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Need to vent

OZARK88 posted 4/3/2018 13:15 PM

Need to get this out there and not to her face.

After a 3 year affair with co-worker, in financial negotiations for divorce. She’s hiding pensions, offering less than 50% equity for the marital home and transferring thousands to her Dad... i get this email -

“I have been informed by my solicitor that she envisages the financial settlement will be agreed within the next four to five weeks. Following that she advises me that you will have to make alternative living arrangements either permanent or rented with immediate effect.

Living under the same roof is not good for either of us, and it is continuing to have a negative effect on (child). (Child) was very teary with me yesterday and as you are aware I’m up most nights with (child)”

Not happening- house is 50% mine and she needs a court order to get me out (based on what) and there’ll be no agreement to settle from me on current terms full of non disclosure anyway ... but Jesus, what planet are these people on!!!! Can you spot the blame shifting?

12and20years posted 4/3/2018 13:21 PM

mine is upset I'm asking for 1/2 his pension. says it's unfair. I told him I don't ever want to hear unfair or unbelievable out of his mouth...ever!

Tigersrule77 posted 4/3/2018 13:23 PM

Sounds like she's trying to scare you into something beneficial to her. Do you have an attorney as well?

Maybe let her know that your attorney suggests asking the court for a forensic accountant to track all of the financials, as her side has not been cooperating.

Two can play that game.

waitedwaytoolong posted 4/3/2018 15:04 PM

The best way to handle this is with a great accountant, which is well worth the cost in these matters.

The other thing is to point out, especially to the father, that you will feel obligated as a good citizen to report any transactions that might have tax implications to the IRS.

nothisfriend posted 4/3/2018 15:31 PM

mine is upset I'm asking for 1/2 his pension. says it's unfair. I told him I don't ever want to hear unfair or unbelievable out of his mouth...ever!

What's unfair is that mine got half of my pension! Then has the balls (or his attorney does) to ask for the death benefit and half of any extra service that I purchase. My lawyer is currently fighting that.

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