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tooexhausted
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, August 7th (Saturday)

I am a 58 year old woman, divorced for 2 years now. XH was a serial philanderer. During the past 2 years I’ve been going to IC and have become very happy with myself. I was at the point of being alone, but not lonely, and embracing my life.

Lo and behold, I am now dating a wonderful man. He is grounded, no significant FOO issues, has custody of his 2 children (teenagers) who absolutely adore him.

Are there any good books out there addressing the issue of how to maintain “healthy” relationships? Through IC, I am working hard on trust issues, not only because of the activities of my XH but because I grew up in an alcoholic family. I did not cause my XH’s infidelities, but I realize now my contributions to the “unhealthy” aspects of my marriage.

Just trying to continue my growth. And also learn how to make the most of my new relationship which shows much promise.

Thanks in advance!!


Posts: 898 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Living in the moment
notasaint
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Member # 28465
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, August 7th (Saturday)

Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Les and Leslie Parrot. Loved it and the workbooks!!!

Good luck, sounds like you're on a great path :)


Me - BW 36
Him - FWH 38 SLA (newlywednupset)
M < 1 year
D-days 8/2009 and 4/2010 TT to 10/2010
3 OW over the course of 2 years, all older, one married.
* My husband was in an open relationship from day one, he just failed to tell ME this.*

Posts: 1048 | Registered: May 2010 | From: FL
mellowmood
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Member # 2097
Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, August 8th (Sunday)

I second that. I went to the Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts workshop and it was excellent.

Posts: 2755 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: oceanside, calif.
Helen of Troy
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Member # 26419
Target  Posted: 9:14 AM, August 13th (Friday)

Read Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.It's not really about being literally naked. It was suggested here. I borrowed it from the library but will definitely be buying a copy!
Excellent read.

Posts: 4719 | Registered: Dec 2009
InnerLight
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Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, August 14th (Saturday)

How to Be An Adult in Relationship by David Riccho

I think that's the right author. He's a great mix of Bhuddism mindfulness and psychology. This is what I'd like to have in my next relationship.....


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5872 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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