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mellowmood
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, August 28th (Saturday)

One that I read is Night, by Elie Wiesel. My son had to read it in highschool, and then I picked it up and read it.

I know it is important to never forget those times, but it still haunts me to this day. And I read it 15 years ago.


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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, August 28th (Saturday)

Before I got older and wiser, I would always finish a book. I can't say I ever wish I could unread a book, but I did wonder why I wasted my time. Now I give a book 100 pages and if I don't like it, I close it and return it to the library.

I remember reading "Night" a very long time ago. I think the fact that it has stayed with you so long is indicative of how good a book it really was. While it may haunt you, as you said, it is important to never forget those times.


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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, August 28th (Saturday)

Usually it's movies for me.

I'd have to say Torn Asunder though. I refuse to take ANY blame for this mess I'm on here for.


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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, December 21st (Tuesday)

Bungalow 13 by Danielle Steele. Horrible, Horrible, horrible...No idea why i continued to waste my time. I don't even think SHE actually wrote it.



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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, December 21st (Tuesday)

Once when trapped in the car for hours with only my W's book, I read something by Laurell K. Hamilton. OMG. Horrible. Terrible terrible terrible. It was during the "Anita Blake must have sex 300 times per day in order to survive" phase, and it was stupid and awful. I understand from W and others that her earlier Anita Blake books are much better. Alas, that one was so ghastly that I have no desire to try any more of them.

Terrible.

I apologize to all the Anita Blake/Laurell K. Hamilton fans out there.

ETA: I thought the idea of short-term revival of dead people to testify in trials was a really cool idea, though.

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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, December 21st (Tuesday)

Now that is one thing I never regret, reading a book!

Although I will say Beach Music by Pat Conroy made me feel angry and emotionally manipulated. It was stylistically a strong novel, but I just didn't TRUST Conroy, if you KWIM.

And Nicholas Sparks, awful, sappy, sentimental TRASH that I actually did stop reading. If I recall, I threw that book across the room! Blech!

Other than that, I can't think of any books I wish I hadn't read. And I'm glad to have the cultural experience of them, anyway. Is that weird?


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Default  Posted: 4:12 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Eighteen Acres by Nicolle Wallace.

It was about the first female president which, in itself, sounded interesting.

However, the way infidelity was handled in th story was absolutely ridiculous. Laughable, even.

The book was poorly written, overall. Complete dreck.


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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Now I give a book 100 pages and if I don't like it, I close it and return it to the library.
That just covers the opening paragraph describing the forest in Ivanhoe.


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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

It was during the "Anita Blake must have sex 300 times per day in order to survive" phase, and it was stupid and awful.
I do not have the words to describe how much I hate Anita Blake. Worse than this is the phase where she spends all that time *negotiating* about sex. Page after page of talking about how when everybody has group sex who gets to lie between who and touch what and how, and why exactly is this unimpressive unfunny mortal bitch calling all the shots? One would think that 500 year old vampires would not have to *ask this bitch's permission* to fuck somebody they were fucking for 475 years before they even MET THIS BITCH.

I swear if it weren't for Asher and his Husky-blue eyes and his beautifully disfigured gorgeousness and the faint hope that someday someone will hire Edward to kill Anita and he'll succeed I would burn down her publishing house. As it is I do not read them anymore but keep my ear to the ground just in case Edward takes her out.

It is kind of hilarious that her idea of character differentiation amongst the dozens of guys in her harem is just a matrix of height, hair color, and eye color. I think she must keep a spreadsheet. Have I used 5'10, mahogany, and emerald green together yet? No? BRAND NEW UNIQUE CHARACTER! Then you get to her Merry Gentry books where the men are all fae or various gods and she hits upon the brilliant idea of having *concentric irises*. So now we get much more *complicated* eyes. Deep, deep, I know.


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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

For me, it's Wicked I thought the story could have been told so much better than it was. I was so disappointed.

I've been having a lot of trouble reading the self-help books that I see recommended here on SI; not that they are not helpful, but it seems that the authors take 5x as long to make their point as is needed. The books would be much shorter (and I guess make less money for them) but they'd at least be succinct.

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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Allison Weir's Captive Queen. I made it to page 100-ish. Holy cow, what a cluster. I really enjoy her histories and historical biographies. But this? Historical fiction mangled to read like some paperback bodice-ripper. Sweet baby Gertrude.

I actually was angry at the book. It's on the shelf right now, next to the fireplace. I plan to burn it.


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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Thomas Harris' novel "Red Dragon

I thought this was so evil I threw it in the trash. I didn't even want it in my house.


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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

The Midnight Road by Tom Piccirilli.

God Lord what a mess of a book.

Since I sell books for a living I try to read a little bit of everything so I can honestly recommend things to customers.

This books was just nuts.
The character was nuts, the plot was nuts, the author is obviously nuts and at the end I decided I was nuts for reading the darn thing.


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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

I am sure I am going to get crucified for this... but any of the Twilight saga.

I tried. I really, really tried. But it was such trash, poorly written, obvious, etc. I just couldn't do it. In fact, I was angry when I put the book down and wanted to be reimbursed for my time.

Much like I felt after leaving the movie "Joe vs. the Volcano."


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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Stroppy, Stephanie Meyers' writing was crap, although I thought her characters were more interesting than her awful writing style deserved. That said, it improved somewhat as she kept writing long books. Her depiction of depression in the second book was actually pretty good - sounded like she'd been there herself.

And the last of the Twilight books I flat-out hated.

LadyV, I thought Anita Blake was a real bitch too. And I got freaked out at how all the guys she wanted to screw had hair down to their butts. All of them? Had the same hairstyle? Just weird.


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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

I am guilty of always finishing a book too.
I always think it will get better.

The worst book I ever read I truly do not remember the name bc I have blocked it out.
One I do remember hating was Jonathan Franzen's the Corrections. There was so much talk about it when it came out and I thought it was awful.


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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Oh, and I always finish a book.

If it gets intolerable I will skim the last part of it but I HAVE to finish it.


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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Pretty much half of the books I had to read in English classes for Jr. High and High School. Oh wait, I didn't actually read most of them.

To this day I have no idea what The Stone Angel was about, or if I even read it, but I somehow managed a passing grade on the essay.

I honestly believe that school took the joy out of reading.


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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

Flowers in the Attic. I was forbidden to read this book as a teen and therefore, being a teen, it was the very next book I got my hands on and read by flashlight in the middle of the night... and I hated every bit of it.


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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

I am an "always finish the book" person, but truly the Alison Weir one was too bad.

Books that seriously impacted me in some way that I wish I'd never read... I've been thinking about this. Lord of the Flies tops the list. I honestly didn't see anything redeeming in it as a student when I had to read it, and I see less in it now as an adult. I had Piggy-related nightmares for a long while, and it didn't really add anything to what I already knew and understood about human nature.

I can't really think of any other books, so I guess there's not really a list to top.

I'm going to go start a t/j thread on "Books you wish you could re-read if only you knew the author/title." This will be a totally self-serving thread because I have a couple different ones that are driving me bonkers.


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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, December 22nd (Wednesday)

"The Lovely Bones" comes to mind. The first 1/3 was riveting but I don't know if I've ever read a book that wasted so much promise.

Thomas Harris' novel "Red Dragon

I thought this was so evil I threw it in the trash. I didn't even want it in my house.

My mom did the exact same thing, in dramatic style, when I was a kid. She went outside in the middle of a snowstorm to put the book in the car because she didn't want it in our house.


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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, December 23rd (Thursday)

I'll contribute two acclaimed works by two acclaimed authors that I started and just was not physically capable of finishing.

The Fall of Hyperion. I made it through Hyperion, but I just could not hang in there for very long into FoH.

The Shadow of the Torturer. I made it a few chapters and had to stop.

Both of these are remarkable and important works by remarkable and important authors, but I have isolated my issues to each combining religiosity (specifically Catholic in each) with extreme pain and suffering. It's like my body physically rejects my mind processing such things. It hurts me and makes me stop. My *skin* hurt.

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Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, December 23rd (Thursday)

Diana Gabaldon's Outlander.

Simple trash with a fancy setting. I felt I was reading snuff porn after awhile. I lost all respect for the friend who recommended it. It's basically third-rate Harry Potter for middle-aged women.


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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, December 23rd (Thursday)

I know a lot of people love them, but I did not dig all the Jodi Piccoult books. Particularly "My Sister's Keeper." It felt like I was reading an After School Special.

And I know it was critically acclaimed and all, but I did not like "The Life of Pi." Granted, I was reading it for book club and I was about 5 days postpartum at the time of reading, but still...


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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, December 23rd (Thursday)

any of the flowers in the attic stories.

my best friend started me on those when i was 13...and i got through 3 or 4 books...it started to feel like i was reading the same book over and over and over and over.


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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, December 23rd (Thursday)

Divorce busting. But your mileage may vary.

The last Betsy the Vampire book made me so mad I wish I could have thrown it in the lake. Fortunately it was a library book and I didn't waste money on it.


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Default  Posted: 5:42 AM, December 24th (Friday)

Right after d-day I read any book that I could get my hands on about affairs etc. This one book I can't even remember the author or the title pissed me off to no end. It was written by a female betrayed spouse and it was for the WS. Basically, it was giving the WS options on which person to pick either the WS or Op. It had little quizzes in it. It made want to puke I am gald I do not remember the title or author because it was nothing but trash.


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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, December 26th (Sunday)

Anything by Elizabeth Berg.


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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, December 26th (Sunday)

"The Lovely Bones" comes to mind. The first 1/3 was riveting but I don't know if I've ever read a book that wasted so much promise.

Completely agree, Teflon. What a bizarre, stupid ending.


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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, December 26th (Sunday)

The "Left Behind" series. Premise is fantastic -don't we all want to know about the end of the world?-but the writing is sheer dreck. Got through about 3 of them before I gave up.

And I agree that many of the self help books could have been magazine articles. Love and Respect being the worst offender IMO. The thesis is presented about 4 gazillion ways.


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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, December 26th (Sunday)

Mellowmood,
One that I read is Night, by Elie Wiesel. I know it is important to never forget those times, but it still haunts me to this day. And I read it 15 years ago.

Agreed, even tho I haven't read it. Those horrible historical reads are usually on my "need to read" list but I can't bring myself to muster the desire to crack the book. Why? Not because I don't care but because it haunts me already and I have not even gone into the horrible details. I just don't like reading about true evil in detail because it frightens me, I internalize it and can't brush it off. It lingers in my soul.


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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, December 26th (Sunday)

Have to second Thren on Lord of the Flies. I *hated* that book. Had it as a reading assignment in HS, got about two chapters into it and told my English teacher it was so boring it would put an insomniac to sleep. Never did finish it I don't think.

Another one on the "I wish I could unread/boring" list is a book by Helen Hooven Santmeyer. And Ladies of the Club. I got about half way through it and kept thinking the entire time "Okay, when is something going to happen???" I found it drier than the Sahara in high summer.... during a drought. It was like the whole book was an introduction to the actual story.


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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, December 26th (Sunday)

There are a lot of books I wish I could un-read so that I could have the pleasure of reading them again for the first time.

However I just finished a book last night that was supremely awful. I joylessly slogged through Song Yet Sung by James McBride to the end. Probably it was morbid fascination because I couldn't believe how terrible it was.

At one point, there was a sentence "The ring of the blacksmith's hammer rang out across the square."

In another place, it reads something like "Bob stood grinning in the doorway. When Kathy looked up, he broke into a grin" He was already grinning. Who edits these things?


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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, December 26th (Sunday)

I wish I could unread every single book I have read about infidelity because I shouldn't have been stupid enough in the first place to put myself in this abhorrent situation.

@aesir: I loved every single book I was assigned to read in junior high and high school. Maybe it's my age group (60)-- quite a classical education.


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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, December 28th (Tuesday)

Thomas Harris' novel "Red Dragon

That is one of the two books that have given me nightmares. It's one of my favorite books.

"Tiger Eyes" by Judy Blume was forced on me in the 8th Grade. What sort of evil requires a middle school boy to read such a book.

"The Last Templar" was written by someone who was obviously angling for a movie deal. And then I discovered it became "An NBC Mini-Series Event!" So he got what he wanted and made $8 off of me.


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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, December 28th (Tuesday)

Battlefield Earth - L Ron Hubbard.
Hours of my life I can never get back...ugh!


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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, December 28th (Tuesday)

Have to say that "Running with Scissors" has scarred me. I am not a prude, but some of the visuals...Ugh!!! (Though it did make me feel MUCH better about my parenting job!)


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Default  Posted: 12:26 AM, December 30th (Thursday)

Catcher in the Rye - I know this makes me a weirdo - but I just got tired of all of that whinning. Stop whinning, Holden - you baby!!

After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring - Was recommended by our MC - it had some ok ideas - but the fact that she calls the AP 'the lover' througout the whole book just really chapped my hide. Because you know as the BS I was never my H's lover, right?

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Default  Posted: 4:41 AM, December 30th (Thursday)

The Lovely Bones - ugh. I agree with formerlyteflon, it could have been a good book, but the author seemed to just get lost in her own plot somehow.

This next book I don't regret reading though I did as soon as I had finished it.
I read The Exorcist about 30years ago, I mainly read it in bed at night. I probably read it in two nights. After finishing the boook, I turned off the light and settled down to sleep. Almost imediately I sat back up and put the light on I was a little scared


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Default  Posted: 4:48 AM, December 30th (Thursday)

The Time Traveler's Wife is another that was amazing allll the way through till it...wasn't.


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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, December 30th (Thursday)

I'm not a Time Traveler's Wife fan either.

It took me a while to get through. It's one of the few books that I wish I would have read something else.


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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, December 30th (Thursday)

If a book doesn't GRAB me right away, I don't read the rest.

Have no problem with it.

But I did get the free Kindle version of Outlander--well, the history part was fascinating, loved the time travel aspect and the comparison of the two different times in history, BUT THE SEX--geez louise--not even interesting, way too sappy, weird.


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