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chasingpavements
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, August 7th (Friday)

Hey all, I realized over the past few months I've been so focused on the state of the marriage that I haven't been doing anything for myself. So now I'm going to reverse that and the first thing I need is to pick up some books from the library because I haven't read anything in AGES! So I'm looking for some good fiction recommendations... nothing marriage, relationship, or affair related. Preferably nothing that is a series, unless you can read one book as a standalone because I'm not patient enough to wait for the next book to come out. Young Adult fiction is fine too cause I like being able to share new books with my oldest son who is 13.

thanks!


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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, August 7th (Friday)

I really enjoyed "The Secret Life of Bees"---it had the flavor of "To Kill a Mockingbird"


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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, August 13th (Thursday)

I really dug The Shack, but one of my favorite from a while ago is Twilight Eyes by Dean Koontz, I would recommend The Time Travelers Wife, but you said no relationship stuff. The Odd Thomas Books by Dean Koontz, yes they are a series, but I think they work as stand alone books. You might not like the first one, it has a pretty strong relationship at it's center. Any of the John Sandford Prey series, they work as stand alones.


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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, August 16th (Sunday)

The Power of One- best book ever!

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Default  Posted: 5:33 AM, August 17th (Monday)

Prayers for Sale

Farm City, The Education of an Urban Farmer

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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, August 17th (Monday)

does it have to be fiction?

I really loved Outliers. it's an easy and interesting non-fiction read.

If you want fiction, how about Life of Pi?


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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, August 17th (Monday)

I just finished reading

The Help by Kathryn Stockett and LOVED it. It was one of those can't put down and can't stop thinking about it reads. It also was one of the few books that didn't cause me to trigger, so I think it meets your non affair related material.


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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 21st (Friday)

What type of books do you like, chasingpavements? What have you read in the past that you really enjoyed?

If you like historical fiction, I'm just finishing I, Elizabeth by Rosalind Miles. It's a GREAT book if you enjoy historical fiction.

I also really enjoyed The Meaning of Night, A Confession by Michael Cox. It's a mystery/suspense type book. Very well written.

There are a ton of books that I could recommend, if you give me an idea of the types of books that you enjoy.


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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, August 21st (Friday)

Any of the John Sandford Prey series, they work as stand alones.

I'll second this! Love that series!

I also enjoy Catherine Coulter and Patricia Cornwell in the detective/mystery genre.


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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, August 21st (Friday)

It is long and historical fiction but amazing!!
The Pillars of the Earth and the sequel World Without End by Ken Follett... quite an undertaking but a great story



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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, August 21st (Friday)

Ditto to the Follett books.

CluelessB, please share your top picks. I read everything and am always looking for new recommendations.

If anyone has a Goodreads list and would like to share feel free to pm me.


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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, August 21st (Friday)

I recently read The Cellist of Sarajevo and thought it very good. My DD read too and also thought it good.

Do you like comedy? The Stephanie Plum books by Janet Evanovitch are a light read but sometimes laugh out loud funny.

I like mysteries/thrillers

Greg Illes
Karen Slaughter
Lisa Gardner

other authors I enjoy (contemporary fiction)

Jodi Picoult
Chris Bohjalian (sp)



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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, September 7th (Monday)

ADDICTIVE WARNING: Harry Dresden series by Jim Butcher. If you like sci fi, detective novels, adult Harry Potter, with wry humor and wiseass and FUN stuff, please start your new addiction. There are 13 books currently, I started and kept going and I am now reading them over again. I read them so fast I missed stuff. Seriously, they just keep getting better. Vampires, werewolfs, sickos, Chicago, faeries, gangsters and so much more. If I could get any new book it would be one of these. Like comic books for grownups without the comics.

One of my BS best friends brought them to my house, gave me the first three and then like an addict I got the rest. She knew I needed to escape - which these totally helped me do. I never had to leave my room. And yes they stand alone, and your 13 year old, well, maybe. You read them first. THEY ARE SO GOOD!!!

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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, September 20th (Sunday)

I read Life of Pi recently and really enjoyed it. But that was before all of this so I don't know- it can be sad but really more philisophical in a fiction type of way.

Might be alot since it is three books but you can read them as one- But 'his dark materials' is really good. It is young adult fiction and the movie The golden Compass was based on the first book. Something maybe you can share with your son.


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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, October 6th (Tuesday)

Do you like spy/espionage?
If so, anything by Robert Ludlum, Ken Follett.

Outlandish adventure?
Try Clive Cussler books.
They're always fun to read.

Historical fiction that intertwines with modern day through characters?
Try the book, Lady of Hay.

Fiction that chronicles the history of places/countries?
Author: Edward Rutherfurd
Novels include Sarum, London, Russka, Ireland.

Medical thrillers?
Try books by Robin Cook, Tess Gerritsen.

....from a retired librarian


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Default  Posted: 5:05 AM, October 7th (Wednesday)

I absolutely second the Stephanie Plum novels, but there is some lightly addressed cheating in them. Depending on where you are in your healing, you can pass over it or it may have a greater impact.

I've just finished The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown. It's REALLY good.

Let us know what you choose.


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Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, October 7th (Wednesday)

"the analyst" by JOHN KATZENBACH

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Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, October 7th (Wednesday)

"the analyst" by JOHN KATZENBACH

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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, October 7th (Wednesday)

I read a lot of these reccomendations and agree.

I really enjoyed The Book of Negros. There are a lot of local connections for me as part of it involves the Black Loyalists in NS. They are currently working on turning it into a movie. (there is some relationship in it but nothing that made me trigger)


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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, October 8th (Thursday)

"Sebastians Pride" by Susan Wilkinson

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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, October 8th (Thursday)

I loved Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen.


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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, November 2nd (Monday)

If you are a John Grisham fan, his new series .. "Ford County" comes out today.

I just finished "The Associate" by him, and I highly recommend it.


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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, November 2nd (Monday)

I would recommend one of the Patrick O'brian novels, which were the basis for the relatively recent movie Master and Commander with Russel Crowe.

The novels are set in the Napleonic period and follow two characters in the English Navy. Absolutely first rate writing and often very funny. There's also a fair amount of action, and I personally would have loved these novels at 13, though the prose can be a bit challenging at times (very educational to boot).

You could start with the first novel, Master and Commander, but I would probably recommend starting with Desolation Island, which is shorter and has very gripping action.

Anyway, if you enjoy stepping into another time, this is a great author, who really immersed himself in that culture.

ps Technically, these books do form a series, but since O'Brian wrote them over a thiry year period (he died a few years back), it's sort of a misleading way to describe them: sort of like describing the Parthenon as a "building".

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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, November 2nd (Monday)

If you like Sci-fi/fantasy, you and your son would like the Maximum Ride series by Patterson. and you don't have to wait for sequels and there are lots already published!


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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, November 3rd (Tuesday)

Elizabeth Berg. I discovered Elizabeth Berg after seeing "Say When" recommended on here. That one is about infidelity (fiction).

She has about 15 books that are not infidelity related. They are about women's friendships, relationships in families....just very real and her style of writing touches my heart.

I was compelled to write her a letter saying how much I love her books!

You should try her


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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, November 5th (Thursday)

i see "twilight eyes" already mentioned/ good book. another Dean Koontz book that i love is "watchers" great for dog lovers.

i loved "the lovely bones" and it's coming out as a movie, so i would read it before i saw movie. the beginning is a little tough, but it's one of my all-time favorite reads. and "kite Runner"


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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, September 26th (Sunday)

I second the Elizabeth Berg recommendation. I read "Open House" and so much of what the character there is going through resonated with me. It's hard for me to get the cheating off of my mind, so this fiction was helpful in that it distracted me and was therapeutic. I am reading "Say When" now.

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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, September 26th (Sunday)

Another Elizabeth Berg fan here. "Pull of the Moon" was my favorite.

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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, September 26th (Sunday)

I recommend The Forgery of Venus, I am a harsh critic and a snob when it comes to most best sellers, as I think reading them is like eating junk food. His novels are exciting, but not just plot driven. His characters are fascinating and believable. I also loved his Tropic of Night and Valley of Bones.


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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, October 28th (Thursday)

Another recommendation is you like scifi/fantasy.

Any (or all) of the Incarnations of Immortality series by Piers Anthony. There are seven in all.

On A Pale Horse (Death)

Bearing An Hourglass (Time)

With A Tangled Skein (Fate)

Wielding A Red Sword (War)

Being A Green Mother (Nature)

For Love Of Evil (Satan)

...And Eternity (God)

Though it's a series, each book is a stand alone. The idea behind it is each of the main characters isn't a force as such but an officeholder. An officeholder of Time, War, Death, etc.


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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, November 3rd (Wednesday)

I just finished Taft by Ann Patchett. It's the first time I've ever read this author and I really liked it.


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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, November 5th (Friday)

Just read Freedom by Jonathan Franzen, and, wow... an amazing story-teller. Lots of depth.

I hadn't yet read The Corrections, and started it up immediately.


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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, November 5th (Friday)

anything by James Patterson so long as it's not co-authored. I particularly enjoy his Alex Cross series.


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Happy  Posted: 6:30 PM, November 7th (Sunday)

Hey! Reading is great!
If you have any skills that you want to improve, look for books on working on your craft.

Otherwise,
1.Stephen King books (horror) but fast read. His first book "Night Shift" is really good!
2. John Grisham-The confession
3.Hell's corner-David Baldacci
4.Stephen King- Full Dark, no stars
5. Life-Keith Richards (rolling stones)
6.Moonlight Mile-Dennis Lehane
7.Ken Follett-Fall of Giants
8.Rachel Ray's Look+Cook-Rachel Ray
9.Nicholoas Sparks-Safe Haven
10. The Help-Kathryn Stockett
11.For colored girls who have considered suicide/when the rainbow is enuf-Ntozake Shange
12.Fannie Flagg-I still dream about you
13.James Patterson-Don't Blink
14.Jonathan Franzen-Freedom
15.Sh*t my Dad says-Justin Halpern
16.Diary of a wimpy kid do it yourself book-Jeff Kinney
I gave you an array of a mixture of topics. Please Enjoy!



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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, November 10th (Wednesday)

I am reading "The Hunger Games" books - after my 16yr old son finishes them.

Just started the first one and I was hooked by chapter 1.

My older son and I trade Stephen King and Dean Koontz books.

I also enjoyed Water for Elephants (might be too adult for a 13 yr old).

I LOVED Wally Lamb's books.


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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, November 10th (Wednesday)

It's old, but A Tree Grows In Brooklyn by Betty Smith is just absolutely fabulous.

From about.com: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn is a coming-of-age story. It's a tragic and triumphant book about Francie Nolan, as her family struggles with poverty, alcoholism, and the brutal realities of life for an Irish-American family in Brooklyn, New York City.


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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, November 11th (Thursday)

Charlaine Harris has several awesome books. Sookie Stackhouse - True Blood on HBO, but the books are so much better and not at all like the vampire porn on HBO. Sex yes, porn no. Tess Gerritson, of course John Sanford and Patricia Cornwell. If you like historical romance, Phillipa Gregory, The Other Bolyen Girl and others. And of course, Jane Austin, live Pride and Prejudice and Emma. Robin Hobb, gosh, so many...


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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, November 22nd (Monday)

I really enjoy the Sookie Stackhouse books - they're intriguing and fun reads. Much, much better than the True Blood series IMO.

The Stephanie Plum books are fun, fun reads, laugh-out-loud (literally) funny.

If you like historical mysteries, the Anne Perry books (both the Monk and Pitt series, sett in different parts of the Victorian era in England) are terrific. Anne Perry's WWI novels, which are not mysteries, are really, really good too. Margaret Frazier (Dame Frevisse) writes mysteries set in medieval England, and they are incredibly well-researched and interesting. I believe that all of these are stand-alone AND there are lots of them, so you don't have to wait impatiently for the next one until you've finished them all. Both of these authors make the time in which they are set come absolutely to life. I feel like I am there when reading these books.

Contemporary mystery: Margaret Maron (the Judge Knott books) are terrific and all are stand-alones IMO. I'm currently devouring the Inspector Gamache books by Louise Penny (set in Quebec).

Carl Hiaasen novels are not in a series, and they're really good - and funny.

Other mysteries -

Nevada Barr novels are mystery/thrillers, almost all of which are set in Nat'l Parks. Her main character is a park ranger, and Ms. Barr herself was a Nat'l Parks ranger for many years. Her descriptions of the Parks are pure poetry. Although in a series there are a bunch of them already (15?), so you have awhile until you have to wait for the next ones.

Other genre fiction (romance, horror, sci-fi, western) are all outside my "realm of expertise" LOL.

Happy reading!


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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, December 18th (Saturday)

Another funny series is the Queen Betsy books by MaryJanice Davidson. Undead and Unwed, Undead and Unemployed, etc. She is the queen of vampires, set in Minneapolis - a lot of fun!


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Default  Posted: 3:34 AM, December 19th (Sunday)

If you like mysteries, there are two good Swedish series about crime. One series starts with The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson and the earlier series: The couple originally planned the series as a sequence of ten novels collectively titled The Story of a Crime. The novels revolve around a team of police investigators led by Martin Beck.
Roseanna (Roseanna, 1965)
The Man Who Went Up in Smoke (Mannen som gick upp i rök, 1966)
The Man on the Balcony (Mannen på balkongen, 1967)
The Laughing Policeman (Den skrattande polisen, 1968) (Edgar Award, Best Novel, 1971)
The Fire Engine That Disappeared (Brandbilen som försvann, 1969)
Murder at the Savoy (Polis, polis, potatismos!, 1970)
The Abominable Man (Den vedervärdige mannen från Säffle, 1971)
The Locked Room (Det slutna rummet, 1972)
Cop Killer (Polismördaren, 1974)
The Terrorists (Terroristerna, 1975)


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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, December 20th (Monday)

Historical fiction:
The Walking Drum -- Louis Lamour (not a western, 12th century)
The Last Englishman -- Hebe Weenolsen (out of print 11th century England)


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