl though feel bad for her. We've kept in contact, she is struggling.

Freeme, if they break up before the new year I will gladly send you a bottle of your favorite wine or liqour. Heres to hoping!

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 4:22 PM, March 14th (Wednesday)]

WhatsRight posted 3/14/2018 20:12 PM

Sorry you find yourself here. You have really worked hard and pulled through this as well as can be expected.

I do want to suggest that any/all thoughts of other women as soon as your divorce is final should be thrown out the window.

And certainly, any women with red flags such as someone who admits to cheating...that is a total no brainier.

Spend a few months focusing on your new life, your credit, your bills, your friends, your emotional health, and your kids.

Another woman in your life come April is the LAST thing you need!!!

JMHO.

RockstarDad posted 3/14/2018 20:36 PM

I think I am going to fix my picker with the psychologist first. Then when I got that fixed start small with meeting for coffees and group settings before working on dinners and dates. It's nice to get a ego boost, which those couple dates did, but I think I would end up with the first one that love bombed me and filled the void if I am not careful. I cannot and will not go through this again. I've been fooled twice I got to stop the cycle. The one constant is me. Never going to win the Kentucky derby without the right horse and I've been picking mules and asses.

I'm talking the right game plan now just got to execute it. Not gonna lie this still sucks bad. Ugh.

Just scheduled a overnight at a indoor water park with the kids for spring break. Got to get out of here for a day.

WhatsRight posted 3/14/2018 21:12 PM

Sounds like great fun!!!

Hope it is a respite for you.

pureheartkit posted 3/14/2018 22:29 PM

I don't think those rings could bring you any joy in the future. Don't throw them away or keep them to cause bad memories. I'd rather have a jeweler melt them and make something new or sell to benefit your sons. Rings are so personal. She should have just returned them before now.

beenthereinco posted 3/15/2018 10:20 AM

Absolutely get rid of the rings and get something out of them. I don't keep anything that doesn't bring me joy.

paboy posted 3/22/2018 13:16 PM

How are things travelling? Its just over 3 weeks left for you. Wow.. That seemed to come up in a hurry.

Best thoughts for you moving forward.

RockstarDad posted 3/22/2018 20:41 PM

Just trying not to rock the boat. Little better. Kids came over the other day to get there bikes. I opened up the garage and was getting them down when I see my stbxWW and OM standing in the edge of the road. She's talking to him laughing and smiling and he is staring at me. Like mean mugging me, wearing a tank top, ratty shorts, flip flops and sunglasses. It was a white trash moment...all they neededd was a trailer behind them. It was bizarre.

Told the shrink. He says next time wave. Guy is trying to show she is his property and showing I don't care.

Had a really good couple days after talking to him. He says I am not out much, and really I am not, knowing who she is and what she has done I was in love with a illusion of who I thought she was. The whole thing still feels like a train wreck. I don't miss the train...but the crash still sucks.

Trying not to rock the boat. After it's signed the next set of problems, whether to move or not as well as a possible school district fight are next. And no I didnt get it in the D paperwork, intentionally because it would be controversial. I took a win and left that out for a separate fight.

Saw stbxw was home early and offered to let the kids go over early since I was working on a paper. She said she was busy...and then I can see her decorating the house when I look out the window. Yea, I ain't out much.

Need to get back to not bitching about the past and work on fixing my woman picker and land my 10 out a 10. After 15 years being a good man and cheated on every time I need to either be happy alone or hit a home run.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 8:43 PM, March 22nd (Thursday)]

MadOldBat posted 3/23/2018 07:41 AM

but I think I would end up with the first one that love bombed me and filled the void if I am not careful. I cannot and will not go through this again. I've been fooled twice I got to stop the cycle. The one constant is me. Never going to win the Kentucky derby without the right horse and I've been picking mules and asses.

This is HUGE - so don't ever forget it.

She's talking to him laughing and smiling and he is staring at me. Like mean mugging me, wearing a tank top, ratty shorts, flip flops and sunglasses. It was a white trash moment...all they neededd was a trailer behind them. It was bizarre.

Told the shrink. He says next time wave. Guy is trying to show she is his property and showing I don't care.


Absolutely - *waving - not drowning*
Leave them both in their gutter.

Need to get back to not bitching about the past and work on fixing my woman picker and land my 10 out a 10. After 15 years being a good man and cheated on every time I need to either be happy alone or hit a home run.

This sounds good - but shouldn't be your first priority.
Take the time to gather your mental powers.
YOU get yourself stronger and healthy.

You don't need anyone to be YOU.

Keep posting,
Hugs and strength to you and your children.

MOB

fscon posted 3/23/2018 09:13 AM

NO SOLICITING

[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:44 AM, March 23rd (Friday)]

RockstarDad posted 3/23/2018 16:45 PM

I guess I don't really feel like I need to rebuild me at all. I did that after my first marriage, really took a hard look and fixed some things. Other than working out a little more I don't want to change a lot. Maybe a couple tweaks here and there but very happy with who I am. I think by quantifying it with being able to be happy alone as well as in a relationship (with someone with the same inner core beliefs and morals) I negate the impression that I want to jump into something new just to jump in, cause I don't. If I am missing your point please clarify.

So I went outside and saw that dude had come home and was talking on the phone in his work truck. He had backed in and was facing me. We made eye contact. I waved a big ol wave. He sheepishly waved back with two fingers. I wanted to smile but I got to lay low here until the D is final. Last thing I want to do is upset the apple cart. A promiscuous woman who avoids conflict and a younger man with no courage, perfect combo. I think when the D is final I declare victory. I will have SO much more in life than this BS.

Western posted 3/23/2018 17:05 PM

Good for you Rockstar. You are doing great. The pasture is greener and you are taking advantage of that. I am glad you are not 'fixing' yourself. There's nothing to fix

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