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Jessy1501
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, June 18th (Friday)

Just picked it up at Barnes and Noble. Anyone read it?


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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, June 18th (Friday)

I bought it recently too but haven't started it yet. I'm interested to see others comments.


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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, June 19th (Saturday)

I read it. Liked it. Not life-changing for me. But it resonated. If I had the wherewithal to just tool around the world for a year.

Just a warning, there is a pretty heavy infidelity theme at the beginning.


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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, June 20th (Sunday)

I've just started reading it, and was taken aback by the beginning; I didn't think I'd be able to relate to it, but I'm finding it parallels my life (and my some of my future, I hope) quite a bit. I've had a difficult time getting back on track with my reading, so I hope I will finish it.


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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, June 20th (Sunday)

i second groundzero. i happened to pick it up traveling solo to japan, so it's "journey" metaphor worked really well for me. it resonated, made me want a couple of years to wander around. reading it was very calming, human, a bit inspiring. it's worth a read.

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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, June 20th (Sunday)

i read it twice and liked it. Her self depreciating humor and introspection was enjoyable for me. And I related to that journey from the pits of despair to rebuilding a new more positive self identity.

It didn't occur to me from what she wrote that she was describing an affair at the beginning. It sounded like she separated from her H then got involved with someone while she was having a long drawn out difficult divorce.

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lawyergirl25
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, June 20th (Sunday)

Hated it. I didn't like the author at all - I found her to be self-indulgent and narcissistic. I thought the idea of a spiritual journey around the world to find yourself post-divorce sounded pretty cool, but I found myself struggling to take her seriously. I don't want to post any spoilers, but the first part of this review comes pretty close to summarizing how I felt reading it: http://www.worldhum.com/features/travel-books/one_mans_odyssey_into_eat_pray_love_20080211/

I read "Drink, Play, F@#k" on vacation last month. I much preferred it. The book was crass, but felt more honest.


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Jessy1501
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 21st (Monday)

Thanks for that perspective lawyergirl. If there are spoilers in that link, I won't look at it until I'm done with the book!


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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, June 21st (Monday)

It does contain spoilers - definitely form your own opinion before reading it!

And you may love the book. One of my best friends felt the same way about it that I did, but my SIL and another close friend absolutely loved it. I think it just hits people differently, as most books do.


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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, June 21st (Monday)

I loved it Jessy! I'm on my second round of reading it right now. The story is very inspiring to me. My favorite part is India.

BTW, It never actually says she had an affair, but I'm sure that's what happened.

Happy reading! I'm interested to hear your perspective!


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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, June 24th (Thursday)

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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, June 24th (Thursday)

I 3rd what lawyergirl said.
The "eat" section was the best part, for me. The rest had me .


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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, June 24th (Thursday)

I finished it on the plane coming home on Tuesday. I enjoyed it but could not say I loved it. She & I have similar perspectives on God, but it was not like looking in a mirror.

As for it being self-indulgent and like a blog, well, it was a first party narrative...


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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, June 25th (Friday)

I enjoyed the book. I also enjoyed the whole journey aspect. I will say that I can see why others felt that it had a "me-ishness" to it, but considering its in the first person narrative, it would be hard not to feel that way.
Overall it was a enjoyable, non stressful read.


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Jessy1501
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, June 25th (Friday)

I haven't been able to do any reading this week as I've been overloaded with work (and posting on SI ). But I do plan on spending a "me" day relaxing on the beach...just me and my book.


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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, June 25th (Friday)

As for it being self-indulgent and like a blog, well, it was a first party narrative...

I've read plenty of first-person narratives where the author/narrator didn't come off looking (in my opinion) like a self-absorbed jackass.

I had high expectations of this book because I had heard such glowing reviews. My SIL went as far as saying that it was her favorite book of all time and she felt it was so representive of her own spirituality. After I read it, I kind of thought, "well, that explains why we're not on the same wavelength!"


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Default  Posted: 2:24 AM, July 6th (Tuesday)

My sister in law gave me this book thinking that I might like it and relate to it. I enjoy the author's writing style but the book itself I find nauseating.

I found myself very sympathetic for her BH.


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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, July 11th (Sunday)

Bump


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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, July 11th (Sunday)

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Default  Posted: 12:07 AM, July 19th (Monday)

I sorta liked it...read it when it first came out. I just remember thinking: Must Be NICE she can just take off & travel & not worry about money--lol!

I just finished her 2nd book Committment. She's a bit more self-aware/mature in this book, but I wasn't thrilled. Not sure i really buy HER version of the history of marriage...but it had some good parts.
Again, she had time & MORE $$$$ (since her 1st book did so well) to travel/hang-out & not work for months...
A bit hard for me to relate to.


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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, July 19th (Monday)

I had planned to read it but now that I have seen the commercials for the movie I have abandoned that plan. I despise Julia Roberts and now her horse face is in my mind and I can't even think of reading the book or seeing the movie.


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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, July 19th (Monday)

I'm about 80% done with the book and I am loving every page. I can truly relate to her search for spiritual truth.

Some have questioned how she could afford it but she tells you in the beginning that her publisher paid her in advance to write this book about her journey.

But layla, I agree with you. I am so glad I didn't see the commercials for the movie before I started reading the book, that would have turned me off too.


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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, July 19th (Monday)

After hearing how much everyone loved it, I bought the book with the highest expectations.

I think she has an engaging writing style. But, I did end up a bit exasperated with it all. I know it is a memoir, and the narcissistic focus is kind of the point. But, it started to grate on my nerves.

When I read about the end of the marriage, my Theres More To This Story Than She Wants Us To Know radar went off. I had a really hard time feeling bad for her about the divorce, even without knowing the truth.

Imagine my delight to find out that her ex-husband, one Michael Cooper, has his own memoir coming out this fall. He took to the road also after the divorce. Only, I think his time abroad was a little less self-involved. And he ultimately remarried and has children now. I'm pretty sure she cheated on him. I've read some things on blog comments, written by an "anonymous" person, who defended him, and the comments sounded very believable and made me feel very sympathetic towards him. It sounds like she basically abandoned him, and he was devastated. He did receive a percentage of royalties on her first two books (that she wrote during the marriage), not because he's a sh*t like some would make him out to be (taking that poor woman's money), but because he made significant concessions to his own career so she could write the books. (Sounds fair to me.)

I think I will probably be much more sympathetic to his plight than to hers. And I'm tickled that he has found a new love and rebuilt his life.


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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, July 19th (Monday)

Oops...I forgot...

The title of his memoir is...

"Displaced"

Really!


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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, August 10th (Tuesday)

bump.

There's another thread around on this book as well that I'll try to find.


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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, August 11th (Wednesday)

I'm still working on this book. It got put on the back burner when I got my detox book...but I definitely have to finish it before I go see the movie!


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hurtinky
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, August 12th (Thursday)

Her exH has a book coming out this fall. His name is Michael Cooper, I believe. The book title is "Displaced."
It is his story of his travels after the D.

FWIW, I read in an article that he did not try to get a cut of earnings on future writing, but he did seek and get a cut of future earnings on books she wrote during the marriage. His reason: He made significant sacrifices in his own writing career to support her career. If that was the case, it seems reasonable that he should get a fair share of those earnings.

I am looking forward to reading his book.


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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, August 12th (Thursday)

I believe his book was canceled: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/07/22/eat-pray-love-ex-husbands_n_655769.html.


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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, August 12th (Thursday)

I bought the book last week and got into it but have not had time to sit and read because I've been so busy...going camping next week so maybe get some reading done then.....it's a book/movie that intrigues me so I will take the time to read it before I go see the movie...usually i'm disappointed in the movie once i've read the book (like I was with "Twilight")...they never quite capture the characters the same..but then maybe it's just my interpretation of them that's different.....


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Default  Posted: 2:41 AM, August 13th (Friday)

<<<I believe his book was canceled>>>>

Darn! I was looking forward to it.


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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, August 17th (Tuesday)

Got this book a couple months ago and I still have about 50 pages left. At the beginning I sort of felt for the author but with only 50 pages left, I feel for her ex-husband. What a self centered,narcissist. I started to feel this way when she "found" Felipe. Liked the Eat part, but started to lose her in Pray and could care less by Love. It's a gift to be able to take off and find yourself without the burdens that keep most people from making this journey. I sort of thought she was a person who jumped from self help group to self help group. OMG, I'm on the SI board and I just said that.....hmmmm. Anyway, I'm reading Carl Hisssen's new book and finishing up the Steig Larsson trilogy. Love Lisbeth and think that Blomqvist is like every middle aged man's wet dream. I will get those final pages of EPL read this week, though. Have never been able to not finish a book, it must be some sort of OCD. I even finished Middlemarch which was a real feat.

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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, August 17th (Tuesday)

I like how she talks to God. And He (she?) talks back.

I'm interested in that.

Am still on Eat. I really am interested in the language thing and her anecdotes about Italian and the culture are intriguing. I love the art of doing nothing. I understand why it's difficult to relax and be. To know what joy is.

I'm all for exploring joy.

pleasure and joy are not the same thing, but I think sometimes you have to start where you are.

I think the idea of not having an identity apart from a man is something a lot of women experience and not many women really face it. I think it is good she is trying. The selfish narcissistic thing... well, she's kind of going for raw, honest and if I am honest? many times I know I'm narcissistic and selfish and immature more than I care to admit. But saying it, getting it on the page has been a big huge part of facing it and changing. I know it is changing as I grow... but my mid thirties? oh she is light years from me then. and growing. that is the big thing, is she growing? I think she is. Either way, it took kahunas to put herself out there. Without anonymity.

would dwelling on self-hatred have been helpful? because she does wrestle with it. Thats what despair and loneliness are. where they come from. I'm finding it more interesting, the things she leaves out..than the things she says.

really enjoy her sense of the absurd. The blog the dude wrote, the review... read it, understand it... kind of see the point, maybe he is right, but ...well. He's still a dude.

I like anyone who is honest, or trying really hard to be honest. Tend to. I've found this worth it so far. may hate it when she goes to India. dunno.


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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, August 17th (Tuesday)

I haven't been able to read the whole book...Im still in Italy...

What I took from the beginning is that she felt trapped in the marriage. It wasn't working for her and it DID blindside her now ex-h. But having an a? From my point of view, if one is in the middle of a divorce and at that time begins having a relationship its not an affair, though possibly not a good idea as the person divorcing is still emotional.

Trust me, this woman is far from being self absorbed. She has a very calming demeanor.

And she DOES work besides write.

Just as all books, its all in the interpretation of the reader. Some will like it, some will not like it...or even hate it.

Im not one to see movies made on books because every time I have, the movie was a let down.

So far I like the book. Just my preference.

I, too, would like to be able to travel freely. I guess I have to do it through someone else's experiences


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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, August 17th (Tuesday)

Darn, I was looking forward to reading his book as well.

I actually just finished Eat (Italy). I know, it's taking me forever, but I keep getting sidetracked. I'm very much enjoying the book. I do like her approach.


I like how she talks to God
Maia, I like it as well. I felt I could very much relate to that moment of complete and utter desperation where you breakdown and don't really know what else to do...but turn to God. And actually *speak* to God. Not just to say a prayer and be on your way.

Hopefully I will enjoy the rest of the book as well (since some of the comments about it don't seem too promising). I'll keep you updated!


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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, August 18th (Wednesday)

I loved the book. I was a little disappointed in the ending, but understood it. I just saw the movie and really liked it. I rarely see a movie after I read a book because the movies are such disappointments. But this movie wasn't disappointing at all. They did a very good job. Of course, the food and scenery were amazing.

I didn't see her as any more self absorbed than any of us who were/are in a difficult relationship. These things take time to work out. And anyone who has been through a breakup and isn't self-absorbed, imho, wasn't really "in" the relationship.


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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 18th (Wednesday)

I saw the movie yesterday. I loved the book. The movie was not as good as the book (of course), but I liked it.

I am not a big Julia Roberts fan but I enjoyed her in this.

I agree with Skye, I think the character worked through her stuff the way she needed to. I think she was honest about herself, her faults, etc. I liked the messages in the book and movie.


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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, August 18th (Wednesday)

I am reading it for the third time. I refer to parts of it often. It is dogeared.

Some quotes I love:

Happy thoughts make me happy, but - whoop - how quickly I swing again into obsessive worry, blowing the mood; and then it's the remembrance of an angry moment and I star to get hot and pissed off all over again; and then my mind decides it might be a good time to start feeling sorry for itself, and loneliness follows promptly. You are, after all, what you think. Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions."

"I see marriage as an operation that sews two people together, and divorce is a kind of amputation that can take a long time to heal. The longer you were married, or the rougher the amputation, the harder it is to recover."

And my very favorite. I referred to this quote over and over as I went through my separation/divorce:

So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, and then drop it. You're just afraid to let go of the last bits of David because then you'll really be alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen if she's really alone. but here's what you gotta understand, Groceries. If you clear out all that space in your mind that you're using right now to obsess about this guy, you'll have a vacuum there, and open spot--a door-way. And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in--God will rush in--and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go."

Enjoy the book.

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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, August 19th (Thursday)

I loved the book. I'm planning on seeing the movie this weekend. The book has inspired me to try and find myself again. even though I can't go running off to Italy, etc. At least not yet. But I am up for my own journey.


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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, August 25th (Wednesday)

I liked the book.
The movie in my opinion she seemed like a remorseful WS and her XH acted like a BS.
The movie said she got involved with actor guy after filing for divorce and after the marriage was over, who knows.

Too bad about Cooper's book I would have liked to have read his story.


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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, August 25th (Wednesday)

One more thing: the men in the movie were all smokin hot!

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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, August 27th (Friday)

I read the book while I was still M. And then when all the Inf / D / S shit hit the fan I re-read it. And I just saw the movie tonight with my mom.

I like the book and the movie. I'm not a big Julia fan but she was fine in this role.

I enjoyed watching a movie about a woman going on her own adventure, taking a break to allow her brain room after being in relationship after realtionship. And I related so much to all the pain and difficulty there is in actually having time and space to be with yourself when you are at the nadir of your life.

sure she was self absorbed because she was healing and it was a memoir type book. she also contributed to communal life in the ashram by scrubbing floors, and she helped buy a house for the Balinese healer. So while she was working on her stuff she also did caring things for others.

I never got the sense that she was a WS either from book or movie. She did bail on her marriage.

I liked the way the movie tried to depict the process of forgiving yourself and letting go of others in the past you loved but can't be with.

I liked how she identified the core truth as 'God dwells within you as you' which tied her initial conversation with God as if he is someone out there to - as she progresses - the real sense that the kingdom of God is within.

So few movies handle these type of themes that I found it refreshing. And I related to her story so much even tho I haven't traveled physically as I healed like she did.


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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, August 28th (Saturday)

I read the book a couple of years ago. Liked it but didn't love love it.

Just saw the movie and feel kind of sad. Perhaps jealous.
That after less than a year she winds up with some gorgeous sensitive man. And 4 years later I don't feel anywhere ready for a gorgeous sensitive man. Or a cute sensitive one... And sad that it had to end with a man too. Like that completes it.

To me, a year is still so quick. She was alone less than a year evidently. That's not much time. I guess she wasn't really putting her self back together from infidelity though. Just a general malaise and discomfort from a that evidently felt empty for her--but was so privledged. (sp) And then she went on to find wholeness through privledge...


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Me, BS 43
Him, WS 50
Her, OG (Guess she is 27 or 28 now! 19-21 at the time...)
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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, August 31st (Tuesday)

To each their own. My take on the book is that she was (maybe still is) at a very self centric, perhaps even narcissistic phase of being. I love to travel, and did after I found out about the infidelity... and did the Italy thing, and SE Asia thing too. But my travels included my kids for part of it: really wanting to show them what was important to me in the world (art, good food, other cultures, foreign languages and our family back ground). Kind of a different focus. In truth, I felt like she was young, and going through her own stuff, that I went through well before I was married. So, it was kind of difficult to relate.

Ironic though that OW gave it to my (now ex) husband, to give to me (I had all ready read the book at that point). Do not, and did not, know what to make of that gesture.


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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, September 1st (Wednesday)

Ironic though that OW gave it to my (now ex) husband, to give to me (I had all ready read the book at that point). Do not, and did not, know what to make of that gesture.

Eeeeks! That's a yucky gesture. I have ideas about the msg but don't want to dignify it with another thought!

Someone's sig line comes to mind: "You can lead a horiticulture but you can't make her think"


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5798 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
RKinok
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, September 7th (Tuesday)

I loved this book. Found it inspirational and calming. I want to go and live in Bali and sit on the porch with Ketut and ride a bike quietly through the lush, beautiful landscape and live in that house with Felipe....


Certain thoughts are prayers. There are moments when, whatever be the posture of the body, the soul is on its knees. --Victor Hugo

Posts: 71 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: oklahoma
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