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I went on a date

Jen posted 3/4/2018 16:00 PM

It was ok. No sparks, nothing beyond friendship anyway. I've been ghosted on twice from pof guys. No messages or whatever from match.

I'm still working with the same hospital over 5 yrs now. I'm with a new doc in a diff office and I no longer do the PT hospice.

My mom moved here she lives about 3 blocks away. It's good & bad, more good than bad, but ...

The dogs are good. Spoiled but good.

Idk that's my update. I'm still in therapy, still on the depression meds, nothing feels different. Better or worse, it's just ....

Greeneyesbluezy posted 3/4/2018 16:45 PM

Hi Jen!

Was wondering where you were.

I havenít had a date in over 35 years, so I got nothing on that!

I get you in the good and bad with mom being so close. I lost my mom 4 years ago and would give anything to have her near me now. I say enjoy what you can while keeping your space, if possible

Glad dogs are ok. You still have jake from State Farm? I forgot what you changed his name to.

Just good to hear from you !

[This message edited by Greeneyesbluezy at 4:46 PM, March 4th (Sunday)]

Jen posted 3/4/2018 16:50 PM

Oh yes Leo(Leonidas) is still here. He dances and talks a lot. He also carries my slippers out of my closet randomly just to get my attention.

PricklePatch posted 3/4/2018 17:30 PM

Jen
I was wondering as well how your doing. Are you surprised your mother moved near you?

Jen posted 3/4/2018 18:08 PM

No. We are the closet thing each other have to a best friend. Even though she get's on my nerves a lot - I am happy to have her close.

traicionada posted 3/4/2018 21:03 PM

Jen is alive! Jen went on date! Go, Jen!

We are the closet thing each other have to a best friend.
How come?
I'm still in therapy, still on the depression meds, nothing feels different.
Whatís your short term therapy goal?

Almost forgot! Say hi to Leo

Jen posted 3/4/2018 22:27 PM

Hey Traci !

My mom and I have always been close. She knows me better than anyone. I'm not scared of her.

Well short term would be getting out and meeting people. Which I have - the date. And I have to get used to new people in the new office I work in.

Leo says hi back ....

Lovingmyselfmore posted 3/4/2018 23:10 PM

(((Jen)))

I understand you completely and I am glad that you are in IC.

Sooner or later you'll start to move on.

ohforanewme posted 3/5/2018 02:21 AM

Hi Jen

So pleased to see you popped in. If you remember, it was you that helped me some of the way through some of my insecurities about women.

You did a rather good job at it by the way.

Wish that I could somehow return the favour. Unfortunately, seem to be going through a bit of a useless spot as a friend today.

Just good to be able to chat to you again.

Myname posted 3/5/2018 12:33 PM

Hi Jen.

I was just thinking about you the other day. Glad to see your update.

Hey, going on a date is a good step. Even if it didn't end up shooting off any fireworks.

EvenKeel posted 3/5/2018 12:45 PM

It was ok. No sparks, nothing beyond friendship anyway.
My cousin was a serial OLD'er. She had some theory that you had to meet like 48 folks before you found one that was a contender for you.

So it is ok if this person did not seem like someone you would be interested in. At least you got out there!

Jen posted 3/5/2018 17:52 PM

Thx LMM - I really don't feel hung up still on the X - I just have issues trusting anyone to form new relationships. I'm working on it - it's slow going ....

Oh4 - Good to hear from you. Sometimes there is nothing to say or offer. It just is what it is, just letting someone know you care or are listening is sometimes more meaningful/helpful than any advice. Thank you

Myname sup dude ??? Yeah no fire at all - no candle, match nothing even smoldering ....

Hi even - what is an OLD'er ? 48 people ??? Oh man

Lovingmyselfmore posted 3/5/2018 23:26 PM

She had some theory that you had to meet like 48 folks before you found one that was a contender for you.

Evenkeel

I have heard of this theory too. I've heard it's like 60 people LoL!

EvenKeel posted 3/6/2018 08:14 AM

what is an OLD'er ?
Sorry - online Dater.

I have heard of this theory too. I've heard it's like 60 people LoL!
It could be. I am not sure where she got her number. She went out with one guy and actually told him about it. He asked what number he was? She said 29....he got so mad.

little turtle posted 3/6/2018 08:17 AM

I have heard of this theory too. I've heard it's like 60 people LoL!

Wow! I'm glad I didn't have to meet that many people before I met my husband! He got lucky, he only met 1 person from on line. me.

Jen, glad to see your update. Keep on living life and doing your thing!!

Greeneyesbluezy posted 3/6/2018 12:37 PM

Jen,

Look on the bright side. One down only 47 more to go!!!

I honestly donít think itís gonna take 48 dates for you. Get out, have fun, enjoy the moments. Attraction, love and all the crap involved comes in mysterious ways.

Look at how you got Leo, lost Leo and got Leo back. Life has a plan. Or, itís a crapshoot. Either way, enjoy the journey!

Iím glad youíre back! We missed you and the doggies:)

Jen posted 3/6/2018 18:34 PM

I'm never far, promise.

So I have been hitting up more on POF - flirt here message there. At this rate I'll be in my 80's before I find anyone - awesome.

ohforanewme posted 3/7/2018 03:37 AM

Hi Jen

I am in the process of writing a proposal for the investment committee. It is not going well so I needed a mental break and some diversion.

Your post provided it but now I keep mulling a few things over in my head about what you posted.

You say;

At this rate I'll be in my 80's before I find anyone - awesome.

I find myself reading that in different ways.

It could be read as "I will be in my 80's before I find someone. Is that thought not just an awesome one". With a heavy sarcasm in the intonation.

An alternative way to read it would be, "I will be in my 80's before I find a person who is awesome". With a slight resignation and sadness in the intonation.

On the first one, I am sure that someone as awesome as who we on SI have gotten to know you to be, will not have to wait around too long, once you are truly ready to allow someone into your life.

On the 2nd, you have already met an awesome person. You know yourself dont you.

Writing that was fun. Hopefully, broken the old writer's block.

Oh, could you perhaps help me out? I have no idea what POF stands for?

[This message edited by ohforanewme at 3:47 AM, March 7th (Wednesday)]

Jen posted 3/7/2018 17:55 PM

POF is a dating website - plenty of fish ....

Yes I guess if you place the comas here or there it changes how it sounds/means. I am totally awesome I know this - just wary, scared, shy ect ect about spreading that around.

ohforanewme posted 3/8/2018 00:32 AM

So okay Jen, I came in early this morning, just have to get this dam investment committee pack done today. Was at my desk at 06:20!!!!


So have been at it pretty much for nearly 2 hours now. I deserve a break, dont you think? So stopped in while I have my 3rd coffee of the day. The stuff is good for you you know.

I am totally awesome I know this - just wary, scared, shy ect ect about spreading that around.

Yip, folk quite as awesome as us have to be responsible. If we walk into a conference room where world peace is at stake, or a restaurant where a multi billion deal is about to be singed over lunch, we may be so distracting as to derail the whole thing.

what a responsibility to bare.

Go boldly but cautiously Jen.

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