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Iwantmyglasses posted 3/11/2018 13:27 PM

This week is my trip. In light of Wallopedís post, I am going on my trip with a very firm resolve.

I am going to be so open and loving with my husband. My husband loves me. He has worked so hard for the past 20 months. I accept his love for me.

I am so done with the heavy heart. Remembered VAR conversation. Not being vulnerable.

I am not going to have any stiffness in regards to my body, (aging and all of that wonderful after 40 thoughts)

I will have happiness, lightness, laughter, and fun.

I am going on this trip completely stripped. There will be NO living in the past. I will be vulnerable towards him.

My joy has continued over the past few days.

I will not live with my husband in continued shame. He is my husband. We both deserve more. He is a good man. He isnít perfect. But he is striving for me everyday.

Our marriage will not be tainted this week. I am going to laugh, look stunning. :), and have an amazing time for ME!! My husband, my children and for each of us on SI.

Love to each of you.

waitedwaytoolong posted 3/11/2018 16:16 PM

Have an awesome time!

Want2BHappyAgain posted 3/11/2018 16:20 PM

YES!!! Happily Ever Afters DO come true...so ENJOY yourselves...y'all deserve it!!!

Cephastion posted 3/11/2018 16:43 PM

Oh wow! Can we come too? I wish we BOTH had that kind of gusto right now.

(Me and my wife sitting at the next table at he restaurant)"umm...waiter! Waiter! Could you come over here, please?"

(Excited bubbly exuberant bouncing and chattering and giggling and overt flirting going on by Mr.& Mrs. I wantmyglasses at the next booth over)

Waiter: (panting from his urgent jaunt to attend to my call)..."yes, sir! Are those people disturbing you? I'll see to it at ONCE that they stop their incessant flirting and frivolity! We run a tight ship here at the Pomme Du Jour restaurant, I assure you!" "Wait a minute! Is that her LEG on top of HIS and his hands on her knee?..."

Me and my wife: " Oh my, NO! Heavens no! Don't you DARE!"

Waiter: (confused and taken aback by our defense of them) "Well whatever was the urgency for in the tone and tenor of your request for my attendance upon you, then?!?"

Me: (acting as if it should be obvious to everyone) " We just want to have whatever THEY'RE having as well! It must be simply GLORIOUS! We were afraid that with such happy results that all the other patrons would order likewise and the kitchen would run out before we got OUR piece of the pie!"

Waiter: "Oh...Well then...yes...that 'Milk of Human Kindness' DOES run rather low during happy hour in the onset of springtime just after a long cold winter has passed...I understand your sense of urgency, Sir. It IS in fact a very fine vintage, indeed. We'll have a bottle out to the both of you at ONCE."

Cheers!

[This message edited by Cephastion at 4:50 PM, March 11th (Sunday)]

strugglebus posted 3/11/2018 18:24 PM

I am going on a trip with my husband this week too and this is EXACTLY my intention as well. Thank you for spreading your joy here, have a wonderful trip!

tiredofcrying59 posted 3/11/2018 19:09 PM

Have a wonderful time, glasses and strugglebus. Good for you both! Take back your happiness.

shellbean posted 3/11/2018 19:14 PM

I don't need to tell you to have a great time - you already plan for a great time!


Enjoy every minute!

To you too, strugglebus!

hopefulkate posted 3/11/2018 19:33 PM

Love this!!!!

Angelvictorious posted 3/11/2018 19:36 PM

Hope you have the best time together.

hurthumiliated3 posted 3/11/2018 20:11 PM

I hope you have a (much deserved) wonderful time!

silverhopes posted 3/11/2018 22:02 PM

This is beautiful. Have a wonderful trip!

Iwantmyglasses posted 3/11/2018 23:22 PM

Thank you my SI friends!

We are spending the night at a hotel near the airport. On our drive here, so many interesting songs came on the radio.

Parallel Lines-Keith Urban
I Hope You Dance -Pam Tillis
You were mine- Dixie Chicks
Remember When- Alan Jackson

A couple of other great songs and I canít remember the names!!!

Then American Scandal came on. I said. OKAY. You need to
Change this!!! he said-that Dixie Chicks song was rough wasnít it? I said it was. But I canít take this song. It glamourizes cheating. So he found another station!


Thank you so much!! Cephastation! Thank you for your story!! You must have sat next to us before!í We are a very loving couple. We touch each other a lot and we laugh like nothing else together. :)


[This message edited by Iwantmyglasses at 11:24 PM, March 11th (Sunday)]

heartinrecovery posted 3/12/2018 03:40 AM

I am so happy to read this post, have a wonderful time and believe fully in the power of love to heal, you are a lover not a hater!!

I love this Mother Teresa quote (I know she is a saint and we are not, but it is wonderful advice for healing)


People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.


have a happy & blessed trip x

W3IRZ posted 3/12/2018 05:05 AM

Fantastic! You are right. I too have a good husband who is a good person but isnít perfect. Nor am I. Drop the baggage so you can live again. It feels so good to live again.

tushnurse posted 3/12/2018 07:39 AM

Big step forward in your healing journey to say, I am done w/ this, I choose to be authentic, and happy.

Have a wonderful time!!!

((((And Strength))))

northeasternarea posted 3/12/2018 08:33 AM

Have a wonderful time!

Iwantmyglasses posted 3/13/2018 16:07 PM

Thank you to all of my friends on SI. Your support has meant the world to me.

UPDATE!!!

We are having an amazing time. I havenít felt this free and relaxed in a very long time.

My husband has been showering me with so much love and attention. He is being so attentive to me and my likes and desires. I feel he is truly interested in me as a WOMAN!! (Not just physical). But as a person he finds interesting, humorous, loveable.

My attitude has been great. Itís from the heart. I am NOT faking it!!!! I am feeling as though I am making it!!!

Bpulli posted 3/13/2018 16:50 PM

Absolutely love this!!

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