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Pass posted 6/13/2018 15:48 PM

So ... when I got married, The Princess told me I had to throw a big surprise(?) party for her when she turned 30 - because such an event shouldn't go unmarked. A few years later, as the time approached, she told me she had asked her mom to do it because "you'll just fuck it up".

This past spring, YL (my girlfriend) said she thought she'd throw herself a party this year for her 50th, and I said, "No way! You don't have to throw your own party. I'll do it." And she thought that was great.

Yesterday, her best friend got in touch with me to ask if she could help with the planning or implementation.

1. Can you even believe I'm not married to someone so loving anymore?
2. YL seems to trust me!
3. Damn it! Now I need to throw a non-lame party (ie not "fuck it up" ).

YL's friend has assured me that she is the Queen of Party-planning, but doesn't want to step on my toes. Wow! Even YL's friends are lovely!

Yep, even this far out, I'll still remember some incident that seemed perfectly normal at the time and will be shocked to realize it's just another indication of how broken and cruel The Princess is. Happily, I no longer think any of her past behaviours were any reflection on me. Sometimes I still find YL's lovely heart to be a surprise but that happens less and less. This is good. I'm growing accustomed to being treated well.

Anyhow, I'm panicking a little of course. Time to start making lists!

[This message edited by Pass at 3:50 PM, June 13th, 2018 (Wednesday)]

Phoenix1 posted 6/13/2018 16:02 PM

You've come SO far, Pass!!!

YL's friend has assured me that she is the Queen of Party-planning, but doesn't want to step on my toes.

She ^^ is offering to help. Let her take the lead and give you guidance, if you are not sure where to begin. Then, sit back and enjoy the party that you put together as a team. YL will love it, whatever you end up doing, I'm sure!!

Isn't it nice to be in a relationship with *gasp* "normal" people???

MrMagnolia posted 6/13/2018 21:27 PM

Lol Awesome. I could have written the first two lines of your post.

Basic appreciation can suddenly feel like the fingers of God reaching down from the sky to personally massage your shoulders after being treated a certain way for so long, right?

I know you're gonna plan the fuck out of that party and if you've got a helping hand from your lady's friend and you aren't ordering those second-rate male strippers from the wrong part of town well then I don't see you any way you will fuck this up.

Party on.

DeadMumWalking posted 6/14/2018 00:10 AM

Wow Pass, this is great!! You will make a very 'non-lame' party I'm sure.

I'm so happy for you!!

k94ever posted 6/14/2018 11:18 AM

I'm so happy for you.

I remember your first posts and you've come such a long way.

We are all so very proud of you.


k9

TrustGone posted 6/14/2018 12:04 PM

I am so happy for you Pass!!! I always wanted a party, but neither WH ever found the time even though I told them both that I never had one growing up and thought it would be fun to finally have one. I am glad that you found someone who appreciates a party and the time it takes to throw one. Have fun!!!!

Pass posted 6/14/2018 13:01 PM

Basic appreciation can suddenly feel like the fingers of God reaching down from the sky to personally massage your shoulders after being treated a certain way for so long, right?

Dude, you've got that right. I keep assuring YL that I don't just love her because of the straight A comparison to The Princess, but it truly is night and day.

I know you're gonna plan the fuck out of that party and if you've got a helping hand from your lady's friend and you aren't ordering those second-rate male strippers from the wrong part of town well then I don't see you any way you will fuck this up.

No strippers? Right. See now, that's why I need to talk about these things with y'all.


neither WH ever found the time even though I told them both that I never had one growing up and thought it would be fun to finally have one

TrustGone, dude, I know you don't need this pointed out to you at this point, but both of those losers were very short on giving a shit, and long on arsehole.


And thanks for your kind words about my progress, y'all. When I first came here, I had promised my kids that I wouldn't try to kill myself again, but really wanted to die. This site (and five years of counselling sessions, and a hell of a lot of work) has truly made my life better. There aren't a lot of sites that anyone can say that kind of thing about!

hardtimesinlife posted 6/14/2018 13:18 PM

Awesome post! I'm so glad you hung in there

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